Should I give my girlfriend an engagement ring I bought for my former girlfriend but I never gave it to her.?

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Leigh	I wouldn't. Ask yourself how she would feel if she found out you gave her the ring you bought for your ex. If she would be upset (I would) then don't do it. You could always sell the ring you have and get her another one with the money. That would save a little cash. Put a lot of thought into it and get her something unique that really matches her personality. Something you know she would like and that is only for HER! Not something you got for someone else. After all, this woman is going to be your WIFE! Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

Elana	Engagement rings are all about emotion. Its history will taint it. Sell it and buy another - even if it is of lesser value because you can't afford one of the same value. I suppose you could try to slime out and not tell her, but you can also assume that some day she will find out and then lop your head off. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

Jules	sure...as long as she never finds out that you originally bought it for your ex. Congrats by the way. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

Felicity C	Sell your ring! Or give it to your mother, who really wants it. Seriously. Give your more current girlfriend a more current choice. Or, maybe you need a ring-funding savings account, on the chance that _this_ current girlfriend too shall morph into an historical girlfriend just like the other. Would you actually want to see the ring chosen for Wilma on Sally's finger, EVER? Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

blkrose65	why? you gettin' hitched? if not reset the stone in a nice necklace, and reduce the pressure on the both of you. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

Eric L	go for it man! Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

thegirlwholovedbrains	Oh my God no. Trust me on this one. You'll be married for 10 years, she'll be pregnant with your second child, and she'll find out because your mother will let it slip. She'll be hormonal and hysterical and you'll never hear the end of it. She'll call her mother and all her friends and they'll all comfort her and tell her what an uncaring cheap bastard you are. In the long run... it will be far less expensive to sell the first ring, on EBay if you have to... or trade it in or up at a jeweler's... or just take it to a jeweler and ask them what they could do/suggest, given the situation. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

Dr. Mom	If anyone knows about it...then NO...but if no one knows...why not! Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

shirley_corsini	Yes, give it to her. You never actually gave it to the other girl and you say you are having it reset. What else are you going to do with a good diamond. Pawn it and lose money? Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

aprilc232	I would give it to her, but don't let her know that it was originally bought for someone else. It's not tainted because the other girl never wore it. I agree with your mom. Save money. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

requiem42	Well, if you have some sort of superstition about the ring, then no worries. Its just a nice looking peice of rock and metal, which represents your love coincidentally. I don't think you're being cheap by not buying the ring "for her." Its from you and represents the committment you intend. Nuff said. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

msthinkpositive	That's not a good idea or fair. She's a different person, and every time you look at this ring, you would know the situation, and she won't but if ever found out, and anything is possible would never forgive you. You mentioned resetting the stone, just get an exchange for the present g/f because she deserves it if you think she's worth it (you want to marry her). Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

Cool Guy in Cali	Heck yes you should give it to her. If you she gets mad then take it back and get a new women. A ring signifies the sacrifice a man makes to do something nice for a woman. I don't think the type of ring should matter. She will just be happy to get a ring. And GUESS WHAT you don't ever have to tell her that it was for someone else :) Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

SeaSea	Hell ya Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

Prayerwarrior	Do it right, buy a new ring. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

thecrunkness	oh yaeh go ahead just dont let her find out! ever! Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

eddy27	No way! Sell it for another one. Believe my my engagement ring used to belong to an ex- I found out way after-wards. I felt terribly awkward about wearing something meant for someone else. ( I married the guy but I haven't wore that ring since I found out.) You want this ring to signify the start of something new and wonderful. Start off right- get her another ring! Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

theevilpowerpuffgirl6	I see you have asked this question before. IMHO, you shouldn't even ask this person to marry you! If you have to ask a million strangers if it's OK to give an old ring to a new girlfriend, perhaps soon to be a wife, then you don't even have the honesty to ask her to marry you. A marriage consists of a playing field of honesty and openness. The person you should be asking if this would bother, is the person you intend on spending the rest of your life with, openly and honestly. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

TEsha	One day the secret will be out and she will be upset, no matter what... Let her pick her own ring... Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

topnotchcouple	NO...THAT IS WRONG..PAWN IT AND GET A DIFFERENT ONE..ONE WAY OR ANOTHER IF YOU GIVE HER THAT ONE SHE WILL FIND OUT IT WAS FOR YOUR EX...SO DON`T...PAWN IT AND GET A NEW ONE... Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

tweakk	Do it. Not like your ex ever had it. Just never, EVER tell her Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

dani	I would have to say no... You bought that ring for you ex.. How would you feel if a girl bought a ring for her ex but then never gave it to him and gave it to you. I would sell the ring and buy a different one that comes from your heart and not a spare.....Best of luck to you though..... Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

hummingbird	go for it! The intent might have been there the first time but it never happened so therefore it is not used it was just on a shelf. A ring is a ring. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

evonne i	One of my best friends got married in the same wedding dress she had for her first wedding. They are still going strong after 10 years. I would definitely give it to her--as long as you can disassociate between the 2 women everytime you look at it. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

Ahwell	Yes, but probably best not to tell her. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

mrsgill_31	It's ok as long as you current girlfriend don't know. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

Diana	I wouldn't like that.....get a different ring. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

elemoony	if i were the girl, i would wish to receive a silver ring with your honesty and love. it's precious not because of diamond. on another hand, you cant keep secret. your mother now about it. all of us too. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

Gynolotrimena Lubriderma-Smith	That's tacky. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

arielcowgirl_2010	aslong as she doesnt know and doesnt find out! Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

VL	Save the diamond get a new setting, but if you want the relationship to work from now on be more honest/open about your past. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No