My hub cheated 5yrs ago, and now again..should I leave him?

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cannot_remember_chit	Hun leave him, or change your name to matt for walking on Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

beautifulAngel	well first u should hire a private investigator , i think its better to have proof . and once u get ur proof u should leave him because hes an *** who doesnt care about his family . obviously he doesnt care about u or the kids or why else would he do that? and dont worry about being a single mom there is lots of help . plus u will get child support for each kid so money wont be a problem . u can also go back to school so u can have a better job . and dont worry about who ur gonna leave the kids with when ur not there , there are babysitters and daycare . Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

CityGirl_loveselvis	Be there done it and leave now! you will regret it later. men are like children you give them a little and they take a whole bunch. When we forgive them its like a slap on the hand because we keep forgiving him. But one day some day we need to stand up to them and tell them how it is. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

bebop	Yes Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

falon	try counseling first. if that doesnt work you might have to leave him. sorry. me and my husband went through the same thing. we were lucky to make it through it. we are happier now then we ever were. hope the same thing goes for you. its a hard thing to go through be strong. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

mmurray001	your husband cheated with our best friend have youforgiven the both or just one.listern move on and let go of your fears. best of luck Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

jessie	Once a cheater - always a cheater & we women learn that from experience.... If you feel you deserve better - then leave him and move on... If you want to put up with his lying/cheating, don't change a thing. What do you want to do? Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

girlnextdoor409	If you decide to stay this will be the rest of your life. Always some other woman, lies and always feeling on guard. There are millions of single parents out there, they do a fine job and yes it's hard but doable. I wish you the best, I think you can do better. Good luck. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

luvieduvie	NOT WORTH IT! Leave him! Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

petunia0384	Well, I might sound cruel here, but hey, you asked... So... YES. He cheated on you with your best friend when you were pregnant, and you stayed with him?! I'm sorry, but that's crazy. What kind of "man" cheats on a pregnant woman? Now he's being shady again behind your back, so get out NOW. You're 5 years too late as it is. You need to have more respect for yourself and stop letting him treat you that way! He does it because he knows you let him get away with it. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

june	Yeah you should leave him, twice is really really enough. He will do it again, first time did not stop him, nor the second, what makes you think he will the third time? Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

Maindrian Pace	seek help from a marriage counselor quick, hes not taking his marriage vows serious, don't use your child as a last resort to decide your decision, talk too family, talk to friends.good luck Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

eagleatlast	This is a great question for Talk it Over With Mama.com Please check it out... But to make a long story short, my take on it is this...nobody really changes without alot of work....Leopards don't change their spots...but they learn how to camoflage better... Go to the site... Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

SheRa	I'd get a job and then get the heck out of there. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

¨Śŵâĝĝŝ¨	Sorry to hear about this, he is a selfish pig that falls under the category of once a cheater, always a cheater. Hire a good divorce lawyer and take him to the cleaners. Good luck dear. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

frawlicious	Let him go. You know the phrase once a cheat always a cheat. Move on with your life. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

ohiojeff	yeah, you can maybe try again after once depending on the whys and such, but after that, it's over for sure. he has shown this is going to happen over and over. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

Steven's Mommy	I'm sorry to hear all this but I have to say he will cheat on you again...and since you have taken him back before he knows you won't go anywhere and that's why he does it. If I were you I'd kick him to the curb and get a real man. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

Sunshine	YES SILLY Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

spagirl23188	Okay obviousley he is doing it again, I would tell him that you know and that you have already given him a chance and he blew it and tell him how hurt you are. I would do the best for you and your kids future... Good Luck! Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

marines_sweetie	leave him you can do better Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

ntu	he doesnt deserve you just leave him, life will be better that way Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

Jessie	I think that you should leave. He is showing that this is how he's going to continue to be. I'm weird enough to not even be mad about it. If this were my husband I would just say "I've seen the text messages, it's clear you would prefer not to stay committed to me. Let's figure out what to do next." Then decide who's leaving, how is custody going to be handled, should you start with separation or go straight to divorce. There is no point in getting mean and vengeful. Then he'll be that way back. Just be mature and clear that you can not be in an unfaithful marriage. I'm so sorry you have to go through this. Some people do make their marriages work after this I was just saying what I would do. Good luck to you whatever you decide. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

elvlayarvvi fEisty wife and mom	dump him...he thinks you will forgive,,, again! so, leave...find a faithful man...for your and your daughter! he is no example of a man to her at all! please leave...=(... Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

Jackie B	screw that loser men like that should die Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

♥LovEz♥	dump him. if u don. he'll thik ur worthless and a piece of junk. and he'll think he has all power over u. ur ur own woman. leave him.. sho him whos boss. but first talk to him about it. dont jump to conclusions; ask him if he loves u truly. if he doesnt leave him. trust yur heart.. not me Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

menya zavut kaktyn	Yes you should leave him! Once a cheater, always a cheater! He is a jerk, & you deserve better! Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

kitten	****' leave him!!!! My god, he's cheated on you before and he is going to do it again!!! I would have left him for good the first time if he **** around on you while you were PREGNANT WITH HIS CHILD!!! RUUUUUUUN!!!! Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

BK	Leave him now, and don't look back. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

....	1 - get a lawyer 2 - show them all this evidence 3 - start divorce proceedings 4 - get a job 5 - find a place to live 6 - pack your things when he is at work 7 - move to your new place 8 - serve him divorce papers Why you didn't do that the first time is beyond me. Once a guy cheats he ALWAYS cheats. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

~NIKKI~	yes you should leave him. He has no respect for you, your mistake was giving him a second chance to do it again, things will never be the way they were...they can only be the way they are. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No