My GF and her body?

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Captain S	She's far from fat, but you're not going to overcome a lifetime of conditioning overnight (no matter how tenderly or genuinely you go about it). Women are bombarded by images of stick-thin models parading around in clothes and swimsuits, and these are the images they emulate (even if on a subconscious level). Keep trying and let her know how much you appreciate her as often as you can. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

Meow	i think 125 is perfect for her height. but if it means so much to her, she should start exercise and get back to 105. you can make her feel goodf by giving her compliments. random compliments and sexy clothes Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

Legandivori	She would have to really keep pumping iron very hard like one to two hours and day and have an 1500 tops calorie Limit per day. It might make her sick. However, even if she dropped 8 pounds, it might be enough for her to take off the clothes. If not, you might have to tell her that as much as you love her, she has to chose between being upset at herself and keeping you as a couple. She needs therapy perhaps. But to get 20 pounds off that frame would require her to be somewhat emaciated. It is actaully troo thin aqs a gorl becomes a woman. Also9m, if she has nioce boobs, they also carry a load. Home > Calculators >: if you went to: http://www.healthstatus.com/cgi-bin/calc/calculator.cgi Ideal Weight Calculation: Results: According to your height of 5' 4" your ideal healthy weight is 130 pounds. Your recommended weight range is between 116 and 145 pounds. This was calculated using Hamid formula, a simple formula commonly used by many clinicians. These are recommended weights. Talk with your doctor about what weight is best for you and before undertaking any new diet or exercise programs. You can learn more about BM and see what it is for your current weight by checking out our Body Mass calculator. ---------------------- If she went on the Scarsdale Diet for two Weeks, she;d lose ten pounds. It is ONLY a two week diet. http://www.scarsdalediet.com/ ----------------- In the book Fit For Life, written by two medical nutritionists, the Diamonds, they say if you combine foods in certain very specific ways and don;'t cheat, you need a lot less food for more energy and therefore, will lose weight. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

tony_le12	wow, seem like you need lot of luck on this one. Try to fix her scale. set it back 5 to 10 lbs Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

trickeypixie	The only thing that will cure this is working out. You can compliment her but as you've seen it has no effect. She needs to get her body where she wants it. If she's complaining about herself and refusing to take off her clothes then she needs to do something about it. She may be using it as a way to avoid sex in general which is actually a common reason for female obesity and can often be linked to sexual abuse. I suggest martial arts classes as a way for her to build self-esteem and get the body she wants. If she won't do something to feel better about her body you need to decide of you can face a relationship without intimacy because even if she has sex with you, she won't enjoy it and seriously, who needs that? Offer her practical solutions and keep telling her she's beautiful but if she can't change this your sex life will never improve. LOL Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

Violet Pearl	She has issues. She needs to talk to a therapist. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

gottaluvme110	This is hard b/c usually when my bf tells me I'm beautiful then I feel beautiful. But what I would advise you to do is ask her (maybe when you two are lying next to each other) what she doesnt like about her body. Whatever she tells you, then kiss the area she hates. i.e. if its her stomach, lift up her shirt and kiss it. (hopefully you'll get a laugh) Then tell her that you love her stomach, or watever part she hates. It worked for me and it didnt matter much anymore bcuz as long as the one I loved, loved it then thats all that matters. He even suggested towork out with me on weekends. i hope either of those work for you Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

Brunette wife	She is not fat at all. She needs counseling to get over this negative attitude towards herself. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

SM	Tell her that if she was truly a fatass you wouldn't be talking to her. That'd shut her up! Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

Meghann	i'm pretty much those proportions and my friends consider me pretty slender... Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

chopsaw	She is absolutely perfect size............what most women wouldn't give for it.......and also men....If yours looks like mine you got yourself some woman..........ours are twins in size....different in age.......but mine will stop a watch and so will yours, as for clothes I would just take them off her and let her know just what it's all about being a man.......just till she needs glasses and braces........then I "might" slow down. twice a day wouldn't be too much............good luck Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

sweetsarah	Well she has a problem with self esteem and a big one. It's a great thing that you are supportive and sweet to her. And please continue with that. Tell her that it's important how much she weighs but that she is healthy. You can tell her that if she really wants to loose a little weight she can do it the healthy way, eating a balanced diet and do exsercise. 105 pounds for 5'4 is too thin but if she gets started on a regime of a healthy diet and exercise she can achive a better body than what she at 105 thought was good! Good luck! Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

wow	This is a issue she will need to work on her self .You have already given her your opinon .You can weigh 300 pounds and feel confident or 100 pounds and feel fat.It is sad but true .For the one who said she is a little chubby please what are you a stick person? Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

texasarizonagirl	tell her that being lower than than 125 is bad and she has the kinda body you like and you really like the way she looks Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

alialoggi	ok, this is what you do, you say, the next time she complains, you tell her, "I don't see it, but I see that it bothers you, so we are going to do all we can to live the best healthiest life we can." "I will do whatever it takes to see that we get there, I will exercise with you, I will eat healthy foods with you, we will cook together and get in the best shape as we can, and all I ask for in return is that you plan the most passionate night you can for us, ok (when you reach your goal)?" How on Earth could she refuse that? Good luck! Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

Everybody's Favorite	It's a common issue. Especially for women who used to look better than they do now. Or who think they used to look better than they do now. Anyway. It's in her head. But reassuarance in action is the best you can do in my opinion. It's not gonna do her any good if you say that she's beautiful when she's upset at her looks at the moment. What helps is a wow here and there when she actually feels good. Every time I start having body image problems, I say to myself "If he wants to get in bed with you, nevermind your fat, you can stress about it later. He thinks you're beatiful." Another thing you could do is to help her to keep her dinners very light. Don't tempt her by taking her to reastaurants too often. Instead, get together and cook a healthy dinner that can be made light for her or a little more substantial for you (if needed). Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

Jessie	That same thing happened to me almost exactly. Was 105lbs 6 months ago. Now 125lbs b/c of medication I had to take. I only felt better by exercising and starting to do something to make myself look the way I want to look. It doesn't hurt to tell her that you love her like she is, but she won't buy it unless she changes her perspective and accepts herself as she is. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

wldchldwoman	WELL IT'S TRUE IF WE WERE ALWAYS A CERTAIN WEIGHT AND THINGS HAVE CHANGED A LITTLE BIT WE FEEL A LITTLE DOWN ABOUT IT. IT DOESN'T MEAN THAT WE ARE FAT. BUT HONESTLY ALOT OF IT HAS TO DO WITH SOCIETY. FAKE BOOBS, LIPO, TUMMY TUCKS ECT. THERE IS ALOT OF FAKE OUT THERE AND GUYS LOOK AT THESE WOMAN. AND THIS IS WHERE ALL THE INSECURITY COMES FROM. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

CUFFS	She is your queen, and keep letting her know that. No matter what comes or goes. Every woman is beautiful, and until every man figure this out, people like you have to hold the torch. Keep it up! She needs your support. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

Emily L	According to her body mass index, her weight is exactly where it should be.. you can't help her.. she has to finds confidence from within. Just try to be supportive and if she isn't making any attempts to feel good about herself you need to tell her to get over herself. There is "I think I'm fat" and there is "I'm fat".. she's just bein a typical girl Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

Crys-star	actually that is how much is should weigh... sometimes girls feel that way b/c they are afraid what your really thinking about them... maybe she thinks she fat b/c she use to weigh so much less and gaining 20 pounds really bothers her and she just isn't use to the way her body is even tho it has been 2 yrs. keep telling her that she looks good and that her body is the best one she has ever seen... then she will feel better little by little just give it some time but don't' stop telling her how beautiful she is with or without clothes... the only way you can tell if she has and eating disorder is if you notice she never eats or hardly eats, her hair type will start changing as well as her skin just keep an eye on those things Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

Nichole	If she is feeling bad about her body try suggesting doing a workout routine TOGETHER so that you both can get in shape. This will make her feel good about herself while loosing a few of her unwanted pounds.... still keep reminding her that she is beautiful. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

Decent Human	I completely disagree with the people on here who suggest poking fun at skinny women. If it's not okay to make fun of overweight people, it should not be acceptable make fun of skinny people. That's childish and just as unhealthy as her self loathing. Most, if not all women in our society struggle with body image to some degree. So unfortunately, her feelings are normal. However, her not wanting to make love with you anymore because of it is a little extreme. We are always going to be our worst critics, let her know that first. I dont know how old she is, but no body is going to be as thin as they were when they were 20. That's life. But that's not a bad thing. AT 5'4 and as an adult, 125 should be the ideal weight. Let her know that . I suggest she seek support from others who used to struggle w/ their body image like she is now. http://profile.myspace.com/index.cfm?fuseaction=user.viewprofile&friendid=165804553 http://www.webiteback.com/ Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

Hekate	I went through the same thing, the only difference is I gained 50lbs in 3 years. My husband still loves me and when I start to get depressed about my weight, he tells me he likes my bigger boobs more. lol That always works for me. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

mrs	she's very lucky to have such a concerned boyfriend. kudos to you! first, keep stressing to her how beautiful she is and how attracted to her you are. then, offer to work out with her. cook her healthy meals. good luck Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

Momma M	omg im 5'3 and am like 2 of her... she needs to come visit me adn see what fat is. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

fire wife	it's pretty typical for women to be this way. I am 5' 2" and weigh 120lbs. I feel that I am fat but my hubby says no...I try to believe him. she has to learn to accept herself as she is...and by the way, she is NOT fat by any means. Just keep reminding her. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

Raquel	I look pudgy at 125 but I'm 4'10. LOL. Just keep telling her she's gorgeous, don't ever tell her she's fat even if you are mad at her. Its too bad she doesn't feel good about herself, I know women 300lbs who have more confidence than I do. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

mrs_G	She is perfect. It is such a tragedy that the media messes with women's heads so badly. At 105, her bones would have been sticking out all over, and she would have looked gross. About all you can do is point out other women occasionally--saying things like..."Wow, she looks dead! Give that girl a sandwich!" Or "Why would a man want a woman who looks like a 12 year old boy? Thank God you have those sexy curves Iwe love so much!" Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

Cure for your blonde addiction	Were ALL like that especially after kids. Just keep reassuring her that she is beautiful. In the end tho it is up to her to realize and lover herself more. She is NOT at all pudgy - so don't listen to the dumb a$$ who wrote that above she's just jelous. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

Annabella	It's very common & it's hard to feel sexy when you're used to having low body fat. I'm not used to having any extra weight at all & it's disturbing. It sucks to look in the mirror, it sucks when your jeans don't fit, it sucks to see pictures & think IS THAT ME? Girls that have always been thin find this highly disturbing. If I had been overweight since childhood maybe I would have accepted my body by now but that's not the case. Trust me when I say that no amount of compliments will change her view of herself. She needs to get back to where she was. That's the only thing that will fix it. Don't keep crappy foods in the house, don't order takeout, offer to walk with her or get her a gym membership. She will not be free & open until she's happy with her weight again. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No