My wife has stopped cleaning, cooking and taking care of herself and our son, what should I do?????

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Indigo	Unless you have a really ornate, amazing yard you need to help her out! Do you know that studies have shown that stay at home moms work the equivalent of 3 full time jobs? So if she's working a full time job and still taking care of all the housework and the son then she's probably depressed, overwhelmed, and burned out. Successful marriages change their arrangements as the situation warrants. Talk to her, take her out without the kid, give her some time off and then re-negotiate your terms. Now if your yard is some award winning confection with koi ponds and rare tropical plants that require daily maintenance then feel free to disregard my comments. ;) Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

Jarrett D	She sounds depressed. DO NOT ENGAGE HER IN CONVERSION. She is burnt out on life. Recrute the help of friends or family for the house work.She needs help her mind is on strike,time to play the hero Romeo Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

*~♥<DrEAm3R# 901>♥~*	dude just ask her doing that is hard do u know wat its like 2 be a woman in our world with out respet! taking care of a son, cooking, cleaning u make her sound like a maid! treat her with some dignity take her out 2 eat buy her choclate wat a movie wiht her! take her on a night out! make her feel speical! and promise 2 do more work around the house andf help her find a suitable job just do wat it take 2 make her feel important! Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

just a girl	Why don't you try being around for a change? 65-70 hours is too much for you to work. She probably feels like she's all alone in that marriage and she's probably depressed. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

Vendetta	Talk to her, she could be feeling neglected or depressed about certain things that you dont know about. Being a mother and a wife is stressful and puts a lot of pressure on woman, im sure if you sit down with her and have a conversation about what is really going on you will be able to fix everything. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

I LUV SCIENCE	she sounds depressed about something. I would just talk to her. you need to communicate with her she is your wife. find out what is wrong and just be there for her. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

GGGG lou EEEE	Sounds like depression, she needs to seek medical help. Also, be sure to communicate with her, ask her what is bothering her, she may not even know, but let her know that you care and are there to support her. Also, it is so uplifting to hear that you took on the extra duties in spite of your long work weeks. I don't know what line of work you are in, but consider cutting back on hours if possible. Just to have more time to spend with your family. I was a workaholic, working 60 hours or so a week and finally realized that my family was more important that staying at the office to finish up things. Guess what, the work never finished, but my kids kept growing and I missed so much. I realized that the memories I wanted to remember and think of were those of my children and the time I spent with them, not how much work I accomplished. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

playas_girl01	maybe she's feeling run down. talk to her about it, and work together with taking care of the house and both take care of the yard. energy level does strike pretty fast so don't be way to hard on her. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

deniz	She's probably overwhelmed. That's a lot for her to handle.... work, cleaning, yardwork, cooking and taking care of your son. And doing it all by herself because you're working so many hours. She may be depressed, too. It's best to talk to her and find out what she's thinking. Make a doctor's appointment for her if she truly seems depressed. Best of luck. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

evilattorney	She's working full-time. Get a housekeeper and a cook and, oh yeah, try talking to her. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

cheesecake.	Talk to her about how she feels and why she is doing this. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

pretty	It sounds like maybe she is depressed. She may simply be burnt out. Working 40 hours, cleaning, cooking, and taking care of a kid would push anyone over the edge. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

SuperVibrationalEscrow	this is classic signs of depression. I mean like textbook.. You need to take her out just you and she... don't bring up the housework, just have a nice evening and then say.. well you don't seem yourself. I know something is wrong, what is it, how can I help. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

yazzy	She sounds depressed. That might be a temporary thing that passes, or it might be something long term she needs help with. Is there a way you could possibly work a little less, and share more time with your family? Sounds like they need you. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

Ardinus	go on a sweet little vacation, she's probably tired of doing the same thing. get a babysitter for your son :) Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

♥Melly♥	ask her about it. confront her and ask her whats wrong with her... or take her to counseling :D Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

Angel L	sounds like she could be depressed, talk to her Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

Vegatarian.	maybe shes tired of doing all the house work. talk to her about it. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

chandra	Ask her whats wrong!!!! 40 hours a week is still ALOT with a child to take care of too! And if you are working all those hours you can't be around much to help her and support her! Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

Kiana	give her attention. its not easy raising the world. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

mika2690	she's most likely tired and feels unappreciated. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

iikortlgb	Your wife is probably depressed. Make her an appointment first with her primary care doctor. He may refer her to a psychiatrist. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

cindy abc	This is not a marriage. You are working too many hours and she is depressed. Working outside (yard work) can be rewarding as compared to doing all the inside work over and over again with no recognition. You better figure out that your marriage is top priority, or you probably won't be married much longer. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

jennifer	TALK TO HER AND ASK HER WHY?! Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

Justin J	talk to her and just be honest with her about it. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

insignificantness	Sit down and talk to her seriously about it... shes your wife... Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

lilacroseoftexas	give her a spa day and see if she gets back into gear. if not, then just have a quiet conversation with her asking if something is wrong. make sure you sound concerned not angry. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

Annette	Talk to her. Maybe she's depressed? Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

whitjm5	She 'barely works 40' and you expect her to take care of a whole house too? That's insane. Sounds like you two should live more modestly, work fewer hours and take care of what's most important (your family). Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

suzy	make her feel beautiful, i think shes depressed Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

Nessie	Ask her to stay at her parents for awhile if she can't keep up on her part of the bargain. . Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No