My husband is sexist in bed and its a real turn off, what do I do?

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David B	Okay okay this may be funny but you stop him and be like "Who's the b*tch now"? Haha i was kidding, you should tell him you don't appreciate those hurtful things, even if its turning him on, and if he doesn't stop, show him that your serious by taking LONG breaks with him from not doing it, your excuse can be because he hurts you too much everytime he says those things. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

sant	start the sex conversation first. say your my little whore aren't you.you little b" you get the point. turn it around. then again he might like it. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

Nick	Uh oh!! That's really bad....What he says can make you feel bad no matter how well he performs in bed...He must be in BDSM stuff...wanting you to be so submissive ..There is nothing wrong or disrespectful about treating people the way they want to be treated... Try to call him names to see if that will make him feel bad... Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

GlassHalfFull	Eww! Tell him that if he wants any, he'll have to be romantic. Don't allow him to treat you like that. If he starts, end it right there. Communication is very important in a marriage, does he know that you feel this way? Talk about it, and then follow through. Good luck! Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

fightersoffoo	tell him that if he doesn't stop, that your not going to have sex with him. sex is a tool for getting what you want; if there is something you do not like about your partner, they way they talk, walk, smell, eat their food, you take away sex until they fix it. simple. it will work Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

nikko	You can say that doesnt turn you on.. or do something he doesnt like so he can see how it feels.. maybe you should think about a se therapist.. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

Rugglesworth!	Try female-dominant positions. Get on top of him. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

Jessica	That's all he thinks of you? And you guys are married? I would have broke up with him already... Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

HumanToe	Oh, geez....I don't understand how women can fall in love with men like this. Don't know what to tell you. I wouldn't have married him. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

Lilly	its called BDSM, its a fetish and there is nothing wrong with it as long as the people involved are comfortable. As you are not comfortable, you need to tell him this and say you don't want to be involved. Dont get too upset over it though, it is just a fetish, some people like to dominate their partner (which is what he likes), where as some people like to be the submissive partner, where as some people just want romantic, movie style love. It doesnt mean he loves you less, or that he thinks of you that way - it just means he has a fetish. But if you are not comfortable with it then tell him - he is not a mind reader ( as much as we would like men to be!) and if he doesnt know you don't like it, then he'll keep doing it. TALK to him (he is your husband after all) and tell him you dont like it - this is the only way he'll know youre uncomfortable with it! If he respects you he will stop - no one should force their fetishes on someone who is uncomfortable. Don't take it personally - he doesnt actually think this way of you when your not having sex .... it is just a fantasy and what turns him on. But if you don't like it, then tell him...he can't read your mind and at this point in time, he probably thinks you are just as much into BDSM as he is! So talk to him, you just might be suprised by how he responds :):) Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

Maureen	It sounds like he has anger toward you and/or is into humiliation. Have you asked him to stop doing this? If you have no children, you might think about walking away. There are probably other problems in your marriage if he is saying youre my f doll and thats all you are to me. He does not deserve to have you carry his child and care for his home if he is going to say these things during a time when he should be loving toward you. I would not give him sex. If he cheats on you, you are justified in divorcing him. If you didn't get married in a church, then you have a civil union-get rid of him! Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

nana	you need to talk to him and explain that some of that things he says bothers you. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

Friv	Just say back to him....yeah baby, I am your wh..re, f...k me hard, dont' stop. Then when you're done. Ask him to do it again because you can't get enough of him. See if he can do another one. You have to repeat what he says to you when he's having sex with you. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

niki g	ask him if he likes roll playing ....if he says havent you noticed thats what i do sometimes...then phew...just roll playing and go from there..if its not a more serious talk is in order.....and if it is roll playing let him know you arent too crazy with his version of it..and let him know that once in a while may be fine but not every time... Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

Kourtney M	Tell him to stop or you'll divorce him for everything he's got. If that doesn't work, follow threw. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

ctna	you must be kidding, If not I would get him HELP ASAP !! Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

Dani	Deny him next time. When he asks why (and hopefully he does) just tell him that you don't want to hear about his sexist comments. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

raidergirl1965	Tell him it's not a turn on for you..... I don't know about the inferior part But I enjoy being my husbands Wh**e. It's his fantasy and it gets him hot. If it is not something you enjoy then you need to talk to him. This is a Sex fantasy not real life.....If he treats you like this when you aren't in bed then you have a problem. Those are his fantasies.......what are yours? If you are a willing participant he maybe a willing participant in yours. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

guy.libido	talk dirty back, he is trying to make it hotter. what are you doing, just lying there? Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

Arrika S	Sounds like a real jerk. Tell him to stop and if he doesn't I'd leave him. Don't put up with that!!! Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

Samantha	Communicate to him. Tell him it bugs you and turns you off. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

chinook3254_2006	tell him how it makes u feel Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

shannanm2783	I understand that you do not appreciate him talking to you that way, and it is probably demeaning as well. But to him that is probably what he gets off on. It is a little kinky, but he does not treat you like that any other time, and it is only during intercourse, plus he gives you foreplay!!! I personally enjoy dirty talk in bed, it is a real turn on for me. I think the best thing to do would be to tell him how it makes you feel and ask him why he does it. I think you be surprised at what he says. I am telling you the truth when I say that he does not think of you that way, ever... not even when he is saying it, it is just something that he has learned that gets him off. It is like any other fantasy or fetish and it is probably in the back of his mind at all other times. I also just thought that maybe he does not realize what he is saying at the time, he just goes into overdrive and blurts out things that he thinks are sexy to him. So my advice would be to let him know it bothers you and try to see it from his perspective. I hope this helped. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

poppinoffalot	He likes being with you and sees you as sexually desirable All things being equal-if this is the worst thing you have to complain about then you don't have much to complain about. Try being passive aggressive-control the situation by making him think you like it then steer him to where you want him to be-remember, you have the vagina!!! Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

Riley	If he's usually loving and nice out of the bedroom, he probably likes to talk dirty during sex. A lot of guys and even women like that in bed. Just tell him upfront that you don't like it. Although the "inferior" stuff is a little odd, no one ever said that to me during sex as "dirty talk." Yeah that would bug me too. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

Girliegirl	have you talked to him about it and let him know that it bothers you. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

Viki Lion	SLAP HIM that will teach him a lesson Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

JTY	Some guys like BDSM... so just turn it around, and get on top, spank him, tell him he's your sex toy... you'll probably love it more than he does calling you his *****, try it. :D Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

I am...	wow...I'd smack him and be like ya now your my *****!!! Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

Damon D	Talk to him. Tell him you dont find it very sexy or as a turn. Or try roleplaying with him. Doing roles you both like. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

Brak is Back	Take him on Dr. Phil. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No