My husband of three months has cheated on me and im three months pregnant?

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onelight	Love is not reason enough to marry. There is responsibility to Love. You knowingly married a man with a poor emotional relating history. He clearly messaged to you that he could not be trusted before you married him. Yet you loved him, you married him, and, Surprise . . . he is not a man to be trusted. Sorry dear...you brought this on on yourself. A person is only going to treat you the way you let them treat you. What to do now ? What all do in your situation...make choices. Many conversations with him, counseling, separation, divorce, stay together for the child, etc. . . . choices. Love not just with the heart . . . also love responsibly with a keen, mature, aware mind. You know what to do...you just haven't done it yet. . I wish you strength and peace. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

punkins_wife121705	you need to file for a divorce....now.... you shouldnt have an abortion just because you dont like him. you can give it up for adoption. there are plenty of people out there, including myself, that would love to adopt a child. you can hate the husband but please dont take it out on the child... Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

oldfatcowboy	First you ditch the looser, then you check into adoption. Good luck, My daughter got pregnant by a bum and we helped her, we now have the most beautiful blessing in the world. My little granddaughter is our pride and joy. My daughter has met a wonderful guy and everyone is happy. But if you do not have the support of family you might consider adoption. Please don't kill you baby. My other daughter is struggling to find one to adopt. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

Disha	Do not kill your baby if you can not take care of you baby give up for adoption. Get your marriage annulled and go on with your life. You not stupid you just married a loser. When you are young you are entitled to make mistakes. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

aneps_grl	Well, #1, you need to get rid of this dork and focus on yourself and the baby. If your not ready to be a mom, think of all the couples who would die to have a baby and can't. Think of all the possible solutions before you jump to an abortion. I'm not preaching because I believe it is a womans right to choose, but you have to realize that the baby did nothing wrong. I'm 20 and just had a baby girl. She's 5 months now and the cutest baby in the world (I have to say that, I'm her mom!!). I couldn't even contemplate my life without her, even though my life is pretty rough right now. But do whats best for you and follow your heart. This guy doesn't know what he has and you have to move on for yourself. If he hasn't changed yet after being married and getting ready to be a dad, then he never will. YOU deserve so much better and you have to realize that. Best of luck to you. If you need someone to talk to, I know what your going through, Email me (my name @yahoo) Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

NAN G	Follow your heart - he is a loser and will always be. Whatever you decide to do about the baby will have to be your decision. Another option is adoption - so many childless couples would be so grateful to have a child. Good luck to you in what ever your decision is. The guy should be completely out of your life, he is no good, for you or himself. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

answergrrl3	Drop him like he's hot! He's not going to change and whether you decide to keep the baby or not, you don't need him to hurt you anymore. If you do decide to keep the baby, imagine this guy as the father. If you have a girl, do you want him to set the example for what your daughter should expect in a man? Or worse, do you want him to be the man that your son emulates? You are more than deserving of a good person to treat you right. Trust me, you will find him Whether or not you should have the baby is a decision that only you can make. Listen to your heart! I wish you the best possible luck! Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

colin050659	Sorry all i can say is you are daft to of married him if you new what he was like most girls do this to think the lad will stop but alas they do not divorce him but keep the baby to show people what he is like a ........................................... you fill in the blanks Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

Shoshita	if u can keep the baby , keep it , but this guy if he's not likely to be fixed , if he will keep on cheating u , its better off without him , keep your baby & u'll find someone to love u both u & ur baby , begin a new clean life , but ur baby is something that has nothing to do with him , it's God's gift which u should keep , & God won't make u lost , be sure of that . Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

AlexChappel	Why don't you keep the baby and ditch him? You're young so you will find someone else. Get him out of your life and make him pay maintenance. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

reann4239	sweetie, i know you are really mad at him and want to hurt him as bad, but please do not have an abortion, that is one thing you can never take back, your baby will give you more joy than you will ever get from any man! you hang in there sweetie, get a divorce and make the dumb a-- pay child support! you are not thinking clearly, hurting him will in turn hurt you more, please before you do anything so terrible ..hold on , and check out this web site www.healinghearts.org, let the good LORD and your family help you with this ok, hey you can write me if you want to talk , trust me i have been right where you are, and someone was sweet enough to help me too, i now have the greatest son! and what a blessing in my life, and you know what i have a great husband now also, things will not always be this bad, and do not belive for a min. that it is you ok. your husband does not deserve either of you. big huggs! and GOD BLESS. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

Chuck N	Wow nice guy - he was screwing someone else while he had a baby in the oven. DUMP HIM now or really suffer the consequences later. If you dont want an abortion then file for child support. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

Nellynoo	Leave him hes a git.I cant condone abortion though but im not here to judge.I was 16 when i had my 1st and single because he cheated and i,ve never regretted it.Had my 2nd when i was "happily"married he was also cheating.I divorced him and am raising my babies alone and getting my life together.Do what is right for you.No one on here can properly advise.Good luck and be strong xx Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

TP woman	My heart breaks for you. It was unwise of you to marry him after he'd already cheated, but we all make mistakes. My advice is you should definitely leave this guy. But the baby - it's not his/her fault that this happened. Please don't kill your baby. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

Allan S	Leave him and get on with your life he can't be trusted. Once a cheat always a cheat. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

?	divorce him, once a cheater , always a cheater Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

Santa's Elf	I agree with you but you had best hurry if you are going to get an abortion. If you wait any longer you will not be able too. Or you can have the baby and give the greatest gift of all to a couple that cannot have children. Or you can see if your parents will help you out for awhile if you decide to keep the baby. Definately leave him right away and get the divorce. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

Hotte!!	my advie to you is leave your husband i understand you love him but he doesnt treat you with respect and do not get an abortion!! you know that you will love the kid no matter what the circumstances are or you could put the baby up for adoption but make sure you meet the parents and maybe you could even get together with them sometimes in the future so you can see your kid grow up Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

mamabear	Do not get an abortion. You'll regret if for the rest of your life. That is a baby inside of you. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

mystery_lover2u	its truly your descision about the whole abortion thing. so, DONT give him a third chance, no matter what. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

ScottOttack	Please don't kill the little person growing inside you. You will regret that decision your ENTIRE life. I know people who have, and they do. Adopt, you will feel wonderful knowing you've shared life with those who can't create their own. I know people that cry on a regular basis about their inability to procreate. Also, I know MANY adopted people, and they are VERY thankful that they were given the chance to live. My father is one of them. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

oldshoespoetry	whenever anyone is about to split they either get married or have a baby then they split up. Girl get out now whilst you can and have the baby I did and I loved every bloody minute of it. Me and my girl are the best of mates. good luck bird stay strong and remember we are independent woman. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

ticklemeblue	Why should the child suffer for your mistakes...I do believe you legitimately have reason to divorce him...but abortion?....no. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

Sarah C	Yes, you probably should leave him. But don't have an abortion. Think of the baby as something amazing that came out of a bad situation. And hey, you can always get him for child support. Hehe :-) Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

lindsay	i think you should get him out of your life and do what you know will be best for you. No ones gonna judge you for your decisions. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

uzair2987	Get out of your relationship with him immediately. He will continue his behavior. As for your baby, I would say keep the baby, continue your pregnancy and you will be fine, or put your baby up for adoption after birth, find a family that cant have their own baby and give them yours they will be truly happy and blessed! Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

Elle J Morgan	Honey you shouldn't have married him, You deserve better than to be cheated on. You have 2 options,either get an abortion and rid of him,and have your life how you want it. Or rely on benefits and be a single mum Being a mum is wonderful,but you'll never get rid of your hubby. He'll be the baby's father I was 20 when I had my 1st child, divorced by 23, I can honestly say that it's rewarding, but it's hard work having a life too. However you could always study on the open University later on. Its free if you rely on benefits. Thats what I'm doing, I'm studying law so I can be independant and not rely on handouts. What ever you do I would think twice about putting his name on the birth certificate lots of luck Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

mJc	It's better you get a divorce and start your life all over again. Past behavior is a predictor of future behavior and it's likely this guy will always cheat on you. Find out if you can move back home for two years to raise your baby. Finish college, secure a good job, and enjoy your child. It's not about you any more... Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

Livin' La Vida Gay	It's not your fault he's a pig, divorce him ASAP Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

punkmonk713	divorce him but keep the baby. if you really don't want a baby then adoption is an option Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

ebush73	Once a cheater, always a cheater. It's going to be hard, but dump him and move on. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No