My Husband is different.?

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Icy U	I've been married for less than 3 years, and we already have this problem. I am just like your husband, and my wife has mentioned to me that I am like that. It is not that I do not want to be more how she would like, and I certainly love her as much as I always have, but I just don't think of things like that. There are various reasons why things are this way, but without knowing more, I would have to say that the best thing you can do is to not nag and just try to be the best wife you can be, despite anything he might say or do (or not say or do as the case may be). Try seducing him. Spice things up. Make plans to go out on dates like when you were dating. Have fun with him. Men also a creatures of adventure, so if you can, try to find some way for him to have some sort of adventure. It will help him to feel more alive. Even though it has nothing directly to do with your relationship, that feeling might carry over into your relationship and help things be more like they used to, or better. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

Darth Maximus Macleoud	I would say he's just comfortable where he is at in life. Ask if he is even interested in sexual realtions. Maybe he needs other stimulations, do something spontaneous that he is interested in, hopefully you know what he likes by now. Let him know that he is no less of a man if he doesn't want intimate intcourse relations. Maybe he is suffering from depression. Ask him what he is feeling with out being seductive or with out high pressure to answer, write him a letter where he might be able to think about it, and reply in writing. Compassion and Empathy towards your hubby with get further than jealousy or spite. Being defensive and to suspect cheating is not adviseable at first, to automatically assume infidelity becauase he is not being intimate w/ you is not the way to go. If one of your children is a teen age girl he maybe afraid to be intimate because he doesn't want her to get pregnant, if that makes sense to you. Remember always, compassion before condeming. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

A O	Go with your gut. When you sense something is wrong, but the words don't sound right and the body doesn't look right, and you feel something is wrong, there is. Pay attention to that. He sounds complacent and indifferent and disattached. Everyone is attached to something. What is he attached to? Gambling? Drinking? Another female? What about a male? If he's not interested in you, then you should find out what is catching his interest. Of all the stories I have heard of women hearing from their male/female partner "You're overreacting", they really aren't. You are worrying because something, SOMETHING is telling you there is something wrong. Well, there is. Find out what it is. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

dlgrl=me	hate to say it, but it does sound like he is having an affair or just doesn't want to be married anymore, sorry, i could be totally wrong, but that is my impression. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

beerwench33	It's not nothing if it bothers you. Talk to him again. You shouldn't have to feel like you are nagging him. He is your husband. Why bother being married if you don't have an open line of communication? It is your job to be there for eachother. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

joe_smo_red	he's cheating. leave him. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

usmchawkeye	Maybe he is having problems ar work or youguys have a financial situation. Or maybe he is having sexual problems ans this is his way of handling it because it is embarassing to him Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

intentionalmasterpiece	Yes, you are right to worry. Communication within any relationship is essential for fulfillment and sustaining that relationship. Your husband is a typical male. They don't want to deal with a problem until it completely overwhelms them, then it could be too late. You have invested years into this marriage and are right to question noticeable changes with regard to intimacy. So many things could be contributing to the change in your husband and you should have to make assumptions. Try to get him to go away for the weekend with you for some "quality time". Stroke his ego and jar his memory on how the two of you hooked up in the beginning. Tell him that you just want to feel close to him and want him to feel close to you. Express to him that you love him as a husband--not just as a father to your children. Let him know that how you are feeling without making accusations. Ask him if he would consider marriage counseling or a marriage retreat. Go to church together. Keep prayer and faith in your home. I hope that you are able to have a breakthrough with your spouse. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

me1c01ciz	probably, he had an affair. you mention that he felt happy, when he talk to someone else. I believe that he do probably had an affair. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

StraightDrive	You need to to talk to each other in a calm manner. You need to be sure that he is cheating or otherwise but you need not confront him. Engage a private detective. Please do not worry and speculate based on your fears. Try to find out facts instead of being suspicious. Something is on his mind and you should try to know it. There could be something stressful which he is not sharing with you. Don't assume that it could be another woman. 15 years of married life and you cannot tolerate or understand one year of change. Maybe midlife crisis, job related stress, or health related, could be anything. Something has gone wrong between you without your noticing it. Now it is glaringly visible. You are not crazy, it is time to be concerned, but not suspicious. A loving & understanding wife is what he needs. Get to the facts without nagging him. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

Sonny-Rohn Doubleday	men are from mars, women are from venus!! read it or get the dvd Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

misydoll	I think you are right to be worried. It sounds like you are drifting apart. Keep trying to talk with him. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

J-Bird	Try to communicate with him. I understand that you have told him already, but maybe you weren't trying hard enough. Tell him how you feel and maybe it will open a door to him and he will tell all. Take him to a quiet place and discuss everything. Try to get the point across so that he understands where you are comming from and try to understand where he is coming from too. COMMUNICATION HERE!!! Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

Sharlala	I think he is just at a point in his life when he is changing....growing. Don't take it personal, but do try to keep the spice alive. If you guys have a great foundation and divorce is not an option [as it should not be one] then don't over think the situation. Maybe take up a new hobby together, I've heard of some couples recently that have started doing jigsaw puzzles together, sounds kinda corny but its working for them on bringing in the time spent together, plus gives them something to talk about. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

bigmammarush	maybe he's just so comfy in your relationship he doesn't think all those sweet little things aren't impoetant anymore...15 years is a long time to get comfy! i'm 31 and just recently found out all my "crazy" thoughts are directly linked to menopause! now that my hormones are leveling out( from taking birth control pills 8 years after i got my tubes tied), my honey and i are pretty much back to ourselves...he just didn't know how to deal with the changes in our lives either. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

chuck	I think you are right for worrying. You need more intimate communication which will in turn open up other lines co communication. My wife and I have been together for 25 years and we have sex about 5 times a week. Why? Because the most importatnt kind of communication is that intimate communication and it is usually the one that is most often forgotten about. Schedule some time alone for a little erotic time but do it often not just once in a while. I find that couples with healthy libidos tend to be the most solid couples. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

boredlittleb****	worry- naging and bickering are indicators of interest- passion, etc. sounds stupid, right? but think about it, how much can you really mean to him if you cant piss him off? most fights occur between my husband and i because i feel this or he feels that. but if were not fighting about, or taqlking about, or doing anything to one another, then i would think, well, thats like we dont matte to one another. snoop or something, find out whats really going on. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

Christina	It actually sounds a lot like my marriage. We both loved the kids and led busy lives, but we just didn't do anything together or have a connection to each other. After years of living this way, I finally moved out. We are friends still, but have both moved on to much more fulfilling personal relationships. Sometimes you just grow apart. Good Luck. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

nativeamerican1968	mid life crisis?? maybe he's having an affair....or maybe trouble at work or financial probs............ Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

Tori B	I have learned when a woman suspects something like that it is usually the truth. He could be going through something or it could be serious. Try counseling. If he feels like you nag try buying a tablet and writing him a letter and ask him to write you back on the tablet. Sometimes men have problems expressing their feelings. This way he doesn't have to HEAR any complaining but he will still know what you feel. Try spicing things up. Take him out on a date. Try a new hair style or a new dress or something. Maybe even do something a little extra in the bedroom. It is true he could think he has fallen out of love but I would at least do everything I can to make him remember why he fell in love to begin with. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

lisastoyroom	Spice things up a bit, Blow him away with whatever it was that originally drew him to you.Make dirty little calls to his work,answer the door in lingerie.It has to start somewhere and since its you that is being bothered by it day in day out,step up,make the first move.His responses will become VERY clear within a week for the good or the bad,I think you will find what you are looking for. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

Tenacious le grande	It sounds like something is wrong. Have you suspected an affair? Of course us women always jump to conclusions but it's hard to avoid when the other party isn't justifying their actions. He needs to realize the change and talk to you about why that is. Otherwise it's going to become extremely frustrating for you and that's completely unfair. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

amara	I would recommend Paxil or some other kind of drug therapy if you feel it is a physical problem, work stress, money problems, family demands can all cause emotional stress in people. If you think its a relationship issue, has anything gone wrong in the resent past, is your sex life OK, if he is only getting sex once a Month or so, that would cause(in my opinion)some real stress. Hope this helps. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

lhee	it could be that there is a third party. try to find out. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

Jackie	u-oh. red flag!!! communication is down. definitely SOMETHING is wrong. I went through EXACTLY the same thing. we stopped touching, talking, he kept saying nothing was wrong and only was happy with other people. - Does not lead anywhere good unless you get him to admit right NOW that you need to talk and be honest. that is the only way to save this. force it out of him !! NOw before its too late Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

taurus	just relax try to be happy with u r husband and children take care about u r children these may effect them never discuss anything before children Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

Ontheotherhand	Your husband is probably very unhappy and confused right now. He is at the point in his life where he realizes that he isn't a young guy anymore. He won't be a pro jock. He's not going to the moon, or sailing around the world. He isn't going to date Miss America, and he's losing his hair. Just try to be his friend, and he'll probably be ok soon. This is just another of the wierd parts of a long marriage. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

julielove327	Maybe your husband is having some problems with depression. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

Musty	look. be more wise. make him come back to u. we women we have our methods. be sexy each night when it's time to bed. be nice. sleep close to him, whisper in his ears u love him. this will move something in him. ask for his emotions but without words. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

Trin	Sounds like you need to do what my husband and I have done. You designate 1 night a week where you and your husband go out on a date. A real date not wal-mart shoping or picking up something you need. You do dinner and a movie or something like that. Put some spice back into your marriage. You will see that this is probably all you need. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

asoldierswife	XXXXXXXXXX Never stay together for the sake of children. You are teaching them that being in a bad realationship is a good thing and it isn't. Instead, show them how strong you are that that you can be happy with a new life. Time to start packing. (His clothes preferably, he has already left mentally anyways.)Good luck hun. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No