My husband turned into a tranny but I still love him. What to do?

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DKlyde	This is unacceptable behavior for him. It's his body to do what he wants. But as a maaried man he has to consider how you feel and clearly he hasn't. If you can stand it stay with him because he probably does love you. But you married a man when this is done you'll be married to someone who is for all intents and purposes a woman. Luck Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

Patrick	If you still love each other, then go with it. However, be careful, he may be using you to pay for all this and he may bolt. Personally, I would insist he pay for his own sex change procedures if it were me. Good luck. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

boo	if you love him and want to be companions then great stay, but if you feel he has no more to give then go, how would you feel about sex with a he/she, this is a big part of whether you stay or not - you should not be paying by the way if he want is that bad he needs to get a job Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

fabulosity	I don't know how to answer this but if it were me I would file for divorce. The love he says he has for you wasn't stronger than this change he wants to make. It's not fair to you and if he gets a sex change how are you going to get any satisfacion. Are you really going to pay to get rid of your joystick? Think of yourself hes not. Eventually your going to break up. Not because of you but because this change will begin to take over on him and he will become a she and become very selffish and find herself attracted to the attention from the oppisite sex. I know you have alot of time invested but don't loose yourself because of his change.Love yourself enough to know what you deserve. take care Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

prizelady88	Tell him to be the man that he is. Stand up and take care of your self. You can be his/her friend but you don't have to finance his cause. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

Stephanie	love him no matter what he wants, but don't be a sucker and pay for all of his surgeries. especially since he's unemployed! Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

onukpa	you are just wasting youtr time with him. if he really loved you he would listen to you and what you think about all these major base changes and if you don't like that he should not do it! Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

Death	got this for you.. if you ask this it tells me it time to move on maybe not now but in the future he will hurt and leave you. god grant me serenity to accept the things i can cannot change... courage to Change the things i can and wisdom to know the difference... Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

angie20k	I know you love him... But you deserve a life with someone that loves you too. That's fine if he wasts to change his life like that, but he should be the one paying for it. It should not be at your expense, for you did not choose this. Ask him, if you wanted a operation that made you into a man, if he would still stay with you. I know you said for better or for worse, but there ARE stipulations on that. You married a MAN and you deserve a HUSBAND. I say if he made that decision, you can still be friends with him, but you need to move on with your life. That will be an unhealthy relationship. And if he changed his sex to a female...doesn't that mean that he would want sexual contact with a male eventually, if not already? Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

vmaxer85	well,I have to say unfortunately this isn't the first time I have heard of this situation.Now, I little known fact..All men regardless if they are "transitioning" Have a sex drive and will,so If he is willing to get rid of his organ for one of the opposite sex than Its more than likely he is gay or at least Bi and probably has a guy that he sees that you don't know about.He is more than likely keeping you around so you can pay for it all and when its all done he will hit the road and leave you. Ask yourself this,Can you spend your life making love to a women that used to be a man?Do you even have sexual desires for women? If you said no to both of them than your in a situation that is only going to bring you pain and suffering in your future.Tell him no! to the surgery and if he gets hateful and doesn't get off of it,then you know hes only using you and that you need to let him go. So, sorry you are dealing with this. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

Common Sense	Divorce him immediately.. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

TEBOE7	he neads a shrink and a job Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

oldsoftee2001	sounds as if he loves you until it's done and then it's bye bye baby and thanks for the money. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

_DestroyingAngel_	You gotta ask yourself if you see a good future with this man/woman. Is it worth all the humilliation? Is it worth all the crap your gonna get from your family? Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

copswife	That is a deal breaker for me, I would be out the door faster that you can blink and eye. As for paying for it, YOU GOT TO BE JOKING!!! Not in a million years. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

thelovebuzzard	run as fast as you can. if he wants to be a woman that means he wants a man!!! Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

moza	i can't stop laughing Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

babubabuni	I would leave him. Why would you want to be married to a "woman"? Especially an unemployed person who is using you for money to pay for surgeries? I think you are in love with the man you married and not with what has become of the person you are with now. You should have a one on one talk with him and tell him how you feel when you are with him in public. I can tell it's frustrating by what you have written above. Next thing you know you will be fighting over clothes! What will your children or grandchildren say about their daddy or grandpa? How will you explain this to them (if you have any youngsters). Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

Pattie T	You have a tough decision to make. If I were you I would have to foresake my vows, ask for forgiveness and move on. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

Tamara	This is just my personal opinion. He will leave you after you pay for all of this stuff. Once he is a woman he will divorce you. Don't pay for anything anymore if he loves you he will get a job and pay for this stuff himself. I hope I am wrong but put his love tot the test as he has put yours. Tell him He needs to pay for his surgery and get off his butt and get a job. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

emeraldisle2222	Hide your underwear. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

Livin' La Vida Gay	Leave him and file for divorce ASAP, he only sees you as his transexual pimp, once you pay for all his surgeries, he'll leave move to Miami and go Blonde! Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

michaelknight_2000	wtf is he matter with you. kick this sicko out or get him some mental health treatment. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

kizdrop	you r nuts if u are paying his way for the surgery. If he wants it fine, let him pay for it. And I know that you love him, but after 13 years now he wants to be a woman....? And he tells you he hasnt changed - that cant be true, he wants to be a woman... Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

rockstar_livin	jerry springer cheap bullshit Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

hotbutter	i would leave him. there is only room for one woman Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

jillybean	Are you kidding me? Um obvously he doesn't love or respect you or he wouldn't be doing this, I think he "LOVES" your $ to pay for his sex change! I really hope you two don't have children you have to explain this too!! I say tell him to let his boyfriend pay for all this crap and move on! You don't need to live to be ashamed, you deserve better! Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

Debbie B	Oh come on... you can't be serious about this. Sure you should believe him... he's got a good thing going because you're paying the tab. You should be asking more important questions though, like: Do you want to be married to a half man/half woman? Do you want to spend your hard-earned money for something you don't want, and that makes you feel "ashamed"?? Please tell him that you accept his choice and will remain friends, wish him the best... but don't try to maintain the relationship. And you certainly should NOT be paying for it! Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

WEHA	Thats not a cinderella story, but he is probally gonna use you to get the surgery and then leave you for some other tranny. you just wait. i hope you do better soon Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

alohafridayalex	well i don't know why you would pay for him to get a sexchange unless you were a lesbian. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

iroc	for better or worse. that would be an irreconcilable difference. go find a real man to love. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No