I saw my best friend's husband cheating with another woman, she really loves this man, shud i tell her or not

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SapphireB	Like so many other people are saying here, if this was your husband doing this behind your back (cheating on you) wouldn't you want to know? What I think that I would do is IF you see him with another woman again, see if you can get his wife to go with you there (think of a reason to go) so that she can see it for her self. Or have her to call him IF he has a cell phone (when you see him with another woman). Yes I would find a way to tell her that her husband is cheating on her. She does deserve better than that. I hate a cheater with a passion! By the way, even if you say something to him about this, that you saw him with another woman, it is not going to matter where he was or who he was with, he will make an excuse as to why he was with her. Men and women will both lie about cheating, who wouldn't. They know that their goose is cooked if they get caught so why not lie out of it IF they can. But hey, who can you lie out of it when you get caught with "your pants down". There is no excuse in the world to cheat, no matter what! Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

luluwadey2	i would tell her if she is your best friend, she might dislike you for a while but she will come round, look at it the other way round would you want her to tell you Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

Thundercat	You didn't explain exactly what you saw. Did you see the two of them having sex? Or were they hugging/kissing in public? If you don't want to tell your friend outright, here is a tactic. When you are in the presence of both of them, you can say "hey, sorry I didn't say hi to you and your friend the other day at X...I was in a rush." Or if you see the guy with the "other woman" go up to him and say hi. Ask him to relay some info to his wife for you...like "tell Susan I'll call her tomorrow...I'm having problems with my cel phone today." This way you don't have to be the tattle tale, but it will put the seed of doubt if your friend's mind and she can do her own investigating. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

mr.nasty thelickmaster	no, mind your own business!!! she could not believe you and end your friendship or your info may be wrong,or misinformed, not only will she possibly not believe you ,she could blame the failure of her marriage on you!!! Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

sherrone j	Yes because if you don't tell her and she finds out she will ask you why you tell her in the begining and she won't speak to you for a while Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

Reggie	I feel the same as Madge,and shes right? Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

justmeandcaring	explain to her better she knows now rather than later if you think she won't believe you try to get proof if you can Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

Dr.PhilwithBoobsDueInJune	Of course you should tell her!!! She may be upset with you at first (the bearer of bad news usually gets and earful) but as her best friend it is still your job to look out for her. What if he gives her a disease because he is out cheating? By telling her you are protecting more than her feelings, you are protecting her health. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

chess_is_best	u should tell her cuz it'll let her know and it'll get a load of 'guilt' off your chest Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

chickadee	This happened to me a few years ago. It was my sister-in-law and i saw her boyfriend knock on the front door of this house and kiss the woman who opened it. He went into this house, so i felt that she should know what i saw so i told her. Big mistake, she did'nt believe me, he denied it and i was left looking like a trouble maker. She eventually got wise to him and so will your friend. Keep quiet. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

muse	Tell her!!!!! If in the future she finds out you knew and never told her, you'll get in soooo much trouble. If you don't tell her you will be protecting him not her, and she is your best friend. She needs to know what is going on. The truth has to come out. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

Dee M	I know it will hurt her to hear that, but it is better than what he could bring home to her......... like HIV or AIDS! Friends watch out for friends. Husband may come and go, but friends are forever. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

GINGER B	You should tell her, first, you are her best friend second, she has right to know third, if you were her you would also want to know that. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

Isabel	What was the situation? How did you see him cheat? If he was cheating, would you and a trustworthy, non-gossipy friend be able to confront him with it - not with a judgemental attitude, but with the intention of understanding where he's at, his frustrations, and offering support and the opportunity for him to change and - in a bit - for him to tell his wife himself. If that didn't work, then yeah, I'd tell her - better in the light. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

TeggieMcG	TELL HER!! SHE IS YOUR BEST FRIEND... DON'T EVEN GIVE HIM THE CHANCE TO STOP. TELL HER!! I CAN'T BELIEVE YOU EVEN HAVE TO ASK... IF SHE'S YOUR BEST FRIEND, SHE WILL BELIEVE YOU. TELL HER, TELL HER, TELL HER!! Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

rudolph_barton	Please tell her. For the love of justice and freindship! It is so important to tell your freind that the person she absolutley loves is doing this. She should be with someone who absolutley appreciates her and loves her and only her. I am sure your probabley a little afraid to tell her, but Jesus said " the truth will set you free". Set her free, and you will be free from this feeling of doubt. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

ebenjosiah	Mind your own business so to speak. It is a sin to gossip about what people do with their lives so just leave them alone and when their cup is full the truth will come out. Your motto should be "See I no see, hear I no hear". Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

Curious	If you don't tell her and she finds out, you'll lose her as a friend. If you tell her and she thinks you're just jealous of her, you'll lose her. Tell her. I've lost friends by not telling them before. They saw it as being disloyal. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

banana6464	If she is your friend, you have no option but to tell her. We live in a time when people can bring home deadly STDs. She must be told. But your instincts are right - prepare for her to not believe you and to accuse you of making it up, meddling, etc. She might even stop talking to you for a while. You'll just have to ride this out as she will eventually figure out he is a cheating bastard. Remind yourself that you have planted the seed in her head to make her a little more suspicious of her guy. She'll figure it out eventually. Depending on your relationship with him, you might give him the chance to tell her himself what he is up to. This should follow your presentation of the evidence you have and not come before or he could sabotage your credibility before you can warn her. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

spoogie	yes tell her, whether she belives you or not is her problem, or you could tell the bloke in question you are on to him, n warn him if it happens again you will tell his wife Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

ItBeMoi	Write her a not so you will never have told her, or alternatively ask her would she want to know if her hubby was cheating on her. I know I'd like to know............ Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

exoticflava	Take her somewhere that u know he will be or take a video or a picture of what u see then show her. She will want to see proof because he will deny everything without proof. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

Corona	Don't tell. If you do, and they stay together, you might never be able to have your friendship the same again. This has happened to me in the past. I told my friend about her husband, she confronted him and decided to forgive him, then our friendship was never the same, because of course he didn't want me around anymore and she wanted her marriage to work, which eventually they divorced anyway. I, personally would just keep my mouth shut. Unless she is a complete idiot, she will eventually find out on her own. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

not_ON_the_CRAK ;)	NOO you couldn't do that. you'd be breaking up a marriage. let the guy gets caught stick up for the his wife. sorted. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

bethannie	OOh blimey you are in that position 'i so wish i hadn't seen that'. Well, in this situation you are damned if you do and damned if you don't. I would not be the one to tell her myself and then when she finds out- she will- she will need you to support her. Then you feign innocence- you never knew- pretend to be shocked- be there for her. If you are the one to tell her she will hate you for it and she will have no best friend to support her when the s**t hits the fan. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

heidi the ghosthunter	this is the ultimate dilemma, if you tell her she may not believe you & your friendship will be ruined, but if you dont she'll hold it against you if she finds out....sorry hun plead ignorance Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

NAN G	The right thing to do is tell her, but if you do, she more than likely will not believe you and then she and her husband both will probably turn against you. I think I would tell her anyway - she deserves to know. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

ndnqt1966	If she is your best friend I think you should tell her what you know. If she happens to find out one day that you knew and didn't tell her she may be angry with you for not saying anything. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

madge	Tell her, you would want to know if the shoe was on the other foot Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

April	If it were your husband, would you want to know? I would. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

Rav	I would have physical proof of the affair before telling her. She might not want to believe you, but the photos do not lie. Without the proof, it will be your word vs. his, and if he will cheat, he will lie to cover it up. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No