Ok im being deadly serious now one of my good mates husband is having an affair should i tell her?

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?	If she is your 'good mate' then you have to tell her - that is what mates do!! But also be prepared to loose her if you do - sometimes we 'know' when our spouses are unfaithful but we will turn the other cheek. If she 'knows' already you will make her feel like a loser for not doing anything about it, by letting him, and you will be a reminder of her inability to deal with it. Also on the other hand if she finds out another way, and then finds out YOU knew and said nothing you will lose her!! Friends are supposed to help us through life - help her when she needs it most - now! Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

scoop	I would tell him you know and he either ends it, tells her himself or you will and give him a deadline. Imagine how hurt she would be if she found out you knew? If it was me i would want my mate to tell me. Put the ball in his court now. What a s**t!! Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

Spex	If I was you, I'd tell her, but be sure to have proof or she'll say something like "you're just jealous of the happiness _____ and I have." Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

Guardian angel	You may be able to save your friend a lot of pain if you confront him and threaten to tell if he doesn't stop. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

AfroSistah	I would avoid telling her as much as i cud. Rather confront her husband, and tel him if he duzn't tel her u will. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

ak2005ok	Would she tell you if you were in her place? Does she want to know? Why does he betray her? Think about those questions and find your own answer to your question. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

cubalishus	This is a very tricky situation for you to be in, I think maybe you should put yourself in her shoes for a few days and see how you would feel about her telling you that very same thing, would you appreciate her honesty and still want her as a friend or would you rather she found out herself and came to you for comfort, I just don't know what I would do honestly, I know I have seen so many good and true friendships go belly up because they told the person of the affair, maybe you could have a word with her husband instead and ask him why hes been such a fool, hopefully he might be able to see what he is doing wrong and stop the affair and be honest with his wife himself, hope everything works out whatever you choose to do, good luck. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

chockanilla	Do you think you should, have some concrete evidence not I saw your man with so and so. Pictures, Video, something. Most women are likely to accuse you than believe you. Personally with my friends, I would say anything. 9 out of 10 times she knows. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

littlestarr02	would YOU want be told if it was YOU? I know I would, if you were my friend, i would want to know why you DIDN'T tell me. TELL HER Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

Princess J	Either way, you're going to be the bad guy here. Been there, done that. Especially in the eyes of the husband. If you think you can do it, tell him you know and give him a time limit to quit the affair and clean up, or you'll tell her if he doesn't. In the mean time, she's being made a fool of. I would want to know if my husband was with someone else. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

Satomi Motohashi	why not join in with them...could be fun Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

puzzle55usa	ya sure. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

princess	You should tell her because if the shoe was on the other foot wouldn't you want to know?? She will respect you as a friend if you do. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

vebyllucs	would you want her to tell you and how do you go about such a thing? Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

Gypsie	yes, unless of course he's having an affair with you? Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

lisaandmax	YES I wish someone had told me when my (now ex) husband was putting it about.. my biggest issue when I eventually found out was that half my friends were aware. She may not like you for it now but she will thank you for it later. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

Ichi	Yes: you would want her to tell you if it were the other way around... Plus wash your face got God's sake Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

hoosierlady	It's really disturbing to me when people say things like it's not my business or why should I get involved? it doesn't matter if it's your best friend or a complete stranger, if you see something wrong or bad happening and you even have to ask yourself if you should do something, that's your conscious telling you to do the right thing...always follow your heart, if your a good person it will lead you to the right answer. good luck. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

Rockhead	yes, as long as its not with you, or another of your mates. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

thepenismightier	Nope, at least not right away. You might talk to him and let him know that you know, and maybe ask him why he's having the affair, etc. And even suggest that he come clean. If you're not satisfied with his answer, then PERHAPS you could tell her. But I wouldn't rush in and throw it all out in the open right away. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

MISSY	YES GO TELL HER.I WOULD'NT WANT A FREIND WHOM WOULD KEEP THIS KIND OF INFO FROM ME. TELL HER IN PERSON. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

kush	if ur really concerned about her u better tell her as soon as possible, so that she can make up with him or if its too hard to hold him she can break up Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

barelyahrie	First of all, do you think it will benefit her or cause her more sadness by telling her? Is she those type that will side her husband? Will she believe you? And when you tell her, will she feel so sad and dishearten, but still will stick to her husband? Ask yourself all this questions first before you tell her. If you think by telling her, she will be sad, but she will get over her husband and be strong, then tell her, but what if you tell her, she still go back to her husband after some confrontation? In the coming future, she will be facing lots more suspicious incidents with her husband, cause her more rainy days. So to tell her or not? Which benefit her more? Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

resortcaroline, hedonistic, 18 +	Tell and you will become there enemy when/ if they get back together. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

Ellie G	Think long and hard before you do. Make sure you have all the facts absolutely straight and that there isn't the slightest chance you could be wrong. If you are sure, why not confront him first. If you think their marriage is basically a good one Tell him to get his act together fast!! If you still feel you need to tell her, be prepared to take the flack... she may not like you much for a while. But be there for her when she needs you ... Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

Nz	what are you waiting for Christmas Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

ribena	Tell him you know and tell him to tell her himself before you do. If he doesn't, tell your friend that she needs to have a chat with her hubby, but say no more. In this way, you are not actually responsible for anything when the $hit hits the fan! Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

onetreehillfan	don't tell her but don't lie to her...make her have doubts and then make her discover it by herself... Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

Bigjay23	YES!!!!!!!!! Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

*~BabiGurl~*	~Well yes deffantly <--- sorry i spelled it wrong but yes tell her if shes your good friend... dont let her find out on her own if you already know... ~ take care ~Muah~ Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

Adrienne	Maybe you should talk to him first and try to convince him to tell her. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No