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Nikki	Once you got married you took on the responsibility of having to pay child support. Sorry to break the news to you...good luck with this situation!! Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

Rainey S	no, if he doesn't pay it he will eventually goto jail its not your kid not your problem that is 100% his responsibility unless you want to help. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

ozraikat	Talk to a lawyer, that is the only way you will get a clear view on where you are, and your rights. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

sexy mama	if you have joint accounts and you file taxes jointly then yes they can take that Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

oppy911	from what I understand the x-wife can ask for child support base on you and your husbands combined income. So yeh I guess you will be paying for a child thats not yours. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

Dereck	I don't think so. Is he telling you that so you will pay it??? Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

wongfiehung2003	no... you wont have to pay,it is not your obligation. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

kathyw	For the sake of your marriage, you have to separate the 'child' here from the 'beeyatch' . One is different from the other. She may be using the child to wreak some sort of revenge on your husband, or maybe she did in the past. That wouldn't be surprising - it's not uncommon. Time has passed. She may be feeling that the revenge urge has lessened and she has a new need - to get a break from the intensity that is child-raising. I have felt that need many times myself! In her case, it translates into 'Now, my son needs to be part of the new family unit his father has....' Welcome that opportunity! Your husband was turned away in the past (yes she was/is a beeyatch) but your husband's child was the pawn. Now here he is - are you going to punish the child by shutting him out because of the mother? If you think about it, that is what you would be doing. As far as child support goes, yes, I think you would have to share your husband's debts just as you would share his income. I'm sorry all this has landed in your lap. I hope you come to like this child - if you do, or at least try to, it will be the greatest gift you could ever give your husband. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

KK#9 fan	You aren't responsible for the child support debt. Legally that is. I have a step-son myself (he's 11). Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

Quicksilver	No, the courts cannot touch the new spouses salary. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

vannili	If I were you I will ask someone in legal matters,I will not pay too for a kid that's not mine.Even my love to my spouse is as big as life I will not support his kid I am kind but not a sucker... Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

dredgedude@sbcglobal.net	when you marry thats the game ... that poor kid.. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

Goodspeed	I think it adjusted...lets say he make 100 buck..and has to pay 25..if the wife makes 300, then they make 400 and they have to pay 100 bucks.... Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

Arene	First of all for the sake of the child try to be calm always. You can assist your hubby by being as nuetral and supportive as you can of him and separating the support for the child from the disdain for the childs mother. You and your husband and the child will benefit from this in the long run because you guys will get grandkids and a son who visits you when hospitalized in your old age and who will have a better chance on becoming a good citizen and that child will recognize that his mom tried to destroy the relationship with a loving dad and step mom. Too many time adults let their feeling over take the need that the child has and that is to be loved by both parents and if not both one of the adults. Kids already have it hard why complicate it even more over an 18 year span that can be detrimental or successful for a life time. Stop the bitterness and just start saying o.k. and od wht you can do within the law to pay that child support. Your husband did make the baby. You married him and it seems that you want to stay with him. I have ahard time understanding how women and men can put so much belief and protection into money and yet risk their life in a sexual relationship with someone. So why not ease up and pay the support for the rest of the 18 years so that you, your husband , and his son can have a peaceful transition through these unfortunate circumstances of the demon woman. she is who she is, but you guys do not have to assist her in making it difficult for the young child or yourselves. You will really get her goose by not reacting and giving her any control in your marriage. Her mission is to disrupt the peace between you and your husband and you need to be a wise women and not direspect her, but use wisdom to overcome her foolishness. Be wise and do not be angry. Make love to your husband each time you are angry over the situation and speak kindness instead of bitterness to overcome this unfortunate thing that is not your fault,but just a circumstance that has befallen you! Be wise! Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

beenie 21	Your husband should of taken her *** to court to set a visitation schedule a child support schedule. Now if she would not follow the court orders then he could of called the cops and enforce the order. But now you should get a lawyer to help you out. Even though you are now married to him the child needs his father. Its ashame of the mother she kept of away from his father. I hope that your husband kept up a log with the times and dates that the mother had refused to let her son with his father. This would help out so much in court so that the judge can see that your husband was making a effort to be with his son. My best wishes and luck to you. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

donna_honeycutt47	Unless you have legally adopted your Husbands child, then you are NOT responsible for supporting Their child. You can call any lawyer and they will tell you the same thing. Your husband should be working and supporting his child but at the same time, he is allowed visitation and should not have all of these obstacles allowed to happen. Best advice for you both is to go talk to a Lawyer. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

michelle	no the child isn't yours just like they cant take your income taxes...theres a paper you have to file so they can`t touch any of your income taxes. Don`t listen to any of the people saying they can make you pay because NO you don`t I should know I was married to someone that owed and they never went back on me. Like I said theres a paper you can get when you file your taxes so they can`t touch your portion.I`m not sure of the name of it anymore but you can ask someone like at H&R block of anywhere like that.You do have to pay for it though if you go through a place like that but not if you do your own taxes.I think you may be able to get it online.You might be able to call the 1-800 thats on your W2s for help. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

Dolly J	All depends on your state, but truthfully, depending again on your state, I don't see how, since the when you marry someone that has a child, the step-parent really has no rights, it's more a less a priviledge if you will even to punish as the real parent, I'm married with children from a previous marriage, when my new husband read all this in the parenting info stuff they give you when you apply for a license, he was quite shocked, but they may consider "household" income, but really, my sister went through this herself and her income had no bearing on her husbands child-support obligation. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

haywoodwhy	I think that it depends on which state you live in. I agree that I would not pay child support for a child that is not mine. This is a legal question that might best be answered by contacting your local county courthouse, district court , probably. I have a friend of mine, in Washington state, who married a delinquent dad, and even though he got fined for not paying his child support, she did not face any payment penalties. Also, this is something that he did before you were married, so why should you bear the punishment? Interesting question, though. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

sylonthego	unfortunately, that comes with being married. you are not just as responsible for the child support as he is. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

MARIA	CHILD SUPPORT IS BASED ON HIS EARNINGS. He will have to pay the percentage that was stablished at the beginning of the arrangement, if his salary goes up, so does the child support. If he does not pay what he is suposed to he could get in trouble and maybe a judge will take on his salary first, untill he makes arragements. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

i d	my husband pays child support too. and she is also a witch! i will not pay for those kids they are not mine! but would i let my husband go to jail for not paying when he has no money? no! so i guess for his sake i would help him pay. but , in my state, they cant take anything from me or count my income with his when it comes to support.and! be smart, i have been filing taxes separate so NO ONE gets my hard earned money, especially not her!! be wise. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

Brenda C	Dear Lovecraft07: In regards to the child support issue you must remember that laws vary by state, so first educate your self in regards to what applies in your state. Easily enough you can do this using the Internet. Second I know that to many having to pay child support for children they did not bear can sound outrages, however dear, you already maried him so I suggest you stop expressing your self that way. That child already became your too. My questions to you is: Do you have any children? Third and most important: Keep in mind that they had a chlid together and there for it will forever remained that way. You must think about this with a clear mind and acceptance. Regardless why she is now doing so, live for today, forget about the past, and put in your half to make the best of it. Regardless of the reasons behind her actions today, you need to recognize that in the end it is the best thing for a child to have a healthy relationship with his son...your step-son. Stop some how feeling insecure, because if your marriage sits on a strong foundation...trust me, its not going to affect your marriage. Meaning: limitations. You must always remember that although he is your husband today, he is the one to make decisions regarding this matter and you must respect them. Don't try to justify his actions regarding seeking his son, because there are many things (legal) he could have done to see and spend time with his son...specially if he is paying child support. In regards to you, he is now your husband and you must remain out of it. Six or ten years, the most important issue today is that she is seeking to see them having a relationship AND THAT IS GOOD. And by the way always remember where your standing today may be where you won't be standing tomorrow. make the best of it. Besides if she is doing it to mess with your marriage, she certainly doing so. Ignore her and demonstrate to her and your husband that you have the maturity and capabilities to handle what ever come your way and that you too, want the best for the child by keeping your place with dignity and faith. Your husband will see and feel proud of you and love you even more. the last thing he needs is you putting in your two senses that can only make it worst for the two of you. Remember men get tired of it! Please keep in touch write at mrscamposmarquez@hotmail.com Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

serenitydaus	The state that I live in they take all income from the houshold and go with that they can take all of your income tax return if your file together for back support Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

Dan The Answer Man	You are not liable for any debt incurred before your marriage. If the debt goes delinquent he will be pursued for his debt, but you personally are not responsible. BUT, as a couple, if you depend on both incomes to pay your bills, you need to keep in mind that someday soon, his income is about to be garnished for child support, which may or may not directly affect any JOINT debts you have with him, and your ability to pay them. If he cannot pay your joint debts, because he is paying past due child support, then your co-debts will fall on you as they fall behind. Your feelings on paying for a kid that isnt yours is UNFORTUNATELY shared by your Husband, and the kid in question is his. So my YAHOO question to you is, "Do you think this man will pay you child support if you should divorce him with a child involved?". I dont know what your answer is, but I know what his will be. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

sticky	Call the child support office in your state. I think its possible that if he owes money and you do your taxes together they can be taken. Also for checking and savings account even if they are joint. But think about this, if he doesnt want to support the kids he has now how about when you have kids with him?? Think about that before you get married. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

Douglas ?	If your married to this person is could be possible. You will need to consult a lawyer about your rights on this one. Good luck! Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

ktsz	Thats a very good question, and I dont see why you should. Unless you signed a prenup stating that you dont have anything to do with his previous marriage or the support of his children I have no idea. Maybe get some legal advice on that one just to make sure. I wouldnt want to pay support for someone elses kid either. Good luck. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

Neil L	No, they can't attach your money as long as you don't have it in a joint account with him. Keep your money in your own account. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

Arthur W	Once you say I do, everything becomes marital property including kids, debt and possessions. Sorry but reality Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

dittersdoodles	Child support in all states is based on the payers income, not including the income of the spouse. If he owes back support, she can go after other assests such as tax refunds, extra vehicles, etc., things in his name. Talk to an attorney about your rights in your state. You can file your taxes as an "injured spouse" I think that's what they call it, so she doesn't get your portion of the tax refund. Or do what we did, we filed separately, I claimed our children getting the child tax credit, so his refund was lower and she didn't get as much. His ex was allowing her current husband access to the money even though they were going through a divorce themselves, we didn't want her soon to be ex husband to get the kids money. Now that he's long gone, the courts granted us our request to send her money to a checking account instead of a visa card so her ex couldn't still get money, and now we pay her his arrearages, nearly paid off. Oh, and she can't stop him from visitation, ever, unless he's proven unfit or doesn't keep his CS current (meaning she gets something each week). She doesn't own that child and can't use the child like a possession. Do yourself a favor, keep good records, a journal, of phone calls you make, she makes (from what number at what time), money paid to her through the courts, stuff you buy the child, anything regarding her or the child. You may need it. Courts like people who are organized and can prove their case. If she goes in yelling and you are being quiet and polite and have papers on hand, who do you think the judge is going to listen to? Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No