Should I tell my husband I had an affair?

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sliplovin66	You should have never married him in the first place if you cant respect the vows of marriage. Did you even stop to think of what something like this does to a person who loves you? Do you have any idea the rage that this creates when you do this to someone that loves you? You should ended the marraige first before you start ******* someone else. But I guess you probably wanted to test the water first, just in case you didn't like him. You know, so you can always go back to your husband who doesn't know anyway, right. Women wonder why men don't want to get married. This is why. I lost my house and everything after my wife of 18 years decided she didn't want to abide by the rules anymore. She not only cheated on me, but she got knocked up too. I did everything I possibly could for her and her career for those 18 years and this is the thanks I get. I had more opportunities than god to cheat on her and I never once thought about it, because I respected our vows. The same vows that she drilled into my head once a month for 18 years and then look who cheated. Every marriage has its ups and downs. You have to want to get through them. If you don't. DONT GET MARRIED! She could have divorced me first if she felt that way. But like I said. If it didn't work out for her, she could alway fall back on me, right? After all, I'm no one special, right? Why would I care? I don't have feelings. Who really cares about me anyway, right? Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

mrs_endless	You need to divorce your husband, and you need to apologize to your husband for doing this to him....you obviously don't love him or you would have never cheated on him your the guy you were seeing when you took a break from one another. You just proved yourself to not be the marrying type. You have no self respect, so therefore you respect no one else....you need to move on so that you can sleep with every tom, dick and harry you can. Just don't get married again...you have already proven that you are not trust worthy. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

daydreamer2	It depends on if you want your marriage to survive. If you are completely through with this affair, and feel great remorse over it, and if you don't think there is a chance your husband will find out from another source, then I would say NO, do not tell him. It won't ease your guilt, but it will devastate your husband. What benefit would come from hurting him so deeply? You won't relieve the guilt, if, in fact, you feel any. It will be something you will have to live with. But, I do hope that you ask God to forgive you and promise yourself, your husband, and God, in your mind and heart, that you will never make that mistake again, and just work on being the best wife that you can be. You do feel remorse, right? Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

Special Ethel	usually I would say no...but you have only been married 8 months and you are already having affairs? That just isn't right, do yourself and him a favor, tell him and don't pull that I won't ever do it again crap because you will and he deserves better than that type of treatment. Try keeping your pants on and have a little respect for him and yourself. Hopefully he can get the marriage annulled! Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

Justcurious89	WHAT YOU CHEATED ON ME?!?!?! Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

presleygirl	you have a big problem, it is you, and as long as he has you around--he has a problem too, OFF COURSE TELL HIM! SHOULD YOU BE ADULTEROUS AND DECEITFUL! or are you going to wait until someone else tells him and the guy slaps you so you can call the cops on him!! why not you sound low enough. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

Sir Hard & Thick	first you say you had an affair, then you said you were on a break, so if your on a break then how is that cheating? unless there is some way for him to find out other than your big mouth, then don't say a word. the guilt you carry around is your burden for cheating. don't make it your husbands as well. and possibly ruin your marriage, just keep your panties on when strangers are around! Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

crazy_sad_songs	Yes!! And I hope he leaves you for being a LOSER, CHEATING WIFE!!!!!! Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

kyle t	Yeah get it over with 8 months and on the rocks, might as well end it now. Make sure you have a Police escort when you tell him too. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

kathernva	If I was you, I wouldnt tell him. Just make sure the affair is over and you dont dont do it again. You just got marry with him and if you really love him you shouldnt do stuff that would hurt him. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

banche	I think secretly you probably wanted the marriage to fail. Otherwise you wouldn't have been doing what you were doing. Don't string your husband along. The sooner he knows the better. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

The Sylvan Wizard	You should have never got married you miserable little Ho! What were you thinking? You just wanted the fancy ceremony and dress and nice the big ring? WTF is your problem? Your marriage is over and is not a marriage in my book. Do HIM a favor and get the marriage anulled. You had no business cheating let alone getting married. You should have married the other Dick since you apparently preferred him over the guy whose heart you are (gonna) break(ing). I hate people like you. Especially one that cheats so quick. If I had a way to tell your Husband, I would do it myself, cause chances are you won't tell him. You have heaped coals upon your head. I wish you great misery and unhappiness for being so cavalier and irresponisble for what you have done. Best to end the marriage so you can remain a liar and go bed down with whom you want. You are a perfect example as to why not just anyone should be allowed to get married. You obviously don't have any scruples, and I wouldn'tr trust you as far as I can throw my Pick-Up truck. And, no one else should trust you. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

puticat	Do you love your husband? You just said the vows. You are still in a honeymoon stage. What happened? How could another man be in your life that long - 3 months. Oh my, you need therapy. Check yourself and ask yourself this question. If I love my husband so much enough to say "I do" then why did I need another man to hold me? So, my advice don't tell him, seek help, don't do it again. If you plan on doing it again in the future, I suggest you get a divorce!!!! That man deserve a faithful wife! Would you like your husband to tell you that he cheated on you for 3 months???? Be true to yourself, girl! Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

Keith Python	If he is going to find out then tell him. If he isn't, and you are through with affairs, mark it up as a mistake and keep it quiet. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

sunshine	I wouldnt..it would only cause more problems in your marriage. some thing are better left unsaid and kept to yourself. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

Paul	My wife had an affair. I can only tell you that this affair will hurt the hell out of him...there will be an inner light that he once held for you that will be forever extinguished. There is a limit to how much a person can invest themselves in with a woman capable of this....I love my wife very much, we are going strong at 20 years, but there is a limit....I don't tell her anymore that I couldn't live without her, because now I know I can....I don't tell her that I need her, or that she lights up my world anymore, because that feeling is not there. You are in a tough spot, because there is the chance he will find out anyway...this is baggage that you will carry around for awhile, and as the man, I'm not sure I'd prefer to know. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

Been There~Done That!	Why on earth did you ever commit yourself to someone in marriage? Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

Just curious..	sounds like YOU have a decision to make...good luck! just remember this, nothing can be gained by breaking his heart...which is what you are going to do if you tell him! Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

fucose_man	If you had more invested in this marriage (say, a few years, kids) I would say to swallow it and take it to your grave. However, you were married only 5 months and had a 3 month affair??? I know nothing about your husband, but he doesn't deserve this kind of treatment. Before you ruin any more of his life let him go NOW. Give him a fast divorce, and let him find a woman who will love him. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

Hi its me again	Has he asked you if you had an affair? if not let it go and try to work on your marriage. don't call the other guy or talk to him anymore..you need to cut all ties. If you tell hubby, be prepared to for him to leave or at least the heartbreak your about to put on him. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

L!LO	AMAZING!!!!! I really hope that this is a joke--- if not, how cruel!!!! Leave him, so that he can find a woman who deserved him because that woman certainly not YOU! Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

shasta	i am sad for him. that is a terrible thing you have done...how can you look at yourself in the mirror every morning.??.. karma is bit*ch sweetheart!~ Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

A Real Bboy	Uh...why didnt you end it sooner. I agree with the first poster. Ignorance is a bliss. IF it was just a break, then you should have CUT ALL TIES WHEN THE BREAK ENDED. WOW SO YOU WENT TO YOUR WEDDING WITH ANOTHER MAN ON YOUR MIND? SHAME ON YOU. I hope your husband divorces you. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

tomcat72667	you've only been married 8 months and you've been in a 3 month affair already your a tramp get a divorce before the poor fool finds out what did you get married for??? Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

TOM	only 8 months into your marriage and your doing this?????if you don't want to lie anymore then you only have one choice,tell him,yes Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

kja63	You need to tell him. He has a right to know that you broke your marriage vows. He deserves to be happy in life and to be married to a woman of integrity. He also has the right to seek medical care for HIV/AIDS and STD testing. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

Colette B	If you have only been married 8 months and have already had an affair, you do not love him. Telling him is up to you. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

Quasimodo	Married 8 months and 1/3 of that was in bed with someone else. Nice. How quaint. Gee...it sure is nice that you don't want to lie anymore. How honorable. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

Mandi Jo	Yes you should tell him. And if he leaves you, then you deserve it. What you did was not right, and coming from the other side, it hurts like hell. You deserve to be alone... Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

floridaman39us	Do him a favor and tell him or divorce him. He deserves better than you. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

Savannah Guy	There are two correct answers to this - it depends on you. IF you do not plan to stay faithful to him NO MATTER WHAT then you must tell him and accept whatever he decides without argument. IF, and only IF, you truly are sorry, regret the cheating, and will do whatever it takes NEVER to do it again, then you should NOT tell him because it would hurt him only to make you feel better, and that's the opposite of love. Love is carrying the guilt with you until you die to save him the pain. Tough choice, good luck. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No