Should I keep this type of woman?

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Kurina K	Wow your really entwined in this big mess. This women does love you, but her taste for love is never satisfied. I think her love for you is more like lust. She loves being around you for some reason. Most likely because you are a marine and that turns on any women. I know i'd like a marine in my bed. Anyways, i think you should move on. If i were in your position i'd keep her around for just a bit longer for sex and all that cuddling, but reality is this isn't your soulmate. You shouldn't confuse love with lust for her.Your oviously a nice guy and the whole marine thing, well lets just say you won't have difficulty finding another great women. This women is wounderful except that she needs a lot of attention and love and that means more then just one person can give. If you ever stopped making love she'd probably get into an argument with you. This women can't stop herself from being unfaithful and that will not change so do not put your hopes up on her at all. Shes just too promiscuous for you and i'm not getting the feel your any type of swinger. Once you go on a few dates and catch a good lady keep your x around, as a friend of corse. Since you don't want to lose the boys you'll still get to see them. Even offer her help somtimes. Countinue to be a gentlemen and you'll make it far in life! Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

Lv Dr. 4U	Use her like she uses you; keep her until you find the right one who has the same goals and dreams you do, then drop her like it's hot! Just don't marry her or have kids with her. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

kakeydec	thats completely up to you...i know i wouldnt want to be with someone that wasnt faithful to me. Trust your instincts..do what is best for you.. only you can make the decision. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

ga_el_mi	IF I WAS YOU I WOULDN'T BE WITH HER IF SHE CAN'T BE FAITHFUL TO YOU WELL YOU ARE OUT FIGHT FOR HER TO BE SAFE THEN I DON'T THINK SHE IS WORTH IT I BET YOU CAN FIND A GOOD WOMEN TO WAIT ON YOU HAND AND FOOT IS PROBABLY JUST DOES THAT OUT OF GUILT AND THAT'S NOT RIGHT I BET YOU BOYS WILL BE BETTER OFF KNOWING THAT THEIR DAD IS HAPPY AND I KNOW THAT THE BOYS KNOW ABOUT YOUR WIFE BEING OUT WITH OTHER GUYS AND AFRAID TELL YOU. BET I WOULD SAY LET HER GO SHE IS NOT SOMEONE YOU HAVE TO LOSE SLEEP OVER. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

Dave G	You aren't crazy. This is a hard time in your life. The reason she treats you so well is because she feels a little guilty. But I think the best thing for you to do is get out and find a girl friend that you can trust. I would drop her like a hot rock. Trust me....I know you feel that you might not be able to find someone better. But you CAN! Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

april h	Oh you poor thing....There are alot of women out there who would treat you like a king and be 100% faithful. Sex is not eveerything. Even though she is nice when you are home I wouldn't want pitty niceness...I hope she is faithful for you but will you ever truly know... Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

kristen_jones1986	Hi I am a military wife myself and I personally could never be unfaithful to my husband (or significant other in your case) especailly when he was in another country fighting for our country and risking his life. I think you would be crazy to stay with someone with such little respect for you. You deserve so much more than a woman with such loose morals that she needs a f**k buddy everytime you leave for deployment. I really hope you figure things out. This is your decision to make, but try thinking of yourself and your own feelings before worrying about hers. She has betrayed you more than once she will only do it again and again. Be smart, find a good girl that will treat you well and respect you as a man and a Marine. Best of luck -Kristen Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

tmb	"... to keep her sex life active..." are you hearing what you're saying? You have wasted 15 minutes typing this question when you could have spent that 15 minutes kicking her to the curb. yes, you deserve better and yes, there are women out there who will treat you like a king because they love you, respect you and are DEVOTED to you. She is probably treating you that way because she feels guilty for the STD she given you by now. YUCK!!! I'm not trying to be crude, but get real. You deserve better than that, no matter who you are. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

Vita Privata	"great woman to enjoy life with..." how can that women enjoy life with you if you are never there? you never mentioned that you were loyal to her. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

Wanda	Maybe when you are home she treats you like a king because she feels guilty. How terrible that she has these other men in her life - your boys don't need to learn that this is acceptable. Try some counciling - maybe she has some issues that she needs to resolve that make her feel she needs these other men. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

Lisa	Try this and forgive me if I offend you. You go home one last time with every intention of continuing your marriage. You be very clear that you love her and your children and part of a marriage is being faithful. She can use all the sex toys that she wants as long as she is alone and remaining faithful to you. If she can't be faithful than to be fair and descent to you and your children by being honest with you about her intentions. No loving, faithful, hardworking husband and father ever deserves that and to stick around to watch it is a bad example for your children. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

Yner	It looks like most people say "Dump her!" She needs to be sexually fulfilled and if you are away in the marines for long periods of time, not being fulfilled can be a real problem for her. Rather than look upon her as "unfaithful", is it possible to actually see it as a positive? She seems to love you and demonstrates that when you are home so, is it possible that you could actually discuss this situation with her and let her know that if she wants to have sex with other men, while you are away, then it is okay with you. That way you give her an amount of trust that most men would never think of giving the woman they love. Can you imagine how much more she would love you as a result. Sure you might say, "Well, what if she falls in love with one of her lovers?" Who knows...anything is possible. When you release her from sexual confinement while you are away you make her life more positive because she doesn't have to feel like she is unfaithful. If a man goes to a hooker for sexual relief because his wife is away for 6 months, does that make him "unfaithful". I don't think so. I think he is doing his prostate a good turn and keeping things operating properly so that his wife and he can enjoy a prolonged sex life. Is it kind of the same in your situation? She needs release and gets it which keeps her healthy. If you support her in this then she is healthy mentally also, isn't she? The end result of your support would, more than likely, make your relationship stronger because she knows that you trust her and love her enough to allow her to be happy this way. In return she will love you more. Is it possible that, if you let her go, this way, and support her having a healthy sex life, then she might not want to see other men but will only wait for you? Maybe your only feeling trapped because you don't let her be free. If you did..then you wouldn't feel that way any more. I watched a story about a man who was married to a porn star. He loved her tons and, in fact, was on set when she was performing. He enjoyed letting her enjoy her sexuality that way. The neat thing was that they had a wonderful sex life of their own and she only had eyes for him. He was her man. Cool! Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

Sean C	Dude, you would be better off without that pain. I was deployed as you were for a year. No matter what the circumstance, I would have put my fiance out of my mind if she cheated on me. She obviously has no respect for you or what you do. There are plenty of women out there who will treat you with the respect you deserve. She smothers you with attention becaseu at the same time she doesn't want to loose yo (could it be the military benefits? probably) you know as well as I do there are chicks out there who are with teh military guys specifically for the money, they sucker them in to marriage so they can reap the benefits of it. From one fellow soldier to another, find someone else who will seriously love you for who you are and not what you can offer finacially. Adapt and overcome. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

fivefootnothing78	Here are your options: #1 - Keep her and accept her cheating ways - I mean really accept it, not bury the pain and shame you may feel, but almost embrace it because this is who she is. (however this does not set a good example for your kids - but thats another subject) #2 - Leave her, because she will never change. Is she saying you are not enough to keep her faithful? If she truly respected you and herself she would wait for you only. She is obviously being very selfish when she goes to bed with other men. I can GUARANTEE the moment she is letting this other man take what is yours - she is fully aware she is hurting you. But does she care to stop at any point? Not once, not twice - perhaps MORE than three times! I think she feels if she kisses you *** she can redeem herself in your eyes. Maybe it will work again? *My feelings are that you sound like a totally wonderful man, I LOVE that fact that you try to out do her "good deeds". I know so many women who pray for a man like that everyday. This woman you are with will ruin you and make you distrustful of other women who have done you no wrong. Perhaps she is the mother of your children, they WILL come to understand when they are old enough. I myself come from divorced parents, and I totally respect my mother for leaving my father who cheated on her as well. I still love them both so much, but as a result I have learned I am too good to let a man disrepect me like my father did my mother. I know he still feels guilt for what he did over 20 years ago, but life went on and everybody has since remarried. But my father also learned his lesson and I have the utmost respect for my mother. I hold no ill will against my father today, he is an honorable man who learned a lesson. It was a lesson to me that parents are people too. I hope you make the right decision for yourself. I wish you and your children a very Happy Holiday. (my lil' disclaimer: you may still have to kiss a lot of frogs before you find your queen, but when you do she will be worth your wait) Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

What have i become???	Find someone else...you can do so much better than this woman. You need to find someone out there who treats you like a king whether you are home or not. You can find someone who gives you support all the time not just when you're around. It might be tough to leave her but it'll be worth it when you find the special person that's actually right for you. Good Luck Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

gails_gails	There's no excuse for infidelity. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

I need your opinions	First of all, you don't need her in your life!!! She may treat you like a king when you are with her but that is not fair to you for her to be with other people when you are gone. You need someone who treats you like a king whether you are there are not...and you never did say if this was your wife or g/f but, if it is your wife, than you can get her on adultry and have custody of the kids. If it's a g/f, well, I don't really know what to say to that...it's just you need someone who is going to be faithful all the time....and if you feel trapped, you are in a bad relationship and you need to get out for your self. You need a great woman to enjoy your life with, not someone that causes you pain and misery. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

Liz	The things Love can do to a person regardless of the situation. Hope you can follow your heart and let it decide for you before you really get hurt. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

No one	First off thank you for your sacrifice of time for our country and freedom. I don't think you are crazy. I understand that she is a woman and has needs and while you are away it is hard for her as well as it is for you. She should've been faithful to you. The thing to me is there are some military marriages that have the understanding that while deployed both partners are allowed "indiscretions" so long as it is simply for the satisfaction of physical needs. Now, whether or not you two would enter into something like that is between you. The main thing is that if you love her and she is faithful when you are together you have to consider keeping her. The whole thing is up to you though. Follow your heart and do what you feel is right. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

la-la-lauren	She cheated on you THREE TIMES. I think you've answered your own question. I am sorry that you have had children with her, but you need to make the best of a bad situation. She'll probably get custody becasue she's around more than you are. Talk to a lawyer about your options, and pay extra attention to your children. Make sure they know you love them. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

Toogood	Get out... your crazy... why would you want to be with somebody that shares there body with other men while your out taking care of your business... that's not a real woman because a real woman would wait patiently for her man to come home to her... leave her alone. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

az_starshine1	After the second time I would have given up. The first time, shame on you, second time, shame on me. I understand wanting to be with your kids and they need a good male role model and a strong father, but it's not the kind of environment you want your kids growing up in. They will use your relationship with her as an example of what to expect in a relationship when they are older. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

teachersrule25	I think you should see a counselor. It that doesn't work them you need to find someone who is faithful. Pray about it. Seems to me like you really want to work it out. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

Bill	It's particularly ironic that someone named "SEMPER FI" has a wife who is anything but. Staying is not the standard response to one's wife whoring around, but I suppose if you are able to put up with it that's your call. I think you deserve better, and I suspect you think so too. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

.	get rid of her before she gives you something you can't get rid of. she will never be faithful, and you let her get away with it. WAKE UP, MARINE Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

Gray	Well, you are a Marine and you have remained with an unfaithful woman. Are you crazy? Beyond doubt. Don't worry though, I was in similar shoes once, but I lost her after the 2nd chance she screwed up. Yes, I gave her a chance to fix her issues and she messed up again. She lost my trust so I lost her... Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

Karen	You'd be better of to find someone that is faithful. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

Mongo	Get ridda' dat woman. There is better out there and you deserve better.- Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

?	Drop her like a hot potato. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

url.	get rid of her, having sex with other people is abasing to the other partner. there's no reason you should be disrespected like that. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

tayeloquin2	oh, hun...I understand that...you don't want to be a weekend dad. I don't really know what to say. Though, I think you need to look at the situation as it is.. You have kids and she's leaving them with who? Who's she sleeping with? Disease is not particular...it'll grab anyone. I don't think you're crazy, but, crazy about your kids. I think she's waiting on you 100% hand and foot to guilt you into forgiving her. With her I don't think you'll ever win. As far as feeling trapped, you need to weigh the pro's and con's of the situation, and try to see what's right for you and your kids. I have heard of people staying together after one cheats, but their relationships are never the same afterward. The trust just isn't there anymore. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No