My fiance beat me and I want to know what to do.?

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Emily Dew	Break it off now. I speak from experience. You say this is the first time it's ever come to violence, but believe me, it won't be the last. He'll always have some excuse -- you pushed his buttons, he's under a lot of stress -- and he'll always have an apology. What happens when you have children? Parenting is REAL stress! I know you've got a lot of dough wrapped up in this wedding, but believe me, it's nothing compared to what you're going to pay to divorce him later one. Tell your parents what happened and let them inform everyone that the wedding is being cancelled or postponed indefinitely. They don't have to tell them why. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

Pretty Young Thing	Gotta go gotta leave Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

kroosct	once they start it only gets worse I've been in many an abusive relationship trust me a leopard never changes his spots marriage is a serious commitment and you don't want to live the rest of your life like this I'm sure he will tell you how sorry he is and that it will never happen again but watch your back!!! i would think twice about getting married and why are you hitting him?? Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

angelzwings20032001	DON'T marry the jerk! The blows lead to fractures and head injuries and possibly paralysis and death. Don't kid yourself. If he loved you he never would have thought of hurting you that way. He has an ugly side and you happened to be the one that found it. Thanks to him. Get away from him as soon as you can. Call the wedding off. He is a coward in the worst way. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

Jaymie	Beat him back! Leave him. Cancel the wedding. You don't need that in your life. Who cares if everyone loves him, he obviously doesn't love you enough not to punch you in the head, and well, you don't want to marry someone who is going to use you as their personal punching bag...if they do it once, they'll do it again.. Leave him, and seriously, beat him back. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

cfoster001	Hope you take this advice seriously. DON'T MARRY HIM! If he is showing this behavior now, you will see it when you are married and it won't go away until he gets help. Is this the type of man you want to marry??? Is this the type of man you want for your future kids??? Be concerned about your safety, not about the wedding date and guests. No body has a right to be treated like that! He should have been arrested for assault. Please don't marry him. You need to go back to your parents and file for a restraining order on him. He is a violent man. Don't let this be another statistic! You can email me if you need to talk. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

flbeachbumus	RUN AWAY AND DON'T LOOK BACK. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

Imposter	Without a shred of doubt - don't marry him. Sorry. On the bright side, there are "Report Abuse" links all over this site...82 and counting with a pretty consistent message... Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

baldy	It will only get worse. get out of this and cancel your plans. You don't want to be a battered wife. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

Mist	I would say LEAVE HIM. That is just a taste of what its in the way for you once you are married. If you can, defenetely call it off, he is not the one for u, If he beats you, that aint right. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

madbaldscotsman	Do NOT marry him and get as far away as possible. You don't have to show proof to get a restraining order. Do you ant that for the rest of your life? There are plenty of dudes better than him who don't hit. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

*~ Garden Empress~*	RUN, honey if he was that way before marriage. He will never change, do you want to end up the next news story because he couldn't handle it anymore. Leave now before you can't. OMG, honey I know where your at right now. It's not a good thing to stay. So what if he's up standing. He beats you, leave, for your safety. WHat if you had a child, how would you handle him hitting your child. If you don't think he will. Your wrong. I've been there, they will always be that way. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

Nanneke	One strike and he's out. No second chances when violence is involved. Run as fast as you can. He is not a very upstanding guy. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

Joe B	Thats no way to treat a lady. That dude is no man. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

Fresh Princess <3	Oh my gosh, definitely get out of it. Call that hotline for spouse abuse too. Heck, call the police! Once they start hitting you, they will not stop. That is a huge red flag. Your wedding seriously needs to be canceled. There is no excuse for hitting! He has problems, and they do not need to be your's. He does not deserve you. He will not change. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

lauren_poren	my sister had this problem... she dropped the guy and i suggest you do the same Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

Marcao	Call off the wedding, because this temper problem could escalate into something much worse if unresolved. Studies have shown that men who display outbursts of physical outbursts before marriage continue to assault their wives after tying the knot. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

gremlin_98_01	I would cancel the wedding, break up with him, and leave him as fast as you can, once a man has hit a woman, he will repeat this action throughout the relationship, accidental or not, theres no excuse for abuse. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

sototallymonica	Cancel the wedding and break up with him. Contact your local battered womens shelter. This is just the beginning, and it will only get worse. You dont want to bring children into this situation. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

drea	Call off the wedding, get a restraining order from him, and tell someone you trust about the incident. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

Julie	call the po'po on his *** Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

tamara_cyan	You'd rather not disappoint 300 people who probably don't even care about you and put up with violence for the rest of your relationship? You DO know these things never get better. He hit you now (punched the hell out of you in fact), it'll continue. Don't become a statistic, girl! Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

Vickie	call it off honey... if he hit you once and thinks he s gotten away with it because you stay with him thats gonna be his excuse the next time and the time after that... its a vicious cycle Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

alwayscurious	You are either naive or very stupid. I hope you are just naive. You should call off the farce of a wedding first. No marriage will survive violence. You should report him and get him out of your life, unless you want to have a lifetime of beatings and eventually him cheating on you. Don't be so dumb. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

resigned	GET OUT.......................IF KE WILL DO IT ONCE HELL DO IT AGAIN. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

nostromobb	Say goodbye, wish him well and kick his *** to the curb. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

TKD540	Cancel the wedding, you don't deserve to suffer this crap for any longer. He doesn't deserve any woman. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

Girly-Girl	Get out as soon as you can, you don't need it. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

cireengineering	Drop him like a bad habit, it's only going to get worse. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

LD	Cancel the wedding, call the police! I'm not kidding! "upstanding" people don't hit other people. He's a loser. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

NATO	Say bye to him...Cancel the wedding... Or you will be in hell... Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No