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cristine d
My hubby wants me to swap for a night for his best friend's wife.?
My hubby and his best friend talked and plan to swap me for a night to his best friend's wife. His best friend and his wife are long long time family friends who lived in the other country. They are here for vacation for a 2 weeks. They had already agreed and arranged the meeting to be held somewhere outside our city few days from now. I felt nervous about this plan. I feel to enjoy anticipating what will happen after. We have open in regards to our sex life. We have both shared our fantasies that add spice-up our sex. But we have never been into swapping. What shall I do, Do I need to refuse or accept? I am confused and please serious advise is urgently appreciated.



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foxychick
i wouldnt do it but its up to you.......if you feel comfortable with him being with someone else then fair enough but think about what'll happen after......can you live with him sleepin with someone else & wat about him, wil he be happy wit it.......its a bad idea

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bigjerry61@sbcglobal.net
Do what you want to do, just remember, it's you and your husband that's going to have to live with it for the rest of your lives. If that's what you want and can live with it, go for it. If you can't live with it, don't do it.................

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told_wife_checking_mail
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I can't say yes or no, but your relationship, all around, will never be the same.

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tiuliucci
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If you are into the idea and you want to swap, then enjoy.

Take care,
Troy

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trouble13d
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I THINK IF YOU DO IT WILL BE THE END OF YOUR RELATIONSHIP THE WAY YOU KNOW IT,AND YOU WONT LOOK AT YOUR FRIENDS THE SAME AGAIN WHAT IF HE LIKES THE WAY SHE IS MORE THAN YOU THEN HE'LL START WANTING TO TRY IT MORE SOONER OR LATER YOU ARE JUST A TOOL SO HE CAN GET LAID BY OTHER WOMEN,THE IS NO WAY ON EARTH I WOULD LET ANOTHER MAN TOUCH MY WIFE,SEE HER NAKED ,SHE'S FINE AS ALL GET UP,BUT OUR LOVE IS JUST THAT LOVE AND ITS FOR EACH OTHER NOT A PUBLIC PLAY GROUND,THERE'S NOTHING IN THE WORLD THAT WOULD GET ME TO LET ANOTHER MAN TOUCH MY WIFE,IT WOULD EAT ME ALIVE AND DESTROY WHAT MARRIAGE IS ALL ABOUT ,LET NO MAN COME BETWEEN WHAT GOD PUT TOGETHER,MAY BE NEXT TIME HE MAY NEED SOME MONEY,AND RENT YOU OUT,THEN WHAT WOULD HE BE A HUSBAND OR PIMP

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sweetie52379
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It's not all its cracked up to be. Believe me, I had a 3some with my husband and his FB and I wish that I never had!! My husband was fine with it, but after doing it I was feeling bad myself. Then he wanted me to do it again and I said NO. Then that's when we had to spice up our sex life so that I didn't have to do that anymore and feel bad about myself. Plus it is adultery. If you need to spice up your sex life that is not the way to do it. It may ruin your marriage and also your friendship with your friends.
Good Luck!!

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bette69
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Do what makes you happy but I would never do it

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mmmkay_us
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Just the fact that you are unsure about it

and are seeking advice

tells me that you are not comfortable with this

and are not at ease

so..............................


say No

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Joe
Each person is different. i would read this
http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Wife_swapping#Practical_objections

BUt my opinion is if he wants another women then are you second best ? doesnt this undermine you in anyway. its like being cheated on with permission. and my opinion only is if he wants someone else he doesnt love you enough.
but hey its your life. i also think it will ruin your relationship now.

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gar99
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are you into your husbands best friend? it depends obviously your thinking you want to. are you going to be all together? i also think that makes a difference. i personally do not believe in this. but to each is own.

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L M
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um.. don't do it. I would refuse because it will cause long-term problems in your marriage after you are done.

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Rein
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I wouldn't do that, it would make me cry. First of all the fact that my husband wouldn't care if I were with another man would be really hard to swallow and the fact that he could have sex with another woman while I was doing that would really upset me. I know some people swinging works for. I am not one of them. Love and sex in my marriage go hand in hand. I like that my husband thinks of me as a lady around others and that I am his (fill in the blank) in our bedroom, kitchen, bathroom, car.....etc. I am precious to him and he is precious to me. I think that by doing that it would kill off a lot of things that are special and I would mourn their loss.

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Love Life
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I think this works for some people out there. It is RARE though that it would work. Men and women have natural jealousy tendancies. Not avoidable. If you were into it 100 percent along with all other parties involved, then it might work. I know a set of two best friends. They swapped with each other for a long time. Everything was fine. Then, the one woman's husband started seeing the one man's wife on the side and not including the other spouse in the whole thing. He started to fall in love with the other wife. His wife divorced him and broke up a marriage of lots of years with two children's lives at stake. Don't do this unless you are willing to accept all of the possible consequences.

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Crooked
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I'm no expert first of all, and I have no experience when it comes to swinging, or swapping. No experience with threesomes either... But I've heard and read lots of questions and answers...and those who have had experience, say be very very careful. The aftermath may be very damaging. Think this through...and I think you already think it's not right, just because you came online and asked the question here....

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praise t
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sounds like a very very very bad idea. some fantasies are just meant to remain fantasy.and they mad the whole arrangement and u did nit knwo. tell your husband that something else that does not involve swapping would be good.

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Tikky
This boils down to what YOU feel. Don't let him talk you into it or anyone tell you yes, go ahead. He and his buddy should have consulted with you guys, the wives before the arrangements - first and foremost. Sounds like they didn't. Then think about whether this is something you can live with after it's done. Some people have issues in relationships after this, and some want to do it more often. First, think about it - do I (and I mean I..not we) want to do/try this....then, can we (you and the hubby) survive it after it's over with the latter coming after a YES vote on the first. The us question can include the hubby - but I bet he'll be for yes. Only you can decide...!
Best of luck...!!

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allan
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it's just a different angle seeing ur love one. me and my wife have been doing it about 2 years. it's not only spice up our sex life, we love each other more since then.
i would just tell u this: JUST DO IT!

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Niel
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Such a sick plan. I wouldn't do it ever. Its totally upto u though, depending how much sick u r also. But i think u should refuse.

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Allison, aka Nice Lady
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If this is something you don't want to do, don't do it.

If this is something that intrigues you then you can discuss it, but that still doesn't mean you have to do it.

Be honest. Do you want to, or not? If not, end of story. If so, discuss.... you still may opt not to.

EDIT after rethinking this I think you should refuse, but my reason is not the same as others. It seems your husband planned this without even discussing with you, assuming he could coax you into it. This stinks. I say no.

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madsmaha1
Weirdos....normal people do not do this!!!!!!!!!!

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OzDonna
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It sounds like things have been planned for you rather than with you and reality is a lot different to fantasy. That situation is okay between consenting adults but if you aren't consenting then dont do it.

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al4kitten1
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For the safety of your marriage refuse. Often when other people are brought into a marriage it wrecks the marriage. Talk it over with you hubby and let him know how you feel remember to explain why you feel uncomfortable.

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Scigirl
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utter destruction! disgusting! why even be married? what's the point? i hope you don't teach your kids that this is how marriage is.

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Bunny
Bad idea, take it from experience, this will lead to trouble! You need to have counseling with your husband.

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leedsmikey
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Don't do anything that makes you feel uncomfortable.
If you are not sure about it then it will probably end in tears!

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Brandy
i dont think so.
this plan could get very complicated.
plus, you are married to your husband.
and only to you husband. (remember your vows???)
i wouldnt do it.

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Dr. Deth
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if you're not into it, don't do it.

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windybrr
you gotta be an idiot.

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some-yank
Thou shalt not commit adultry. Further explaination is not needed here.

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qq5121971
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do not do it
your relation will not be the same again

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plumprump26
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Honesty, there is nothing wrong with spicing up you sex life. However, swapping wives that's crossing the line. If you should go through with this what will you husband ask of you next, " to get a sex change." Seriously, if you really are uncomfortable about the whole idea you need to talk with your husband about your feelings.

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