Should I be upset if my husband took a picture with his ex wife at their sons graduation?

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stephanaie t	I think that you are wrong to be mad. Just because that is his ex.....It's their son's day of graduating. They need to be respectful and at least be frriends for thier son. It's just a picture and it's not like they were aking it together in some loving way . The were shoing their love atogether ith their son. ***If you are with your husband ....and he has been married...with a ex-ife....you are going to have to get use to the fact there are gonig to be some things that you might not like. But to get mad like that and just leave.....man there is very disrespectful....I think that you need to let them know you are sorry ....to his son and your husband. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

LovingLife09	have you asked him why he got so upset??? how does your step-son feel did he like the picture? it is his mother and father... Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

Me Vale	I think that you need to chill! Your looking green with jealousy from over here! The fact is that you knew the man had a son with this woman BEFORE you married him, right? So what is the problem. It was a picture with their son!!!! I don't see what the big deal was. You were right there! It was not about you, it was his son's graduation and they wanted a picture with both parents! It is not about you! Now if they went out of their way to exclude you from ALL the photographs, then I would understand why you were so upset! If they didn't then what is your problem? You are just showing us your insecurity. Do you have a reason to be insecure of your marriage? If you guys have problems with ex wives then don't marry a man that has one! Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

Jiggley Wiggley	that is most likely for their son's memories and something that he can look back on. i wouldnt worry about it. if you know that you have your man, then you shouldnt need to worry about something that small. instead of using your energy to get mad and argue about it, you can use that energy on being supportive and showing him love. Life is too short for that bull****. if your relationship is strong, that shouldnt shake your foundation. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

I'm right and you know it :p	I think it is totally acceptable for him to take a picture with her. I am sure the son will want a picture with his parents right? It's not like she wanted a picture of them because she thought that it was a "family picture" it was just so the kid could take a picture with his parents. Even if you dont like it she is that boys mother and your husband will always have to be in contact with her.....and take pictures..... Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

vfr800cr250	So this is your step-son's graduation, but now you two have made it about you? Very mature. He overreacted, but you never should have brought it up in thr first place, because the day was about your step-son. Simple. I always blows me away that parents can be so screwed up and selfish. As evidenced by the people telling you that you're right. How ridiculous is that. Now if the MIL wants a picture of just your husband and the ex, THAT should get you upset. Or if you go to your husband's office and he's got the pic up of himself, the step-son and the ex, THAT should get you upset. But not because a picture of a child with his two parents was taken at graduation. GROW UP!!!!!! EDIT: On second thought, run with the divorce. You'd be doing your husband and step-son a big favor. I have a son from a previous marriage and if my wife ever behaved like this I'd expect her to be begging for forgiveness. I'm also the child of a divorce, and my step mother is an evil selfish thing and you look sound very much like her. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

Judascave55	What would you feel if you're in the child's situation, it's a priceless picture, and a picture you would possess for your lifetime. Your action is embarassing and disrespectful.You're a very self-centered, woman. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

DemonFox	No reason at all for you to be upset. They were a family unit long before you came along and I'm sure the picture was for the kids. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

Violet Pearl	I think you should let it go. The parents are the parents. The kid deserves a photo of his big day with both his parents. You're out of line. You're the one being disrespectful if you threw a hissy fit and stormed off like a child. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

xhugsnotdrugs3	pissed enough for a divorce? over something like that? i don't mean to be judgemental, and i know it's easier for me to say this than you because i'm not actually dealing with the situation, but it doesn't seem that bad. it's just a picture! especially since your step-son was in the picture it shouldn't be as big of a deal. is there more to the story or something? maybe she just wanted a picture of the 3 of them, who knows. your husband wasn't the one to ask for the picture though, remember that. he was just trying to make his mom happy, but he definitely shouldn't have snapped at you. i hope things work out for you, and i'm sure within a few days you'll calm down. you should sit him down and have a talk with him about how you feel so maybe he'd have a better understanding. try not to jump down his throat though because then he's just going to get defensive and won't listen to anything you're saying. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

Andi S	u need to understand that they have a child together. my ex husband still comes to all the family holidays & him & my new husband get along. i really do think u r wrong for being so upset w/him. the picture means alot to the child. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

BeachBaby	No. That child has the right to be photographed with his parents. IT IS NOT ABOUT YOU!~ You are very wrong for being mad. This was his day...not yours. You should be the big person and stand to the side and let that child have his family time. This was a huge occasion for your step-son and he deserved to have both of his parents participate...it is not his fault that they are not still together and he shouldn't have to suffer from their mistakes. Always let that child have his parents together for the times in his life which are important and monumental...Please let your husband do it without any trouble or insecurities from you. He is your husband...but he was that child's father first. Support your husband for being a good father to that child. Don't worry about the ex-wife...she is not going to run off with your husband...she is there in support of her son....which she should be no matter how she takes care of him...not your business....be the better person. You can, if it will make you feel better, suggest that you be in a picture too....hand someone your camera and pose...you can choose to be a part of it or to make it miserable for everyone involved...which is what you chose to do. Make better decisions...for that child's sake...once again...it is not about you! Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

Whatevzz	omg!! Yes! Take a breather... theres never a problem so big that you cant work it out! Of course theyre going to want a picture with the actual birth mother and father of the child. Its his graduation and i think its very normal infact even encouraged. It doesent mean anything at all! I dont think you should make a scene because your step son has probably gone through so much, so let him just have a picture where it looks as though theyre all happy. But you know the only picture your husband wants to be in is with you, wihtout being asked by his mother in law! Dont worry, he loves you, its a minor problem, hope u can work it out! And yes u are overreacting lol good luck :) Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

Josh F	Yes he was doing a favor to his mom and taking a picture w/ someone dosen't mean he's being unfaithful. If your son was taken away from you and you went to his graduation, would you want to be left out of the picture because of "disrespectfullness?" Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

Marcedee	Yea to me you kinda got mad over nothing because his mom just wanted a pic not for them to get remarried or anything yea i can see why your mad but really. It was just a pic she just wanted a pic of him with his real parents it OK that you got upset but i think you took it a little extremely no offense but you kinda did. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

Sandy Ego	Are you serious? I hope you're joking. These are the kid's parents - BOTH of them. Please get over it. You knew your husband had a child; you need to understand that the child needs both parents. If something as innocent as two parents posing for a picture together with their kid can set you off, you need to seriously re-evaluate your readiness to be married to a father. You're one of these people who give all step parents a bad name, sorry! Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

pebblespro	Yes, you are being "petty"... Your husband is just that YOUR HUSBAND however, he does have a son and a wife from a previous marriage... So what's wrong with a family picture? Of his mother and father... ? Absolutely, NOTHING! You turned something nice and very innocent into something about YOU which it never was or was going to be... Then you "picked up your kids and left...." that's very petty and very selfish... You married someone with a child from another relationship and you need to try and be as supportive and nice as possible...You owe your husband an apology... Sorry Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

drktwrseeker	No becuase it is a day for your stepson, not his dad, mom or you. He might want that picture of him and both parents at his sides reguardless if they are together or not. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

Contemplative	I don't feel it's a big issue since they were related by marriage and had a son together. I would think the son would want a picture of him with his parents. If he wasn't eye-balling her with lust, then I'd say you have nothing to be worried about. After all, this was about the son's day and his feelings and if your husband was otherwise respectful to you, then I think you should be okay with this. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

Brent	A son having his picture taken with his mother at his graduation is a very normal thing. Both the son and the mother will appreciate it for years to come. In my opinion you have gone overboard in your reaction. Usually when one reacts to something as normal as this with as much anger as you have it shows that there is more deep down inside. You may want to pay attention to this. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

kelannde	Sounds like you are over reacting. They made that child together. What harms can come of a photo - other than you over reacting and asking for a divorce over it. Why would this picture make you so insecure? It's just a photo. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

pinniethewooh	You asked this yesterday and got lots of responses. I can see being a little upset over it, but not enough to make a scene or let it bother you for this long. Let it go. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

Quasimodo	Get real will you? He isn't coming home to her and it is the kid's mother. And if you didn't make a show then you're making one now. Chrsit...keep this up and the ex wife will look more and more attractive to him and he'll start to question why he hooked up with you. And it's not 'disrespectful' as you so term it. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

Alexa's mommy ♥	You are WAY wrong!! And WAY overreacting. What was he suppose to say no? No of course not! It is THEIR son's graduation. HIS mother asked him. It's not like he wanted the picture for his wallet or anything, someone else wanted the picture and since it is their son there is nothing wrong with that. Wow and I thought I was jealous! Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

j-likekobay	Yeah, you are absolutely out of control. What we have here is a case of neuroticism. LET GO LADY. He took a friggin' picture with his ex-wife and HER SON for graduation. Are you off your rocker? Did you take your meds? What is wrong with you? I am failing to see any problem with this event that took place. Did he make sleazy moves on her? Did he say anything to her about you or your family? No. This is exactly the type of personailty trait that I can't stand in women. Women who make fights out of NOTHING. Drama Queen Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

Lacey P	This is not a big deal, believe me. I would have given anything to have a picture with both my mom and dad together with me at my graduation since they too are divorced. If this is a big enough deal to you that you would get divorced, maybe you have some underlying problems than just this. Don't sweat the small stuff or you will go crazy. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

Jayde	God women calm down, a divorce over a pictur. What if it was you who was asked by your mother to tale a picture with your son and your ex-husband you would right, god think how hurtful it would be for your son to not have a picture of him, his mum and his dad. Your just being ungreatful, calm down, phone him up and sort it out, it was a picture. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

Jenny	yes ,there is nothing wrong with them taking a picture with their son,that was a special occasion & they are his parents Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

shawyen	The picture of them 3 together should be for the purpose of the child. You should not have felt disrespect by that. Now you telling him your feeling and him making a big scene is somthing you should be upset about. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

DJ	Yes, you overreacted. It was not a personal attack against you. They are the boy's biological parents and his grandmother asked for the photo. It might be one that will hold special meaning for the graduate someday. Unless you feel threatened or insecure, there is no reason not to let the boy enjoy his day. Now all anyone will remember is you throwing a fit! Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

nobody	Are these people serious?? They really think what happened here is okay? You were not being petty, this just should not have happened. First of all, we would never have been around his ex to begin with, you could have all taken turns being with him and taking pictures. Your MIL is way out of line for requesting such a thing. Does she have something going on with the ex or something? Way wrong! Also, your husband is a cad (I'm being polite) for treating you that way in front of everyone. That's HORRIBLE. What's wrong with him? He didn't have to cause a scene with his mommy, he could have just said "no thanks" and walked away, and/or suggested she take a picture with you and him together with the boy. I don't know how I would ever get over this, I wouldn't divorce, but I'd be pretty freaking pissed off for a long, long time. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No