My husband attacked me, last nite in his sleep, what should I do?

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Jenn Brewers Girl	How, would be my first question. Sexually, physically, both... This had to scare you, if it was while he was asleep and unaware have him seek a sleep therapist. I used to have night terrors along with sleepwalking and was prescribed amitriptyline, it kept me in bed all night-worked well. Sleep in another room til he gets help while you sleep...I know it will stink, but look at it as temporary and safe. First priority is to keep yourself safe... Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

drewe33	sleep on the couch and hope he doesnt follow u!! lol jk Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

Matttttttttttttttttt	seek professional help. a matter this important shouldn't be resolved on yahoo answers. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

Wise Old Crone Liz	If it happens again get him to a sleep clinic it is not you he is attacking it is something in his dreams Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

tigergurl247	well, if it happens agen, consult a doctor, or talk to him, mayb it wuz a bad dream! Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

Justin R	tell him, and get him 2 a doctor or something! Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

Bella	That's scary.... maybe you should take him to see a doctor... what if it gets too out of control one day??! Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

stuffys_sweets	Talk to him about it, he could have nightmares and episodes like my friend does. She is ADHD and bipolar. When she has an episode we have witnessed her tearing off the sheets completely off the bed and going into a burst of rage for up to an hour. She also talks in her sleep while in these episodes, so it helps to sit back and listen so you can tell them about it later. Whatever you do, don't touch him while he's in this state though. We've tried to touch her while she was in this state and she lashes out, hitting as hard as she can because she thinks her dream is really happening. She just recently did this again while sleeping over at her sister's and completely destroyed a room in the process. She has 2 children, and they have been caught in the cross fire during at least one of her episodes. The people that know her episodes and how to deal with them most intimately are her children and us. No one else really knows or understands it. Her current fiance, my husband's friend, hasn't even witnessed one yet. He has no idea what he's in for. She has to be on medication just to mellow it out. If she doesn't, well let's just say, you don't want to share the bed with her lol. We've witnessed them at least 3 or 4 times. Stress and depression magnifies her episodes. Talk with him about it and suggest going to the doctor to have him checked out for your own peace of mind. =) p.s. My husband is ex Navy, so he has flashbacks from what he has seen, something similar. You cannot touch them in this state. If you do they will lash out at you, not knowing it's you. I have witnessed my husband have at least 5 flashbacks. He is also bipolar. You have to let them go through their spell, wait it out, don't wake them up. Waking up a person in the middle of a nightmare can actually hurt them. When he goes through this I sit nearby and wait it out. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

barndog	well was he dreaming, if he was then go to the doctors and see if he has a sleeping disorder. if he does it on a regular bases and your getting really hurt, sleep in another bedroom. how is your relationship outside of sleeping with him, that will usually show his motivation or lack of. Dr. B Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

Oluremi B	consult with a doctor or talk to him about it or leave him if he is doing it on purpose Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

georgia.whalen	If you have not already, talk to him about it. See if it was just a nightmare, or perhaps a bad day, or maybe you were just in a position that threatened him. If it is one of the reasons above, you just give it a little while to see if the problem resolves itself. If it does not, perhaps have a body pillow between you two or visit a sleep therapist. If his attacks are not one of the above reasons and are intentionally viloent, seek help, via anger managment, councelling or a friend or family. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

KittyNyc	Kick his nuts next time he trys..; Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

sugariley	stab his azz tonight and tell him you had a dream you were returning the favor Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

nickle	Confront him about it. If it seems to be something he unconciously did, maybe he needs to see a doctor? If he conciously did it, pretending to be asleep.. return the favor when he's sleeping! Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

Cheyenne	ask him about it... Maybe he was dreaming and having a bad dream and thought you were a monster or somthing >< Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

Kat	Kick his ***. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

GREGORY L	did you ask him about it Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

peachandjol	tell him details of what happened. if it happens again leave the bed or put him out of the bed. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

xxcoldkissxx	talk to him about it, maybe it was just a bad dream. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

.	Take a bat to bed with you, and attack him in his sleep. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

Sally G	You should have your husband get a thorough physical...this can be due to physical issues. I've heard of this happening before. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

Drakona	tell him what happened Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

Ian	1. Talk to him about it. See what happend. 2. Has it happened before? 3. Is he willing to do something about it? 4. If not, what are you willing to do to protect yourself? If he was having a night terror (I've had them) he needs to speak to a specialist as soon as possible. There is therapy and medical treatment for that kind of thing: http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Night_terror Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

Negativ	My wife did this to me three times. We didn't even fight before going to sleep. It was very strange indeed. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

dani_babe_lml	get him help... Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

Pandora	Nothing unless it happens again. Could have just been a bad dream. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

CBnoles	Your husband needs to see a therapist. My husband did the same thing, he has night terrors. Most nights he would just scream out in his sleep and would get mad if I tried to tell him he was dreaming, he thought he was awake! The therapist put him on a sleep med and antidepressant. It has helped dramatically. It normally happened when he was stressed about something. If it happens again please ask him to go to therapy. I woke-up to my husband trying to choke me. When he heard what he did he agreed. That was over 10 years ago. But also remember your husband may not know what he is doing while he is asleep so don't be confrontational about it. Just see if he remembers it happening. Good Luck Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

dschmidty412	you need to be more specific? does he know what's going on? If he doesn't then he needs to see a doctor. He could hurt you and not know what is going on. Does he frequently sleep walk? Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

Anji	Wear body armor! Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

Got Security?	he had a night terror, which is a sleeping disorder where people become physically terrified in their sleep and act it out for real. Get him to a sleep specialist asap. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

Eos	Hi. This happened to me three days ago. I still don't know what to think about it. I can tell you that I'm still afraid of sleeping with him. In fact, I don't anymore. My husband set up an appointment with a doctor who diagnosed him with an anxiety disorder but didn't recommend any treatment. Usually, people diagnosed with anxiety disorders are referred to therapists for treatment or given medication. I'm wondering if your husband's GP can give him any recommendations? Take care of yourself and do whatever you need to do to feel safe. Good luck. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No