Should I divorce my wife?

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L J	It is best if you get out before more kids are involved. Money and housework is the main hot topics in our household now. I make all of the money, pay all of the bills and doing all of the house work. Oh, the 3 kids, I am with them the most. My little son didn't recognize her as his mom until he was maybe 1 years old. I did everything for him since birth. Honestly, if she left, my life wouldn't change b/c I'm doing everything already. Now I am tired and can't stand the sight of her. The only reason I'm still there is b/c of my kids. We tried the talking thing, to no avail. Suggest counseling, she will not go. It is hopeless and endless. Go while you only have just one child. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

sfldub	That is a question only you can answer - as such, my advice would be to go to marraige counseling, this is not as daunting (or as expensive) as it might seem, you are both young and obviously love each other to get married in the first place, maybe you just need an outside perspective on it all to help you see each others needs more clearly. If you do something like that, you should find your answer. Hope that helps. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

I Love Music	My parents are divorced, and so am I. With that being said, I do not advocate divorce...you guys should try some family counseling first. Always try to work it out first. I can also tell you this...if you are married, the dreaded D word should never ever ever arise in any form of vocabulary between the two of you. If it does, you are condemning yourself to going through with it. Try to avoid that word if you want to try to work through the relationship. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

christiana	I THINK IF YOU STILL LOVE HER YOU SHOULD GO TO CONSOLING AND WORK IT OUT BUT IF YOU DON´T FEEL IT ANYMORE THEN I GUESS YOU SHOULD Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

Grimey	Money have to be close to the number one reason why people get divorce. You guys have to sit down and budget together. Men handle stress differently then women so maybe both of you guys are stressed out b/c you have BIG responsibilities at a young age being married and having a child. I think you guys need to go on a date w/o your child and have an adult conversation...work it out b/c both of you are just stressed out. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

FlyingScooter	Try to work it out.... My gf and i have fought over the same things for years to the point it's become part of our routine. marriages, like long term relationships, go thru phases. Sometimes these phases come back. Where money is concerned, they always come back. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

Kitty Cat	Hi, Im in a very similar spot as you. Except im not married but i have a daughter by him. We are attempting counciling and so far it has yet to help but i would explore it before considering a divorce. Money has a great way of drowning relationships with stress.Im sure the woman yoiu married is still in there she is probably struggling right along with you in her own way.. Communication is huge .. Talk to her about how your feeling..Goodluck... -Cat Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

diamonds	maybe a trial seperation would sort out how you both feel about eachother...whatever you do - life is very short & if you are very unhappy...you have to do something about it mate!! Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

John L	Before you take any serious actions that could cause serious disrputions, you and your wife should consider marriage counseling...they can really help you learn to deal with marriage related issues....perhaps reccommend you to necessary other counseling such as financial or domestic. tryt that first, give it time...it could take a good year or more of counseling to see any noticable results. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

cookiemonster07	for every problem there is a solution... u should talk it out with her...or go to a marriage counselor..it will definitely help... Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

Kaylia	You are young in this area of marriage. I think you should seek counselling from a professional to help you and her get over the issues that you face. Running away from any situation doesn't help. Learn from it. If after counselling you feel that it still cannot work well. Move on. wish you all the best. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

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Josh	don't jump strait to that. Find a good marrage counselor. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

kitykatt09	took my husband and I 6 years to stop fighting.....we did marriage counseling and talked alot - we still talk alot. Anyways divorce os a huge step - and you have a baby to think about. Good luck to you! Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

Happy- Go	seek counseling before you just end it altogether. You both made a child that needs both of you to raise him !! Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

Michelle H	What may be a major issue to you is not one to her, and that's OK. It's all in how you both work on communicating your feelings about such issues, and how you both compromise on handling them. I would strongly suggest working on your issues with your wife. Marriage is not easy, and it takes a lot of patience, kindness, compromise, love and respect. That, among other things, means acknowledging each other's differences and working around them. You may not be happy now, but if you and your wife work on your problems and communications issues together, you will end up stronger in the long run and will find happiness again. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

notkaliesmash	For the sake of your son, I'd say you should try and work it out. But remember, children don't NEED both parents under the same roof to be sucessful, and if all you're doing is fighting, not only are you hurting yourselves: you're hurting your son as well. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

iiidontknowdoyou	You took you wife til death, not til you get fed up with her! Walking away is the easy way out! You need to talk about your problems and try working on this! 4 years isn't very long to work on your marriage, and you have a child to think about! Now you know why you shouldn't have rushed into marriage!!! NO turn around and get back in there and do what you need to do to turn your marriage around!!! Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

CrG	Talk to a marriage counselor. No one can afford a divorce. Think of the moral damage you will be inflicting on your son. You sound like a very selfish, self-centered person. All your excuses are phony cop-outs. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

nickybrowneyes	Marriage is forever. You have a child and you must of loved her at some point. Communicate better, see a therapist, do something to spark up old flames. It takes two people to make a relationship work, be sure that you have tried everything before splitting....for your own and your kids sake. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

The Naughty Librarian	These are very common issues in marriage. I don't think it's a reason to divorce. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

ThinMint	The only reason you should get a divorce is if she's cheating on you. You're both very young, so instead of bickering and arguing, you guys need to sit down and talk like adults. These are probably not a new issues ( money, housework, etc.) you probably just failed to notice it before you tied the knot. Vows are serious. (For better or worse). Those issues, by no means, are causes for divorce. You can always rekindle the flames if it so happens to go out. That's the beauty of love. Give it another shot. Be the bigger person in the relationship. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

Dasha D	You need to sit her down and talk about your issues. You made a vow for better or for worse you cannot just abandon that because you rushed in too fast. Give your marriage a chance. Remember why you married her. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

m w	divorce should be the last resort in any marriage. especially so when there are children involved. try marriage counseling first.... FYI, I'm recently divorced. 2 year long process. $100k+ to the lawyers. miserable process. everyone was effected. family. friends. neighbors. etc. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

Candace C	Have you considered couples counseling? That might help. Just remember that it takes two to make a relationship work. You can't do it, if she doesn't want to. Best wishes! Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

cmaryfitz	When did you have your son? Is it possible she's suffering from postpartum? Not caring about major issues can be a sign of depression, or she just doesn't see them as major. You have a son and need to try to work it out for his sake - divorce is hell on kids. Seek marriage counseling - if she won't go with you go by yourself. There's no moving on - your son ties you to her for the rest of your life. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

julez	Give therapy a try. These sound like issues that could be worked on and resolved with a little bit of work on both parts. If that doesn't work, then divorce may be the best option. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

Snotface	You won't find the answer to that question here, friend. You need to look inward. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

chanideum	I don't believe there is any marriage that is "happy" all the time. It doesn't exist. Human beings are complex creatures. I'm all for saving marriages if at all possible. Unless there is some sort of abuse or substance abuse, something that would be a danger to your child, I can't see bailing. Try to resolve the issues by talking with some of your trusted others, a counselor or clergy. You have a son. He is your first priority. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

ladybugflu	Go to marriage counseling. You should always try to work out a marriage first and sometimes having a mediator helps. If it does not help then it is time for a divorce but at least you made an attempt to make it work. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

Hurleygirl	Since you are married & you did make that comitment I would say to give it a little bit more of a chance. Move out and try a seperation first - this way you will know for sure if you need to divorce or not. If you miss her & want her back while you are away then you will know that it was meant to be, however if you are happier then ever when you are on your own you will know that you need to divorce! Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No