I work 10 hours a day 5 days a week, my wife stays at home with our 1 year old and 2 year old.?

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xenypoo	How about you spend time with your one, and two year old alone all day, and find out how much time you find to do housework, Mate? You might find out something new, like you have NO time to clean-up, except for the babies. Ever heard of the terrible two's? It happens at the age of one, also. Your children are toddlers, Hun, and your wife has two of them to take care of, all by herself. Give her a break. In fact, let her go out on a weekend, when you're not working, and you stay with the kids all day long. How much do you want to know what your wife is going through? This way you can find out! LOL, have fun! Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

LIPPIE	I know that you probably work very hard on your job, But you only work 10 hours a day, your wife is on call 24 hours a day, 7 days a week. I don't know if you help her around the house to help clean, but taking care of a 1 and 2 years old is not easy. Not only that, her body is still healing from the first one, then she had another one. Does she ever get some time to herself, to do something just for herself, or is she always a wife and mother and not allowed to be herself. You take over the kids on saturday and sunday and see how much you get done taking care of them, and cleaning house. Never say your job is worse then theirs, unless you have done there job, and remember your body is not still healing. There is a lot of mental strain also. So the way to handle this, is not talk about it, but get in there and help do it. I bet she cleans up after you, herself, and two babies. Not an easy job. Hang in there and work together You'll be happy you did. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

kakeydec	I would say you need to offer a helping hand with the housecleaning...I understand you work 10hrs a day but she works alot more hours than that...... Take her place for a week. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

Lost	No you are not wrong when my hubby worked and I stayed home my home was always clean and and smelled fresh the kids were clean and well pressed and dinner was always on the table. And I took care of a new born and the other 2 kids so I do not see what the problem is what makes her not want to clean the house or not argue with her and have a maid come deep clean your house once a week. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

Pretty	Try and assists her in whatever way you can, taking care of 2 children is no joke, it is a full time job on its own. ****Goooo Brown - You said he should be going out with stripper, its better you don't post a comment if you don't have a good answer to a question, if he go out with a stripper, will he not come back to the dirty house ? watch the advise you give to others. Good luck Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

terraisearth	You work 10 hrs a day, 5 days a week... As a stay-at-home mom, she works 24 hrs a day, 7 days a week... Maybe choose a day when you are both home to clean the house... Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

mrskerlin	Taking care of two little ones is not an easy chore. So if things are that messy help her clean them up... Once things are in order it's much easier to keep them in order... Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

Katie	It's nice to come home to a clean house, but with the ages of your children, I would find that darn near impossible! How about this, work on a compromise. On the days that you bring home dinner, she can make sure the house looks clean when you come home. You better give her some notice before coming home though because battling with 2 toddlers can be very trying! Call her at least an hour or two before leaving work if you plan on trying this! It could be a win-win situation as long as you don't push the whole clean house thing on her all the time. I seriously would get tired of hearing you complain after dealing with 2 toddlers all day! It's no wonder it always ends up in a fight. After all, you don't hear her going to your place of work & criticizing you? Why do that to her? She is at work 24/7! Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

Dale T	did you know that being a stay at home mom is the equelivent of having 2 1/2 full times jobs, they figured it out several times, just one baby is a full time job, so help her out and if you can afford it get some outside help too, if you had to do what she does in one day i doubt dinner would even be cooking, and let me appeal to your greed the more you help her around the house the more likely she will have some energy for woopie, and that dosent mean jump her bones after you do the dishes for once, come home take a few minutes break, have dinner, and then take over all of the evening activities and tell her to go take a bubble bath or read a book once in a while even let her sleep and if you do this frequently enough ill bet you see the rewards in the bedroom when she gets some rest. good luck Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

Katzie	yeah seriously, you have absolutely no right to get mad at her for not having the house pristine when you return home, she has two children who are entirely dependent on her at this time, they are still babies, and you know the saying "the terrible two's?" since there are 2 children running around OF COURSE the house is going to a bit messy, i have YET to see an immaculate house that has children in it. You either got to get over it, or help out and clean, I don't care how much you work, take time out of the day to help around the house, women are not house wives to cook clean and pop out kids. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

TTC #2 Baby Dust MEEE!	of course not. i have my house clean daily and i work an 8 hours shift and i have a one year old. its understadnab;e if ther is some mess in the house b/c you cant always have it clean with kids but if its relly messy then you need to let her know that you work so hard and would love to come home to a clean house daily and that 1 hour out of the day wont hurt to clean the house Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

snowman	you are wrong,she has a full time job with your two kids.infact you should help clean the house.i work 7 days a week very busy, i complained to my wife about the same thing i have two jobs. now i'm divorce because of this. let go the male ego because you work and she doesn't. it get better when your kids get older.she will be able to do more things around the house.be thankful that she is home with your kids and not in a day care. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

jmc24	Keeping a house clean with two young kids...seriously, did you really just ask that? Her job is alot harder than yours. Give her a break. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

alanakole	My husband works 14 hr days and I'm a stay at home mom with 2 kids as well. Sometimes the house gets dirty if I let it go too far my husband lets me know about it. He says you know the bathroom needs cleaning or Kole's room is a mess, or whatever needs to be done he says it as nice as he can and I do my best to take care of it the next day. This keeps us both happy. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

Yummy♥Mummy	I think if it bothers you then you should deal with it. Her choice for staying at home is to look after the kids which in case you don't know is a full-time job when done effectly. It's nice that she does dinner for you when you come home. I certainly don't that's so 1950's. I keep the house clean b/c I'm naturally a neat freak but my husband certainly doesn't mind doing the dishes at the end of the night or tidying up with the kids. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

LOVELY25	Man get over it. Taking care of two babies are you nuts for caring about the house. I say be happy you even get dinner. You can help out with the house lazy!! Get it together men you are being selfish. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

Darkwolf	Having been one of two children, and the hyper one at that, I concur that being a stay-at home parent of two is a full time job in and of itself. However, my mother always made time to clean the house once a week. She was mostly a female version of Danny Tanner from full house. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

housewife	You have no idea how much one toddler can keep a person busy and she has two! Kids this age are very demanding for attention and learning time. Your wife has a full time job managing the kids. During naptime, I'm sure she needs a little "me" time. It's stressful being home with kids all day! I don't see what the problem is. She makes dinner and makes sure your kids are taken care of and teaches them new things every day. Is laundry always taken care of? If so, then, I wouldn't complain too much about a little mess. Lighten up...you have no idea what a tough job she has! Take a day off from work and let your wife go do something fun...see if you can keep a clean house while tending to the needs of the children. It may put things in perspective. Just remember - your wife is working too! Respect that. Don't resent. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

pokvet	Ur not really wrong, u just have to understand that she has a full time job to...... taking care of the babies. Ask her if she could find some time to clean when the kids r down. Tell her u know how hard her job is and that it isn't always possible to keep the house clean but u would like to home one day and see it clean. Start out with one room and work her way up each day that should work... Other then that can u say Merry Maids???? Good luck! Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

The Naughty Librarian	Seriously, it's amazing that she even gets dinner made. I would never be able to stay home with kids that age. You would come home to find me hiding in a closet crying with two weeks worth of laundry and dishes barracading the door to protect me from the children. I may also be writing a suicide note in crayon on a receipt for something I was supposed to return to Walmart 4 months ago but couldn't because I could never have both children fed, diapered and rested at the same time so we could go. Seriously, cut your wife some slack. The kids will be older soon and not only will she have more time and energy, but they will be able to help out a little too. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

kitttkat2001	1st off is ur house really dirty or does it look like u have a lived in home ith children? toys on floor isnt being dirty. its letting kids play. also do u not see ur wife might be staying at home and u work as u put it. but when u get off work your done. now ask ur self when does ur wife get off? if u dont like then u clean it. should of thought of that before u had 2 toddlers Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

< insert fake name here>	how dirty is the house? are you expectations too high? being with two children can be very stressful and maybe she just does not have the time. If that is the case then help out or hire someone to do it weekly. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

muhajirin k	nothing, she work hard let give her some time, talk to her when the timing is right Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

luvmyboys07	You have absolutely no idea what she deals with in a day. Kids are nonstop work, to get any housework in is a whole other story. You have dinner ready every night? Do you know how hard that is to do when watching two kids that need constant attention?? I think you should take a day to keep the kids and let her have a mom's day out. ALL DAY! Then, you might change your attitude! Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

stayc	First off understand- having a 1 y/o and a 2 y/o is like You having a job. I stayed at home with my kids for about 2 yrs. Then i went back to work and my sons father was laid off so he started staying home with the kids...He said he would rather work 12 hr shifts in a boring factory for 8 a hr then stay home with the kids! (he had a way better job, it was a principle kinda thing) Define clean? Cleaning a house while having children is like shoveling while its still snowing! If the house is in decent shape- meaning not disgusting just messy- Let it go Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

lovehealer	She's taking care of 2 small children; she probably has no time for herself. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

sunshine	You are not necessarily wrong, but a stay at home Mom has a huge amount of duties. Settle for having a clean house a couple of times a week. Happy kids a way more important, and so is dinner!!! When you get home, just show her your genuine affection, and that alone will make her want to do better. Change the anger to compassion. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

Joe J	Staying at home with two kids is a job in itself. I would have to say that with dinner being ready, and her being a great mother....you can overlook the whole house thing and maybe work on it together on Saturday. Hope this helps!!! Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

My Addiction	This is a question that hits home with me. I was a stay at home mom for several years. I Now work out of the home (I have 3 jobs). Let me tell you...staying at home was BY FAR the most stressful and demanding job I Have ever had in my life. I barely had time to bathe and feed myself. Children constantly need to be watched. My husband stayed on my back for a while about the house being dirty when he got home from work, but when I got sick and he had to stay at home for a week and do my job...well, lets just say that after that experience, he never brought it up again. He finally understood what I went through everyday. And, to make matters worse. When your day is over, ours is in the middle. We still have to feed everyone, clean up that mess, homework, bathe everyone, maybe bathe ourselves, satisfy our husbands, read stories, tuck into bed and then, maybe, if there is time, satisfy ourselves. Just be grateful that you have a woman in your life that takes that challenge on. Like I said, I have done both and I was far busier and stressed out when I was at home all day. Not to mention..no one ever thanks you or appreciates you for your efforts. Go home tonight and tell her to put her feet up and give her a break. I am not dismissing what you do,. I know that you have a hard day too, just realize that so does she. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

The One, The Only Krandazzo!	help her out with all of it, i mean s hi t shes cooking and handleing your kids offer to do or do do it with her, etc. she only has 2 hands. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

cardgirl2	Maybe she is a little overwhelmed with the two young children. It is difficult to keep a home tidy when there are young children. If I were you, I would hire a cleaning woman once every two weeks to do all the heavy work for your wife. Give her a break. At least she takes good care of the children and that is the most important thing she can do. When your kids grow up, they will always remember when Mommy read to us, played with us, taught us new things, and they won't remember that the house was a mess. So get over it right now and hire a cleaning woman for your wife. As the children grow, she will be more organized and the house will be neater. And if not, keep the cleaning woman and your devoted wife, the mother of your two children. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No