Is my wife cheating? How can I find out?

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fishin' girl	If she uses the coputer, there is a program you can put on it to see what she is saying, and what sites she's going to. If she isn't satisfied she probally won't tell you, she will go to someone else and have her cake and eat it too. Until she gets caught Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

sarah	Is there anything else that would make you think she's cheating? Like is she distant? Are things different between you? If I were you I'd look for other signs as well, don't jump to conclusions. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

Bubblez	get a rental car and follow her with a disguised feature call and leave messages on the answering Machine letting her know u love her and you are at where ever it is she expects your to be at that time. also her cell phone. if your not accustom of doing this do it for a week before u actually stalks her cuz women are smart she will catch on. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

SAT	stop being so paranoid and giving her THOSE looks (and you know you are) when she is home and maybe she will want to spend more time with you. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

imarockstar	just follow her. have you asked her where she's going everytime she leaves and expressed these concerns? if not then just follow her. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

Sasha's Mommy	Cell phone records can usually give you a mountain of information. It's how I confirmed my husband was having regular contact with someone he shouldn't have been. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

crazyjaney	You could secretly set up a friendship with her, someone that you trust, but that she doesn't know you know, and have that person do the investigating for you, or just a simple relationship test to see how far she'll go with that person. But I think the real question is: do you really want to know the truth? Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

reyna c	ooooooh, i like being sneaky! get her account information and see where the money is going, in fact, get all card transactions, bank/gas.... then check her phone activity by mail or online (online activity is within the hour!) start writing down numbers that are frequent and see where they live (do reverse search by "phone number"online). find out what her schedule is, these days booty calls can be during lunchtime and end up at 6pm instead of going to the gym! if she makes excuses, follow up. for example, she says shes going to the gym, check to see if her clothes have been used. is she went out for drinks with the girls, check her purse/pocket/account info. for receipts or how many drinks she had. if no receipt or acct. info., then someone else paid for her! check the odometer on the car to see if its the same number miles each day. check to see if she dresses a little sexier on a certain day of the week? did she spend more time in the shower tonite? has she bought new clothes lately? does she smile for no apparent reason? has she initiated cuddling with you lately? Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

penelope	If your gut is telling you she is cheating, chances are she is, as studies have shown that most people who suspect their spouse is cheating have actually felt it, the sensed it, they had a mental intuition, so trust your gut, if you really feel she is cheating, chances are she is, but also make sure that you have back up proof, as this is a serious accusation to bring to the table. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

luvtochasecows	P.I. will give you all the proof you need. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

Brian	if you have a hunch more than likely she is. Most women do these days you cant trust a woman. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

Christina	that can be a sure sign. but theres always the saying, " the one accuseinbg is the one doing" just remember that. are you insecure about yourself? how do you know shes nt with the girlfriends? ask her where shes going and if she cant give you a straight answer hope for the best. if you have any really good friends that see her with someone they have never seen, or someone they are not familiar with hopefully thy will mention it. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

Betty M	Check her cell phone and email or download keystroke software on your computer. Follow her, have a friend follow her or hire a detective. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

Carmen S	i dont belive in asking its not like she will tell you. the only really thing you can do is either follow her or look at her cell bill online to see who shes been talking to that works all the time. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

fanarajohn	Cell phone records work well. Check the calls and texts as well. Then look in the contacts to find the person she calls most. She may back off of sex with you and give you the "I'm not attracted to you" speech. Believe me, if she does, it's someone else. The only reason that I found out that my wife was talking to a male coworker was that he was stupid enough to text her on a Saturday afternoon after she ran into him and his fiancee at the supermarket. The asshole must have done it while his girl was there. What a prince! Be alert but don't be obvious. Also, be more lovable and attentive and see if it aggravates her. She may think the grass is greener on the other side, and your increased attention will push her. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

SEA KITTY KITTY	Ask her straight up and see if she is truthful. Following her is an option. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

futaberry	I'd say take it easy until she proves she isn't trustworthy, because if she isn't cheating, and you're treating her like she is, you'll never hear the end of it. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

cagess1982	That does not mean she is cheating. If you do something like check her email, phone or follow her and she isn't cheating, you're risking starting a huge battle with her. Why is your first assumption that she is cheating on you? It sounds like you might be projecting-are you cheating as well? People who assume their spouses are cheating based on little or no information are usually cheating themselves, and assume that their spouse is doing the same thing. Maybe she is working more hours, or she is spending time with her friends, or she is going shopping, or she doesn't like being around you so she is just around driving, there are tons of things she might be out doing besides cheating, so if you have nothing else to go on just drop it. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

molly 3/17/09	you can get her a duplicate sim card for her phone and swap it, you can retrieve the last 10 deleted msgs. on a sim card. yup, i said deleted! all ya gotta do is google spy cell devices or something similar. i hope she is not but you deserve to know. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

angelslove692001	Just ask her... Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

MiamiTash	Ask her. Don't be immature and start invading her privacy. Because if you find something questionable and you ask her about it and it is totally innocent, you are going to feel like an idiot and she is going to lose any trust she had with you. When you are looking for something, you will most likely "find" it. Or at least, it will appear like you have. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

SweetPea	hello, go Nancy drew on her ***... -make people follow her...people she doesn't know... -check cell phone records online(or call) you can get the number and how LONG her talked for and the timing and date -her car....maybe the mileage, say it takes 5 miles to get to the mall but you check her mileage before and after and she used up 25 miles, that's suspicious. i mean i know that all sounds crazy but if i were married i'd probably do it if i were suspicious enough. P.S: I hope she's not cheating:) Not being home as often doesn't mean she's cheating. good luck:) Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

devan m	Check her cell phone, emails, myspace. Look in her purse and in her car. If you arent sure after that follow her one day. AND you can ask her...look at her reaction. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

acedelux	Hire a P.I. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

Kelly	You could hire a private eye. Or ask her. Or, just follow her when she goes out, or have someone else do it? Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

HangingChad	Hmm... I'd be more suspicious if my wife was bringing home presents that she didn't pay for. Cell phone records are a great place to start. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

Michael T	Check her cell phone logs. Or, you could put a keylogger on your PC. That way you could see her communications. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

D.C.born	follow her one day on your day off dont tell her it your day off and see where she goes or go to cheaters you know the show they can do the research for you Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

answer machine	follow her. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

Nena S	Top 9 signs your spouse is cheating You have a sinking feeling in the pit of your stomach, something is not right but you can’t quite figure out what that feeling is about. Your spouse has become distant, he/she is working late on a regular basis or, maybe your spouse has moved out of the house with no explanation. You suspect there may be someone else but every time you bring it up with your spouse, he/she denies the possibility. All the signs are there but you don’t have any proof. So, pay attention to the signs and your instinct but, be careful and don’t confuse signs with proof. 1. "I'm not in love with you anymore." If you hear these words, a big warning bell should go off. This is one of the most consistent things a cheating spouse will say. Your spouse may have a deep, loving bond with you but, intense feelings of passion can override the bond with you and cause your spouse to loose sight of his/her true feelings. The cheating spouse will develop what I call hormone - induced amnesia. The surging hormones and passion they feel in their new relationship can cause some very skewed thinking. 2. “We are just friends.” This is also another very predictable statement that will come from a cheating spouse. If your spouse is spending more and more time with this new “friend” then there is probably more to it than mere friendship. Your spouse may feel they have a lot in common with this person, that this person understands them and things they are going through. Whatever the reasons for the friendship, it’s a big warning sign and one you should take seriously. 3. A sudden need for privacy. If things the two of you used to share openly suddenly become private pay attention cause something is probably up. He/she may start password protecting computer activity. Cell phone and credit card bills may be hidden. If you ask why or attempt to find out information that used to be common knowledge between the two of you, you will be accused of snooping or trying to control your spouse. Big warning sign! 4. “I need some space to figure my feelings for you.” Men and women who are involved with someone else will request more space, time alone or away from the family. They may say it is due to confusion over their feelings or stress at work. This can be a sign that there is someone else and the spouse is trying to figure out ways to have more freedom. 5. Regular work habits change. Working late, going to work at odd hours or, putting in more time than is normal on work related issues can be indications that a spouse is cheating. 6. Spending a large amount of time on the computer. In today’s world, with modern technology, a person looking for an affair doesn’t even have to leave their home. The ease of internet chat rooms, online dating sites and secret email accounts has caused an alarming increase in emotional affairs. If your spouse is online more than usual, hanging out in chat rooms and visiting pornographic websites then you have reason to be alarmed. 7. Secretive phone calls and more time spent on the phone. Emotional affairs occur primarily via the phone, especially cell phones. If you find your spouse hanging up suddenly when you enter the room or erasing the history on the cell phone and becoming defensive when asked about it, then you might want to check your phone records. 8. Behavior that just doesn’t add up. Not being where he/she was expected to be. Missing time they can’t explain. Money that isn’t accounted for. Receipts for things you don't have. Missing clothing. Clothing that does not belong to your family. Being caught in little lies about the details of the day. 9. Your Own fears and suspicions If you find yourself looking for excuses for your spouse's behavior or trying to convince yourself that they would never cheat then that is a warning sign. Your intuition is frequently one of the best indicators that something is wrong. If you suspect your spouse might be cheating on you, do some investigating and then confront him or her with what you've found. Do it in a way that is calm and courteous. Ask for honesty. Be prepared for lies. It is a sad fact that people having affairs become excellent liars. People who never told a lie before in their lives. Trust your gut instinct but get hard, cold proof also. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

Cravin	Ask Her Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No