My husband is gay?

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?? yaddajean ??	Talk to him and let him know that you know what he is doing and find out what is going on with him. Ask him how he feels and if he is thinking about being out of the marriage. You really just need to talk to him and find out what is really going on, and try to talk when the kids aren't around, so they don't get confused too Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

luvlisteningtomusic	Oh my talk to him. Tell him you are confused and want to know the truth about him. He could be just curious and reading that material. He could be gay as well. The only thing you can do is talk to him and tell him you think something is wrong. You shouldn't live your life worried that your husband will eventually leave you for something you can not ever do to him. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

Anthony M	,Hey, you have been married for ten years, now this drops on you, Have you in this time not known? It strikes me, your Husband has had a lot to deal with, his conscience, his way of life, maybe he wanted to be heterosexual, give him some leeway, why not go away and have a 1 to one somewhere mutual, you have shared something for ten years, please, don't throw that away Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

cobrasnake	Ask him,yes. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

C>/	This could be a little "sex fantasy" that he enjoys, or it could be the sign of something more troubling. Either way,you need to get to the bottom of it (no pun intended). Sit down and ask him outright about his behavior. Take it from there based on his answers. It might not be such a big deal. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

elyslund	Since obviously you are upset about this...enough to ask a question and get general answers on it... Confront him...in a nice, conversational context. Ask him directly and with all honesty on your face, in your movements, and tone of voice. Put him at ease, then gradually get to the point. It'll be healthier for YOU in the long run! Elysabeth...poemhunter Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

Ryan	Does he go to the Proctologist just for fun? Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

CARAMAC	You sound so worried about this, and with good reason. Being 'gay' or having gay feeling just doesn't happen overnight, so if he is 'gay' he must have had these suppressed feelings for some time, and if so, for how long ? His inability to ever have confronted you with this for 10 years, to me says that he even now, has no idea that you've found out, and you (if you decide to confront him with this information) you're going to have to be prepared to either to 'work' through this, or find a more permanent solution, although do consider there may be a reasonable explanation.. who knows... You don't say how old the childen are ? and if they're young, this is obviously going to be harder on you to make any decision that may mean a 'break-up. The only other alternative, is that you stay with him until the kids are older, then, unless you can work it out, leave. You may be able to take on board what's happening, but whatever you decide, there's not just you and your husband to consider is there ?. Make your own decision on this, don't listen to peer pressure, parents, friends, relatives (should you ask for other opinions) it's got to be discussed between your husband and yourself, away from the children, and on your own, with others around you, they may push, persuade, or opinionate, and it's your lives, and future together that's at balance here, not theirs. Counsellors can help, but again that's your decision. Hope you can work this one out.. good luck a friend x Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

Bunny	I think you should talk to him. Maybe he has some issues that he needs to get out that he's only now dealing with. This is serious and I hope that you don't have children since this will greatly affect them also. Talk to him. Find out what's going on and go from there. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

Tammi D	maybe you can find a way to fulfill his fantasies within your marriage without introducing any gay activity or 3rd partner. advice to all the kids out there: don't marry anyone gay Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

Sugarplum	You need to have a serious talk with him.. If you can live knowing he is actually gay and while he seems curious to seek out those things that his sexual desires lead him to, he may never cheat on you.. However if he wants to do more than just look and explore then you might want to get a divorce so he can fulfill what he is looking for and probably has been for years.. You would be surprised at the number of gay men that are married to women with children.. Many are aware of their feelings but fight very hard to not give into them for various reasons. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

Brynna	Oh, my word. Talk to him. Find out the truth. Pray for God to lead your heart on the right path. I'll pray for you. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

Razzle	accept it...he aint gonna change is he! Not very fair of him to do this behind your back but its not easy to deny something deep down inside you so he isnt totally to blame for his feelings. talk to him...but accept if he has these feelings they cant be surpressed no matter how hard he may try. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

Watch IT!	Cut of his wanker, then Shoot his sorry *** Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

Jaclyn&Dave	Keep going the way you have been. That is obviously resulting in a healthy marriage. Seriously, though: He may just be curious, you need to talk it over like rational adults before panicking. You might even get lucky and get in on some MMF threesomes. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

trish s	Ok,i'll assume this is a serious question. What would you do if you found out it was another woman he was seeking ? Affairs are affairs aren't they ? Can you still love him and live with him if he's contemplating or even being unfaithful ??? Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

napqueen	make two phone calls right away -- one to your doctor (to make an appt. for an HIV test), & the second one to your lawyer (to start divorce proceedings). Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

PinkProf	He might not be gay. Maybe he is just curious. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

just me	Send a fake pic/profile to prove what he is doing. Give his response to your lawyer. He is gay. Get a divorce. Get a STD screen. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

Black Ribbon ♫	Gosh! I am upset that he would choose a man over you!!! I dunno what to tell you, hun, but pray for him and try to talk him out of homosexuality! Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

Stick	If you want to stay married, then dress-up like a man and buy a strap-on. If not, then seek lots of alimony. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

squeaky	I think he is being very mean and if he has been unfaithful it should be treated as that not give him slack for being confused. If he is actively looking for other men give him the boot. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

wondermom	Holy cow! You've got to talk to him about it and see what it means. Make sure he is happy in your marriage and that everything is okay there. Then make sure if he has ever acted upon any of these urges. If he has, then you have to make your own decisions. The first of which is to get tested for STD's including HIV. Let him know cheating is cheating whether it is a man or a woman. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

Bob H	That's it? that's your complaint? Husbands run around, come home with STDs, gamble away the paycheck, drink and beat up their wives, run off and leave them penniless, but yours reads porn? How do you stand it? Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

iluvmeeee	i would definitely confront him about it because no matter how much he luvs me and the children he would have to kick rocks..... i wouldnt want a gay man. so u should talk to him and see wassup so u can make the decision whether to stay with him or not. alot of men hide things from women and kinda take away our choice so clear the air Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

whoa mamma!!!	My Goodness.....if this isn't a red flag I don't know what it could be, He may very well love you and your children but that doesn't mean he isn't living a double life....speak to him about his soon! Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

I've got it!	talk to him about it.he might not be gay.. communicate... Avoid being accusational if you can.. think friendship! Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

louise d	you must be heartbroken, I know this isn't the answer that you probably want, but i would leave him A.S.AP. If what your saying is true then you finding out wont stop him doing these things. if he acts on these fantasies it could lead to him giving you all sorts of stds. good luck with this one. xxx Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

stuengland2004	Have a HIV test. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

littleman	Maybe he just has a curious streek... I suggest talking to him in a non-judgemental manner and see what he has to say Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

The Voice of Reason	Pray, and then do the best you can! Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No