My fiance suggested we have a threesome before we get married. Should I just make him happy?

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U wish U had this	Good idea let him screw another chick right infront of you so he won't cheat!LMAO Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

Anna J	if you are really uncomfortable with it...stand your ground....if he doesnt respect your wishes...then obviously he doesnt respect you....For me...i couldnt do it...I could never lay there and watch my husband be with another girl....sorry...not my thing...guess i am selfish that way. And....i would always be thinking...well is he calling her...is he having alone time with her...etc...it usually isnt a good idea for a couple in a committed relationship....lots of issues will arise!!!! Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

jt	If my fiance suggested I do this, he wouldn't be my fiance any more. Dump him - I see cheating in your future. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

Barbara E	I think it is in very bad taste to ask the person you are planning to marry to include another person in what should be a true and intimate sharing of your complete self with the ONE you love. Tell him "NO" and be definite. There is no place in your relationship for someone else. The fact that he even suggests this should set off big alarms for you. I think this is a man who cannot be trusted to be faithful to just one person. ( I assume he is suggesting that you include another woman? If he wants to include another man I would be quite surprised and then I would suggest maybe he isn't sure of his own sexual identity.) Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

KatB	Definitely do it, then when he keeps asking for more and more sexual favors, and they get kinkier and kinkier, you'll have already had the threesome, so you should have no problems going along with any additional requests. Then, when he starts disrespecting you because you've gone along with whatever he wants, no matter how you personally feel, it won't matter, because he'll be used to doing/getting what he wants anyway. Then, when you start to feel really hurt and used and depressed, get back on this board and ask what everyone thinks again. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

ilovemysoldier	hell no!! he'll be more likely to "wander off" if u have the threesome because he'll think being with other women is okay. let him know that ur getting married!! that means being eachothers ONE AND ONLY!! forever! (yeah, im a freak about marraige, cant help it, lol.) Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

az_mommma	I wouldn't marry him to begin with. If he is actually willing to do something like this I wouldn't trust him ever. If he can't be happy with you then let him go. If he is this obsessed with having a threesome then it's only a matter of time before he's off cheating on you. You cannot build a faithful, loving, lifelong relationship when it starts off with something so wrong as bringing another person into you bed. Get rid of him before you are married with kids and feel stuck. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

Peppa J	I thing your guy is giving you a pretty good idea of who he really is. Ask him if he means two guys and you, or you, him and another girl. Tell him it would be okay if there could be two guys. Haha I bet he'll change his mind fast! Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

martiek7	I think if you do this, you should be prepared for the consequences you may be faced with afterwards. Be sure to discuss all the "what if's" before you proceed. If you are confident within your heart that all will be okay - do what you want. If not - never agree to do it. Your fiancee may have fantasies - but should never be putting you into a position where you are uncomfortable. SImply by him making a repeated request that he knows your not into it - shows me a lack of respect for your feelings on the issue. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

Kris D	I think the only reason you should do that is if you want to. I would never think to ask my wife to be for something like that, that just makes me question his loyalty. But certainly dont do something you arent comfprtable with and definately not just to please him. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

lucyshines49	Are you crazy? This guy will cheat before after and during marriage. He should not be asking you to do something sexual you do not want to. Might be a good idea to call off the wedding. fine someone who will treat you with the respect, love that you deserve. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

bob t	so he wants to spread his Herpes to someone else before he marries how thoughtful Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

Worldtraveler	if you do this, what else would he want you to try. Don't do it. If he respects you he will understand and back off the issue. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

Jimithy ™	No. Don't do anything you're not comfortable with. Threesomes tend to divide couples anyway. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

halloweenbride97	NO WAY!! If he loves you - he should respect you. No decent man would ask that of the woman they love & want to marry. If he asks this before your married - what will he want after - an Orgy? I would not only say no - but I would think twice about marrying this guy. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

pretty_in_pink	no, don't do it Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

KR52	No. It will ruin your relationship. And if you think he's going to cheat on you in the first place, why would you marry someone you don't trust? Just a thought. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

dwh12345	Nothing good can come out of a threeway..It will come back to haunt you at some point Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

Fugitiveangel	No way! Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

pinniethewooh	No. What is he going to ask for next? If you are uncomfortable, he should let it go. Keep it in fantasy land. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

Barbara B	I think you know the answer to this one. If he's insisting on something that makes you uncomfortable, what does that say about his love - or respect even - for you? Call off the wedding. This guy isn't ready for commitment. Do it now. Make it stick. This guy is a loser. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

5wks & 4day!!!!!	If he loves you then he would understand that you don't like that and wouldn't do it. That has ruined many relatioships and I don't think you want it to ruin yours. But it is your call. But I wouldn't do it. good luck no matter what you do. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

hotvw1914cc	NO< NO< NO , if hes not happy with you only Dump him. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

Ima Stressed Out	I think you need to send him packing to the 3rd person. If he is already wanting to do this it will only get worse. If your afraid he is going to cheat on you get rid of him your better than that and do not deserve to be treated that way. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

Princess Cupcake	Are you crazy? If he wants this dump him or make him choose. you're better then this and have respect for yourself. Fashionable Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

pgsl	Are you sure your fiance really loves you enough? he must be joking, right? Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

Sean	three somes never work out.... someone always gets there feelings hurt Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

Mr. Bugsme	That's ridiculous - dump him. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

orcastrated	thats gonna cause problems down the road, plus if he is pushing for a 3 way, hes probablly gonna cheat on you anyway. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

H	Granting him this wish will not keep him from cheating in the future. Stick to your beliefs on this one. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

bust15nutz	yes if its his last request! Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No