Today is my birthday and my husband forgot. am i wrong for being upset?

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ERICKSMAMA	He might be having a surprise or something..and wanted you to be mad then once you found out about the surprise you would love him more...( I hope thats what it is) Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

teresathegreat	It's pretty rude of him to forget and not do anything. Maybe he's planning a huge surprise for tonight and is trying to mislead you for now? That's the best-case scenario here. Or maybe birthdays just aren't a big deal in his family, and he doesn't realize that it is a big deal to you. You need to sit him down and calmly tell him that ocassions like birthdays, anniversaries, and holidays are very important to you, and you feel they should be celebrated with (gifts, flowers, parties, etc). Give him a list of which dates are important to you and encourage him to remember/calendar these events. You can ask him why these events aren't a big deal to him, and try to understand it from his point of view, but regardless, he should be willing to to treat them with respect once he knows it's important to you, for no other reason than it IS important to you. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

xoxox	maybe he has a suprise for you for later. as in a party or something. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

H	Cry if it will make you feel better . This is a typical guy thing. We don't put much effort into remembering important dates. This is not an excuse for being inconsiderate, just an explanation as to why were are sometimes inconsiderate. Happy Birthday! Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

Paula80	no you are not wrong for being upset. you have every right to be upset ....he is your husband he should be the first in line with plans too either go out to dinner , movie , flowers, chocolates, gifts, etc., ETC., etc., ---->>>>i had a husband like that who thought b-days meant nothing when in fact they mean a a whole lot ---->>>to make things short I AM HAPPILY DIVORCED AND LOVING IT....... Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

American Beauty	Some men remember every birthday and every anniversary. These guys are at a premium, because most men do not. Instead of crying about this, call the florist and order yourself some flowers, using your husband's credit card. If you don't have credit cards, pay for the flowers and send your man the bill. When the flowers are delivered, give your husband a big hug and thank him for the beautiful flowers. If you don't like flowers, buy yourself something else you want and follow the same procedure above. Sometimes, you have to put away the tears and be a woman, girlfriend! Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

kissmeagainnow	No your not wrong for being upset, but you have to realise if he doesn't have a secratary to remind him of it THEY all forget at times either Anniversary or birthdays. It's not on purpose, they just truly don't remember. That's why everyone should be like me. I married a man who has the same exact birthday as me just a year older lol He can never forget my birthday lol He better not or we have to see a DR. Lol Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

skylark455st2	I wouldn't have said anything. He may have had something planned for later and wanted it to be asurprise. You'll know later if he had something noce planned, and you can tell if he just threw something together. Don't cry, my fiance woke up the morning of my bday and didn't say a word, actually gave me a list of things he would like for me to do after work. I went to work cursing him and vowed to forget his birthday. Then the flowers arrived, and I felt bad, the balloons arrived and I felt worse, I came home from running the errands he asked me to run and found the house full of friends and family. Wait and see, he might not be a schmuck, he might be trying to surprise you. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

presleygirl	Don't cry, it isn't so uncommon. a LOT OF MEN JUST DO NOT GET IT--the day isnt over yet--tell him to get dressed and you 2 are goin out to eat, in celebration of your birthday, or take him to the mall tonight and tell him what you want, then just stand there. Train him. Many men will give their life for you, but they don't know how to find a store and purchase an item or even flowers. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

tHEwISE	Maybe he's got a surprise for you later. Does he know you're upset? Otherwise, there is no excuse. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

writenimage	I would say hold off on anger. He may think he is being cute and actually has something planned for you for later. if thats not the case then by all means, you should be upset. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

Candidus	I think you're reacting too much. Your feelings are hurt, but limit your reaction. Wait until it is HIS birthday and simply forget to remember it, just like he did to you. I think that would be appropriate. (And if he says, "Hey, it's my birthday! Would you like to go out to eat?" Refuse and don't give any explanation for it.) Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

JENNIFER C	Happy Birthday, I hope your day gets better Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

firestuff32	HAPPY BIRTHDAY!!!! :) well if that would happen to me i would just go to him and tell him how i feel. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

♥Mrs. Condra♥	girl you know what you need to do. see let's wait til his birthday. put laxatives in his cake. tell him you loved him so much that you made him his own cake. OKAY and for tonight. don't cry. GIRL DONT CRY! he's your husband and all, but you still got you and your friends. go out to eat with your girls. HAVE FUN! ladies night out!!! let him make his own dinner. this is your night. birthdays only come every 365 days, so live this one up. don't cry. PLEASE DONT LET HIM WRECK THIS! HE'LL FEEL BAD ENOUGH ONCE YOU LEAVE! lol i was just playing about the laxatives BUT if you like the idea, go ahead. he won't die. he'll just spend his birthday in the bathroom lol. God Bless~B Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

kullsands	NO. unless you fell their is good reason to be. when it is my birthday i do not give anyone a chance to forget i let them no ahead of time. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

hiphopdnzr	you have the right to be upset. your husband should forget your birthday! maybe hes tricking you for a surprise party? who knows. dont get your hopes up though cause he may have really forgot... Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

rjmsgrl	You need to talk to him, let him know that it hurt when he missed your birthday, make him get off his butt and take you out. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

cvcastrejon	Maybe he is planning something for tonight Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

BeLiZe Gyal	You should be upset IF he doesn't get you anything..BUT-Today isn't over- maybe he will surprise you. Wait.... Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

Texas Happy Horn	The day is not over yet. Who knows what he might have planned for you. Don't be upset quite yet. You possibly could have a huge surprise later in the day or night. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

Anne	Kick his ***! I would go out and buy myself the best birthday gift I've ever had, and use his credit card. Then I would make a mess in the house and insist he clean it up. Go out with my friends and not invite him, but tell him about the great time I had when I got home. Then remind him with tears on every holiday and birthday (including friends, relatives and celebrities) until he breaks. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

Penny Lane B2B 07/18/09	Maybe he has a bigger surprise in store for you. He might not have forgotten. The days not over. Don't worry, I'm pretty sure he still loves you and besides, you'll have more birthdays. And Happy Birthday! Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

puddingirl	I don't know, maybe he's like my husband. Everybody in his family doesn't make a big fuss over b-days. But if this is out of the norm for him, then maybe there is another underlying problem somewhere. Tell him how you feel, keep the communication lines open. DON"T hold any anger! By the way...HAPPY BIRTHDAY!!!!!! Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

upnorthguy	tell him how you feel. Don't avoid the situation, if he hurt you by forgetting then you need to tell him and work it out. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

Snikkiti	Well, being upset is only going to ruin your day even more. Forgive him and move on, next year buy a big calendar and place it in a well traveled area of your home and mark it on there very boldly. Happy Birthday! Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

TedEx	Lay a guilt trip on him, suggest he take you out for a nice dinner and a movie., oh. and some flowerswould be nice.. ((Ask my wife--it works)) If I may, Happy Birthday! Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

harvomatic7	Kick his butt. We husbands can be insensitive moronic jerks sometimes. Sorry for your day, I hope it gets better. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

ohmy	tell him how you feel, any ways he maybe planing something big the day is not over yet Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

Ross	Thats pretty crappy...make sure to wait until the end of the day, maybe he is surprising you? If not, bust his *** for it. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

travelingirl005	Now wait a minute...I hear everyone say bust his butt or maybe he has something planned......he could however Why is he so tired....is there a reason...is he sick or really working a lot of hours at work are funds low??? How long have you been married? Is this a first time offense? No one is perfect...however I would tell him it did hurt...would I argue or get really angry....forgive and forget.... Some Men need friendly reminders....Like post it notes on the fridge...10 days till I am 30...Or little hints like >>would you mind if we did this for my birthday.... Remember marriage takes two....my hubby has CRS...and He does remember, however it maybe the day before or on the day .... We've been married 20 years and I couldn't begin to count the wonderful things he does for me and all of them aren't materialistic items either.... Don't get him so angry that he will frown upon any celebration that involves the two of you.....or will shy away from them... Best wishes and HAPPY BIRTHDAY! Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No