My husband is threatening divorce if I don’t make a choice .What do I do?

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Valentina	He has a right to be pissed. Why can't you spend the time with your husband instead of your ex? You are at fault on this situation. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

Sports36	If you truly loved your husband then you you would make the sacrafice for him. this other guy may be just a friend but because there was a relationship in the past there is potentail for a relationship now. Also your married and spent the night at another mans house no matter how innocent its moraly wrong. Why is your husband insucure something happen in the past that haunts him??? Look best advice I can give is the following..... It's not hard to no the right thing to do ..its when you no it its hard to do it. Meaning you no what to do you just dont want to. Good luck Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

sultan395	You seem to me to be an unwise, selfish, short-sughted woman. Your husband should have got rid of you a long long time ago. I hope he wakes up and does something about your extra-curricular activities. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

madbaldscotsman	No you're being unreasonable. You don't seem to be interested in the marriage you're in. You're catering to your friend, not your husband. When I was in Iraq, my wife was having a plutonic relationship with a 'friend', eventually they kissed and eventually she came home (my kids told me this) at 6 AM wearing his shorts. Something had to come off for his shorts to go on. Both of them. People are only human. When you put it in your face and have needs your weakness will finally take over. I've seen it so many times with other people as well. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

flats101	I can't believe you are still married after 5 years.--- I would have kicked you to the curb long ago. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

pamomof4	Put yourself in his shoes. Would you like it if your hubby stood the night at his ex's house?? Your hubby is right...you need to make a decision. Maybe you better look up what the word marriage means. If either I or my hubby had done that the other would have our bags packed and the locks changed. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

Niko	Im sorry Riley i agree with your husband. You are married now, you shouldnt be sleeping over your guy friends house you arent a 15 year old anymore... are you? You can have a best guy friend imo but you have to respect what your husband is requesting as well. I dont think you should always agree with your husband because not everything that comes out may make sense. But in this case it was wrong of you IMO anyway to start hanging out that closely to someone you had something for. Edit By the way, he has a girl friend, and doesnt hang out with her unless your there, thats exactly what you should be doing. Its a choice made based on respect for your wife/husband. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

really now!	dont take this the wrong way but how would u feel if ur husband was friend with his ex even SLEEPING OVER TILL MORNING? u still want the man u need to make a decision and i think u have! is persons like u make it hard for men to trust women cause u sleep around and then we get the bad name! u are not wife material u want to have ur cake and eat it. u digust me really Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

Odessa R	Rather indifferent towards your husbands feelings by falling "asleep" at another mans home , think how you would feel in his shoes .... it's he that didn't come home all night because of falling "asleep" at woman's home he used to date and is back in town now ...........make the right choice Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

Bill I	I would not have been so generous. By the time you got home in the morning, the locks would have been changed and your stuff would be waiting for you in the front yard. You have no respect for your Husband. He won't be alone with his female friends out of respect for you. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

Kari R	You are such a bit**! Drop your "friend" and work on things with your husband. How would you feel if the situation was reversed!?! It is totally inappropriate that you are even in contact with this guy. You "fell asleep" and didnt come home until the next morning...yeah that doesnt sound like you are cheating at all. Whor_! Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

Catherine	Ok I can completly understand were your husband is coming from.. U fell asleep in ur old boyfriends house, u could have been up to ANYTHING! Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

butterfly	It would maybe be different if you hadn't dated the other guy and had just been friends with him all along. You either want to be married to this guy or you don't. You can't have both. I am married and if I ever felt that strongly for someone else, I wouldn't stay in the marriage. It wouldn't be fair to your husband. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

Dilly Dally	Dont blame him for being insecure! You fell asleep on your man-friends couch! Um I think that's rude because your husband should come first! Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

tire chick	you are not serious, are you? i love & trust my husband with all of my heart, but i really dont think i would be ok with him having sleep overs at an ex-girlfriends house. you surely cant be serious with this question, but if you are the answer is: QUIT GOING TO THIS GUYS HOUSE. YOU ARE A MARRIED WOMAN, YOUR HUSBAND HAS EVERY RIGHT TO BE PISSED!!!! i am surprised he was home waiting for you insted of a handful of divorce papers. get a clue or your going to lose him. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

SweetPea	Your relationship with james makes your husband doubt you, doubt himself and doubt your marriage. You have to ask yourself "Is my friendship with James worth losing my marriage?". Yes, it may be a platonic friendship but with the way you are going with James, of course your husband can feel threatened. How would you feel if the tables were turned? I say either end this friendship or turn it down a few notches. What I mean by turn it down a few notches is you shouldn't hang out with James so much, you should definitly not be falling asleep at his house, and you should DEFINITELY include your husband occasionally to hang out with you and James. James should understand now that you are a married woman and if he values you as a friend he should respect that. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

LG	I understand your husband and I am a woman...I would tell you the same thing. Remember you were once connected to James and whatever feelings you had back then can easily return. Don't ruin your marriage because of someone from the past. Unless your marriage isn't that strong and it's rocky...then get a divorce. If I were your husband and I found out you fell asleep on an ex's couch I would have packed your bags and brought it over there. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

LIL C	There is nothing wrong with having a male friend, but it sounds like you still have feelings for this man. As a married woman, you should not be going to another man house, would you like it if your husband did it too? Your husband & family should be your first priority. If you have to ask this question, you should rethink your choices. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

Lisa C	There isn't many Husbands that would not be upset. How would you feel if the shoes were on the other feet? What if your Husband was spending the night at his ex girlfriends house? You deserve to be Divorced. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

Pissed off pussycat!	I assume you had sex with this lawyer guy right? Well if that is the case, I completely agree with your husband! Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

GreekQT	I would never do that to my husband. I think that if you have to ask on yahoo if you should get a divorce or not, you should. Your husband deserves better than you. Don't you see why he's mad? Give him some respect. He's not stupid. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

my8in4u	EVERY man in the world would divorce you....try growing up And the "I fell asleep on his couch"....rriiiiiiight....we KNOW the truth, and so does your husband!!! Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

☻Cheshire Kat☻	Are you even on this planet? You are married and you want to date/sleep with an old boyfriend? You deserve a divorce for doing this to your husband! I feel sorry for him! Either leave this old flame alone or get ready for a fun divorce. Shame on you. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

Tiffany	One of two choices here... 1) let go of your friend and keep your husband or 2) let go of your husband and keep your friend The choices are clear cut - you just have to make one. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

chris m	Ya cant have your cake and eat it too. Make a choice. If he is a ggod a guy as you say, he deserves to be treated better. Does he spend the night at his lady friends? And how would you like it if he did? Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

Dale D	He should be upset. You don't need a "plutonic" relationship that close with another man. It would make any guy feel insecure. So I guess you need to decide who you love more? If you love James more, then I guess you should get a divorce. If not, then give up your friendship with him. Think about it. Can anything positive come from your relationship with James while you're married? The answer is obviously no! So pick which guy you want and go with it. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

maggist97	He is right you can't have you cake and eat it too Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

workingclasshero	yeah, but think about it. If your husband was the one w/ the old friend back in town, falling asleep on the couch and not coming home - puts it in a different perspective doesn't it. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

searching_please	"Accidentally" staying out all night was a big mistake. I think you're either gonna have to leave your hubby for James or cut off all contact with James at this point. You need to decide, who is more important to you? If you have kids with your hubby - choose your hubby. If not, it's up to you! Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

a_poor_misguided_soul	I'd be pissed as hell if my wife did that. Sorry. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

§Sally§	You are responsible for your own actions. Seeing this man so often without your husband present and "accidentally" falling asleep on the couch - you seem to subconsciously want to jeopardize your marriage. I think you really want out. Your husband senses this and is responding accordingly. Prove you still love him and want to be with him only - end this "friendship" with the other guy and work on your marriage. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No