Actually, I used to feel bitter, now I feel sorry for him.

This was someone I shared a strong connection with, who told me it was forever. Only for him to start to treat me like crap, (the work of the other woman, I knew all along, he could not admit it, even though i asked him if he wanted out, he could go, he just had to tell me) and when it was too much, I asked for an end. I spoke to an older woman about it and she says I should not let him go (bad advice). So I went back to him, he makes it look like my fault and he jumps straight into this woman's laps.

I think it was sex, she is into BDSM, he suggested to me to become something of a slave, imagine? (when I know my worth!)

I feel sorry for him now because I know he has regrets (she has manipulated herself around him so tightly destroying his relationships with people so she is the only one, he seems weak i guess), there are still some feelings here but I won't take him back. He contacted me during Christmas but I gave a cold shoulder. We corresponded in February/March by mail and he said his memories of our past is fresh with him (whilst lying and subtly blaming the breakup on me that i asked for an end), I met his lies with the truth, gave him good advice, and warned him about this type of woman, suffice it so say, I said goodbye and wished him luck. But I feel bad occasionally. Why? Women who may read this, i think we know that there are some "women" who you would never want to date someone they dated, this is the type of woman this person is. There was a time I felt no man deserved this type, but I've given it thought and i think sometimes that there are some men who deserve her kind, like my ex perhaps, although I hope he is able to free himself from whatever grip she has on him (I wish him well and it's difficult to have a knowledge of his situation sometimes and it seems like he was crying out to me to save him, but how can I do that? Am I responsible for his position? Should I have held him with an iron grip?)... I am with someone else at the moment, I think God works in mysterious ways because if that breakup didn't happen, I would not have met this gentleman. People say they don't understand what I saw in my ex,...

It has been some months now. I have memories of him because of how special it was and I am told you can't chase away those memories, they will probably be with you for as long as you live...

I do not know that it is proper for me to do anything to help him, sometimes I wish I did not know about it, but I knew back then that this would be the outcome for him. So I feel guilty sometimes, like I let him walk into this crazy person's grip (even though he was nasty to me). But I'm young, he is older than me, so I do not know that I could have done anything, he has age and life experience on his side, what do you think? Should I feel guilt?