Should I Back Away?

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Bouncer	Walk away, whatever happens you will get hurt. Find a nice single man. Good luck for the future. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

Lia	Don't do that !!!! Take a best time to reflect upon yourself. What do you feel if you are on his wife position ??? Think it over .... maybe oneday he will leave you when he finds a new more pretty girl as he does now. Forget him ..... Don't hurt your fellow woman !!!! God Bless you in your life Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

KAF	Walk away now before you all get hurt. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

suz'	Do you really want to be the "other woman"? Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

Lynn W	I am the mistress of a married man, it's not all it's cracked up to be. We almost started the same as you, we met and we became friends with our conversations becoming more and more intimate until we gave into what we were feeling. He tells me often that he loves me and I don't doubt him but I know he will never leave me while he has young children. The fact that I love him doesn't stop the guilt I feel when I think about his kids. If I was you then I would think very carefully before getting in deeper, only you know what the right thing for you to do is. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

Jenz90	Back away, a married man that says he will leave his wife never does. ive seen this happen with my mum dont go there. U will probably end up destroying 4 lifes or more. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

snd28	don't mess with him. no matter what he's going through he is still married. it's possible too that he's lying and he may never leave his wife alone. later you'll be heartbroken. chances are he won't leave her for you. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

johnnyacura5	I would back away until you know he is serious about what he tells you. Men do lie. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

Jazzybee	Back right off, i've been the wife of an aduterous husband and he will be lying to both of you and will have no intention of leaving his wife, until she kicks him out (like i did) he'll come running to you then because he'll need somewhere to go. Once a cheat etc Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

plumbjobby	Go for it ,have some fun,but only if you are prepared to pay the price when you fall.......cause fall you will..... Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

frigginhilarious	Well, what do you expect him to say about his wife? That she's a good wife and mother and that she cooks and cleans for him? Of course he's going to tell you he's in a bad marriage because he wants to get in your pants. I sure hope you aren't stupid enough to believe him and think he is going to leave his wife for you? Think about it, if he is willing to cheat on his wife and f**ck you what type of man do you think he is? He doesn't have any respect for himself, you and definitely his wife and kids. He is a scumbag and you better not do anything with him. Also, what are you doing having feelings for a married man? Remember what goes around comes around. Would you want someone hanging around YOUR husband and tempting him all the time? DO THE RIGHT THING. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

Suzi W	Step away from the Married man Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

Learner	Back away. No wonder his marriage is in trouble. This is just a crush and you will get over it . He already has a family to take care of. If there are women willing to help him stray he will never get to work out the problems in his life. There are plenty of single men in the world, and your special man is probably just around the corner. Be strong. Good luck. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

zzHoUnDzz	If his marrage is "in trouble" & he has feelings for you,,then he should get separated first.That is the right thing to do.In triangle relationships,,no one wins.Keep your self respect in check. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

Jane Doe	back away as you whisper COUNSELING Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

prince_henry	well what is he offering you, a bit of sex here and there. if hes unhappy with his wife he should end it not go out and have sex with another woman. don't be a dope this mans after one thing and one thing only Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

҉Fuzzy҉ - ҉No-Nosed҉ - ҉Chimp҉	Don't have an affair. If he wants to end his marriage, then that's fine. You may even go as far as hinting that you would be there for him if he was single, but don't be a release for his troubled marriage, let it live or die on it's own, not by your hand. He may never leave his wife, if he has you as a "bit on the side". Also consider, if he did eventually leave his wife, and get serious with you, you have to ask two questions, was his marriage as bad as he claimed, or did he just like the idea of you more? Less stress and no kids? And also will he then do the very same thing to you a few years down the line if your relationship gets as complex as his marriage??? Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

CC	Don't be a home wrecker. And, don't believe what he's telling you. He's wanting to cheat and waiting for you to give the OK. Don't go there, you will regret it and he won't leave his wife. I have seen this time and time again. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

Bob	yes back away. Only heartache can come of it. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

Chuckler	Back away-he is still married. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

Amy	back away. his kids will never forgive him, and will hate you as a possible step-mom spend time away from him, talk to other guys i hope it all works out =] Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

Mary O	Leave him alone i really don't believe any married man when they say there marriage is in trouble most likely its not and he is using that as an excuse for having an affair, i bet his wife doesn't know they are having marriage problems.. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

Renee	Definitely no affair, tell him to get his situation together whether it is divorce or staying with his wife and kids, and you will then go from there but until then back off.... Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

lady_blu_iz	BACK AWAY - Don't be a home wrecker!!! Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

soapsoap	I don't think you should get involved in that sort of relationship with him until he's completely broken things off with his wife. Otherwise both you and her may end up getting hurt, not to mention the kids. I say back away for a while and let him spend some time on his marriage, go to counseling or whatever, and see if he can work things out with her first, especially since he has the kids to consider. If you give him time to do this and it doesn't work out and he does leave her, then the two of you can get together and you'll know that he really is committed to you. Plus if your relationship gets serious his kids will probably be more accepting of you if you come into his life after the marriage is over, instead of being the one to break things up. And in the long term, he won't ever wonder if he would have stayed with his wife if it hadn't been for you, since he'll have a chance to make those two decisions separately. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

?	Wait until he is single. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

Tattoo Ted	Unless he has taken definite steps to leave the marriage then leave well alone. Feelings are different from actions... Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

Katykins	Um..RED FLAG HERE!!!...back away and fast. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

TwinkaTee	A wonderful man wouldn't cheat on his wife........I understand your desire to be in a relationship, but I highly recommend leaving this man alone. Having an affair is a very dangerous game and ALWAYS ends up destroying lives in the end. You may think that he will leave his wife and his kids and start a life with you, BUT rarely does this happen. And if it does, his character (a cheater) will not change. Oftentimes women think that we will be the ones to change a man, but the reality is, men don't change. Please, please, please leave this man alone and go find an unattached, single guy. There are still many out there Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

GoodGuy53	A affair would certainly be a cheap way to begin a life with someone. If he's so wonderful, he wouldn't do that to you. He should either get a divorce, or stop seeing you. Those are the only two honorable things to do. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

mendmyways	You probably won't listen to any of the advice given to you but I thought you could use one more opinion. First make sure you keep this question of yours because a year from now or maybe more you need to see this question again and see where you are in this relationship. I did the same stupid, moronic thing you are contemplating. I became "friends" with this man who was separated from his wife and his child. They moved back to a different country so he needed a friend. Needless to say 4 years later and a lot of damn tears, he went back to his wife. Whether you are a religious person or not, this will backfire on you I promise you that. The hurt, betrayal, bitterness is still with me every damn day and every day I try to find the "cure" to get over the anger and resentment. I got what was coming to me because I am a "believer" and now I am paying the price. So do yourself a HUGE favor and back off and I mean way off because I promise you it will not turn out good. Now you can continue to believe that your relationship with this married man "will be different" but if you continue to believe that crap you are going to be one hurt , bitter woman and that I promise you. I really hope you don't do this. Email me if you want to know what hurt looks like after he goes back to his wife. I will give you the gory details. It isn't pretty. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No