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iyamacog	Yes, it's abuse.........Not only to your mental well being, but to your children as well. After all , he's verbally putting their mother down. He needs to speak to his doctor to see what his issue may be. Hopefully with proper diagnosis, meds may be provided to change all your lives. If that's not the answer, the next step would be counseling. The other end of the spectrum being the last step, which may possibly be divorce. Whatever the final outcome, please do e/thing in your power to bring about the best solution for you and your children. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

bigmouthjen34	If he seriously refuses to seek help, then why would you keep beating your head against the wall? It takes TWO to make the marriage work. If he is not willing to investigate the idea that maybe he has a medical issue, then it is probably time for you to do what is best for you and the kids and MOVE OUT. These kids do not deserve to be exposed to such abusive environment. If you continue on in this setting, your children are going to grow up and think this is the right way that two married people treat each other. I am sure you do not want that, so make the changes. Good luck. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

Asima	Sounds like it yes! My husband does the same thing. Then he behaves really well for a very long time. I don't think he is bipolar I think he is just an asshole. I think you need to find a way to deal with your husband if you do have to stay married to him like put him into his own space or something. There must be some way to co-exsist in the meantime. Just live your life. Take matters into your own hands and take your kids out on your own and just be withdrawn. He is pushing you after all. Just leave him be. That's what I did and now things seem pretty good. I promised myself not to even talk sometimes! Not good but hey sometimes people just need some space. Men are just different and don't even try "discussing" anything it goes nowhere. You just have to leave them alone. Let them do what they want, or think that they can. My mom tells me. You have to let him think he is doing whatever he wants. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

ily	don't take that. it's bad enough he's calling you a fcking btch, but especially in front of the kids!!! it's hard as hell to leave, but i think that you know it's about time. and yes you would eventually find someone else! but don't go to just anybody. allow yourself to be fussy and find someone who loves you for you. jumping into another relationship right would only complicate things.. anyways, good luck and always think about what's best for your children and yourself. never put a man in front of your kids, as hard as it may seem sometimes. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

lewhatisthebest	I am very sorry about this......yes that could be considered verbal abuse! But you should think about what would happen to your kids, and how your life will change! I'm so sorry about this Good Luck with everything! hope i helped! =D Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

CC	you should try and convince him more and more that he has a problem and it might cost him you guys marriage maybe then he will be a little more open to help. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

Sagebutterfly	Yes this is verbal & mental abuse. Everyone gets mad and says things we don't mean on occasion, but when it's a constant thing there's a bigger problem. If sure sounds like your hasband has some mental issues going on, and he's teaching your children some very bad habbits and poor communication. I think that you should move out and seperate. If he does into consiling and gets treated for his problems I would do family consuling and try to stay together. But if he makes no effort to get help you owe it to yourself and children to leave. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

lilly45	Yes - it is verbal abuse. The really bad part is that it is being done in front of your kids. Your children will grow up "scarred" by this. Your husband really needs HELP. Maybe a marriage counselor could get him to seek professional help. Watch out for yourself!!! Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

carriegreen13	Be a hero to yourself and your children and get a divorce, all of this swearing he is doing to you is not good for the children because they are hearing it, and they are growing up in an environment thinking that it will be ok to treat women like your husband is treating you! That is so wrong!!!! If you have done all you can do and he is still acting that way, then you have to do what is best for you and the children. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

Barbie	Yes this is, and is not good for your kids either. If he is military you can call his co and they will make him get help. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

TheBeann	If it's not verbal abuse, it's certainly very disrespectful, particularly in front of the kids. That is unacceptable. If nothing else, go see a counselor yourself. It does sound like he needs help badly but unfortunately, you can't force him to get it. Take care of yourself first, sister, and be strong. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

Shiphrah K	Yes, that is verbal abuse. You could give him an ultimatum: either he seeks help for his behaviour within the next two weeks, or you leave. If he refuses, or doesn't get around to it, you have to be prepared to follow through and walk away from the marriage. But to be honest, if this continues for much longer it will be extremely damaging to you psychologically, so you really do need to think seriously about the future of your marriage. You should also contact an organisation in your area that can support women who are experiencing domestic abuse. They can help a lot. Good luck. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

fantabulouse	you need to get out of there be4 it becomes abuse and emotionaly abuse and yes its virbal abuse u need to stop fighting around ur kids cuz u dont know wat there thinking or feeling about dis they might start doing things that u cant even amagine u need to get out of there be4 everything falls apart WORSE Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

acutebuick	Its definately verbal abuse , and it does sound like he is bi-polar . Tell him to get help or lose you . Maybe that'll be enough to get the much needed help he needs. Good Luck :) Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

yodah20	Yea my gf is cyclothymic which is basically a weak case of being bi-polar and she will be all pissed or upset and then be skipping and jumping hours later. And then back to pissed and upset...... allll the time!!!!! Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

Beckie xxx	yes it is verbal abuse and you should try and put a stop to it quickly before it messes you up mentally. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

Lisa G	Go to: www.ndvh.org It is most certainly verbal abuse. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

Ashton	Yes. especially around your kids. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

KHALVE	That is definitely verbal abuse. That is harmful to the kids too. To call you worthless and that you would never find anyone else...that is his way of breaking you down so that you won't have the confidence to leave him. My ex did that to me. He would always tell me I couldn't make it without him, that I couldn't get a job, that I couldn't take care of our daughter and that I wouldn't find anyone else. It isn't worth it to stay if he won't get help. If he is willing to get help, then maybe it is worth it to stay. Just don't let him treat you that way. NO ONE deserves that! Your kids definitely don't deserve to be in that situation either. Don't let your kids grow up thinking that it is ok for a husband to treat his wife that way. Plus, they will disrespect you also, because of seeing him disrespect you so much. You are not a door mat! Don't take it any more. Tell him he has got to change or get out. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

David W	He has problems, and yes, it is , anything in front of the kids is more than verbal, could be mental for the kids... think about them. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

mer :]	omg ya Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

womanly222	yes definetely, try counseling my dear, you dont deserve to put up with this!!! good luck and i hope u feel better :] Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

laura	yes it is verbal abuse... these types of things are not good for kids to grow up with...divorce is not good for families either...i really dont know what to tell you Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

♥The Mrs.♥	I believe so, yes. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

franz dumke	Yes definitily abuse. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

ghost	You might need to leave him. Verbal abuse can be more painful than physical abuse. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

rivasj27	aa.. Yes.. it is.! Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

bsbllrangers	Yes, it is abuse. I recommend counseling or divorce. Get out of there! Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

fma	get out of the relationship. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

KatDM	yes this is verbal abuse, you need to get out now for your sake and your kids Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

tinkerbell	I'm sure that by now you know it is abuse, you just don't know how to get out of it. The question I have for you is do you love him more or do you love yourself and your kids more. I'ts not healthy for you or your kids to be in that kind of hostile environment. I know how hard it is to get away and also expensive. Pray about it and I mean pour out your heart and soul to God, tell him you don't know what to do, He will hear you and he will help you. I had my window punched out while trying to leave once and the glass went in my eye and it took 15 stitches to close it. He never intended to hurt me and I made all kinds of excuses for him. I finally decided that I love me and my son more, so I moved out. I cried out to God like never before and now I have my own apt and am about to go to College. My husband realized what he lost and has sinced moved down the street to be closer, but for now we just cannot live together. God's timing is perfect, sometimes when we have tried everything else and all has failed we need to remember our first love Jesus !!! I'll pray for you and your kids and your husband. What is meant to be will always find a way. Good luck and Jesus be with you and your family!!!! Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No