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sedonalove	This guy certainly doesn't respect you or your marriage. I think it's time to seriously think about leaving. In reality, if this keeps up you will be in debt up to your adnoids, then what will you do? If you feel so strongly about the bonds of marriage and you won't divorce, a separation and counseling would be right up there on my top 5 list, right after walking out the door. Good luck. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

chigirl	It sounds like you wear pants in this relationship! So if he acts like woman you should cut him loose ! Don't go for divorce right away just keep your accounts and money away from him!!! Sorry Honey but it sounds like he is a loser Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

dlmvm0612	This man does not respect you. You really need to sit down with him and tell him how upset you are about this. If I were you I would get a P.O. Box address and keep him from getting your mail. You have been married for 6 months, don't stay in it any longer, you can do so much better and find a man that will respect you, and have his own income. You should rememember things that are bad now will only get worse in the future. Tell him how you feel, and let him go. He is not ready for marriage, and he needs to learn how to respect people. The first thing is to know what your needs are for yourself, if you respect your needs you will find the person that will respect and love you..... Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

cocoa	I would prosecute him that's considered theft because the account is in your name only!call your bank don't let him get away with that! Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

Traviesa	Dat is nothing but trouble....and that's only been 6 months. I know you wanna try to work things out but you need to talk to him and if he still don't want to hear you out then you guys got issues Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

san_ann68	maybe you should do a trial separation and get counseling Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

nukecat25	You've displayed what is wrong with recent generations and why the divorce rate is on the incline. You have to work this out; he does as well. But after a few incidents you're just ready to throw the towel in? That's weak. He obviously is in the wrong here, but when you marry you give up autonomy; that's the difference between being married and just a serious relationship. So learn to communicate and create common goals for your money so that you both have something to save for, perhaps a down payment on a house or a new vehicle for you to share. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

mrschloerichardson	Let me just say that the first year of marriage is crazy. I suggest that even if he did get your ATM card out of the mail, go to the bank and put a pin number on it that only you know. He can't use it without the number. He also can't use it if it's not signed. I kept my maiden name so alot of my mail comes in my maiden name and my married name. My credit cards come in my maiden name so that when they go to a store, the clerk automatically asks for ID. If his name doesn't match my name, they won't let him use the card. Get an account that you two share and keep only the minimum in it and then get yourself a seperate account for the bills and whatever. He won't have access to that account unless you give it to him. If this is what you have to do to last financially in your marriage, do it. If you think the marriage isn't worth it, get out. You don't want to be in a marriage and so financially unstable that you find yourself living under a bridge with bad credit because of him being irresponsible. Talk to him about the danger that he is putting the marriage in. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

?	You cannot trust someone that is stealing from you. The money in a marriage is suppose to be for the both of you, however if you decided before hand how you will be handling your finances and he is going behind your back, then today it is $500 tomorrow it is $1000. You will decide when enough is enough. The best advice that I can give you is never go back on a treat. If you say your are going to do something as a consequence of someone else actions stick with it. When you back down, it makes you appear weak and the person will have you for breakfast. If that is the only problem in your marriage, then you might consider going to marriage counseling to work this out. Find out why he needs this money, and what he is using it for. If he is using it for the marriage then, relax, it will come back to you anyway. If he is using it for selfish reasons, then make him get another job, or a job if he doesn't have one. The best plan of actions is to communicate, and remember saying I am sorry is just sorry, especially when the offender doesn't change. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

malibu	leave him. he should be giving you money and not stealing from you. i broke up with a guy who took money out of my wallet without asking me just to get beers! Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

oregonerin	What has he done for you lately? He obviously has no respect for you, if he's already doing this stuff how long do you think it will be before he is cheating on you? Get out, you sound like a nice girl who deserves to be with someone who respects you and treats you like a Queen and then you can treat THAT guy like a King! I am sorry this is happening, I've been there and I know it hurts. I left and have never looked back! Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

ms maria	GIRL ...KICK HIS *** TO THE CURB! I HOPE HE IS YOUNG AND NOT AN ADULT DOING DUMB STUFF LIKE THAT..... Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

Samba Queen	No, these things are not his, if they were acquired by you prior to your marriage to him, then these are your separate property items. I don't know what state you live in, but your state may be a community property state. In a community property state the separate property of the parties is recognized as separate property. What you need to do is keep all your stuff separate. Do not allow him access to your keys, or your credit cards or your bank accounts. In fact, you can call your bank and credit card companies and have your accounts set up in such a way that you are the only authorized user and you will have to select a password that you will use every time you go to use your accounts. Do not write this password down anywhere and don't tell him what it is. Make it something that he will never, ever be able to guess in a million years. Then you need to get a lawyer if you can afford one, or go to your local courthouse and get a dissolution of marriage packet and file for a divorce. This guy is definately taking advantage of you and has no intentions of love or marriage. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

Erica, AKA Stretch	My husband and I have seperate accounts and one shared account for Household Expenses. We have seperate cars in each of our names. Most everything else we share, but we respect there are things that do not belong to us. My old debts and his old debts we do not share either. Also my husband and I talked about these things before we got married. We maybe should have done a pre-nup, but things are still going very well. We have an old fashioned marriage, with our new personailities attached. If he were to take all our money and cause us to go in the whole and in debt, then there is big trouble. We will try to patch things up and if it doesnt work and counseling does no good, I would have to leave the relationship because he is being selfish and not caring about the marriage and a life we had built together. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

djmsr26	he has mistaken your kindness for weakness and husband or not has stolen from you. You can not trust him not that he would cheat on but how far in debt will he take you 500 now 1000 later so forth and so on. as a man he should not even want your atm card. Decide whether he is your husband or your son. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

StraightDrive	Lady, something's wrong with both of you and you are blaming each other and trying to hurt each other. Cant you keep your debit card data confidential? Are you such a fool? Or can you not cancel it? In a marriage, you need to share respect and belongings. You say that you gave him all your material possessions. What is the big deal if he takes your car? You take his and use his credit card. If you feel that he is going to harm you and take away all your money then cancel all your joint a/c and credit cards. Move your money into a different bank and protect your money. Watch his reaction. If he becomes furious, ask him to share his car, debit card et al before he uses yours. Contact a marriage counsellor before taking the drastic step of leaving. Here many are advising you to leave without thinking. Plz don't do it in haste. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

lajefa	Oh my God!! Please get out of this relationship as soon as possible. Get a lawyer and freeze all your assets now. He has shown you that he doesn't honor or respect you. He is going to get you further and further in debt unless you take immediate action. Bless you and good luck. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

cutietraci87	you should probably leave him if he is a dead beat does he work for money and give any to you if he isn't then let him hit the road. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

misydoll	Even husbands and wifes need to talk and tell each other what they are doing. This guy sounds like a jerk taking your ATM card and car without asking. I'd leave him. If he treats you like this right now it might not get any better. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

Cindy C	if you can't even trust him with the money you share (i hate that, too, don't get me wrong) then you can't trust him with anything else. He is very irresponsible. And quite childish, I might add. And so are the people who answered that he was in the right, geez, if it had happened to me, i'd be all kinds of pissed ('specially since i'm broke). Of course, i'd leave no time for questions, it had been over. Money, is not everything, but damn, it's something you have to work hard for! Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

aydn55	are u stıll wıth hım??? ı hope not ıf so u must be so...... sorry but ıt ıs allreadytıme to leave hım good luck Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

cr329	Sounds like you married a selfish person. He cares more about his own gratification than your joint happiness. Feeling strongly about the bond of marriage is all well and good but if you stay with someone like this, the value of your own marriage becomes cheapened. Try to get him to go to counseling. Maybe there's more to his behavior than you know and he could benefit from some professional assistance. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

caribbeangal	I think it's time to move on he only want you for your possession Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

Fannie	Sweetheart, this man does not love you are respect, he is hopeing you will leave him and it will give he the excuse he needs to be out of the marriage, when he married you he really didn't want 2 but it was what everyone was expecting of him, so now he is takeing his anger out on you, but, it's not 2 late 2 leave & be thankful it happen now than later. You are strong, dust off,cut the lost, & have fun with loving family & friends. You will meet someone who will be a giver in LOVE, RESPECT, MONEY, it's not the man you married. PLEASE MOVE ON!!!!! Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

closed	I would watch out for this guy, if I were you.... Make sure you get a legal separation if you do leave or he will be able to wipe you out clean and legally get away with it..... Good luck.... Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

Meow	You poor girl. I went through the same thing with my ex-husband. I would secretly start hiding money in a separate account. It would be best if you could have your mother set up an account in her name and you could use it for deposits. This man is going to make so much debt for you. $500 is nothing. My ex racked up $15,000 in 3 years of marriage. Then he had an affair and divorced me. He tried to stick me with his debt. I won and he had to take the debt 100%. However I was very scared because I had no money while divorcing. Be prepared and save money and do not ever tell him about it. Hide your cards from him. Hide all sources of money from him and close any joint accounts. If he is gonna spend that way let him do it alone. Have proof that you are not the spender in court. Good Luck. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

just me here	He will continue doing this as long as you continue having him in your house. He has a money problem just as much as if he were having a drug one..It's called addiction to $$$$$.. Separate accounts are the best way ... Put your hand bag somewhere where he won't get ahold of it when you are in the shower, out, or asleep. ; ;just like a bull weavel gets into cotton clothing and makes holes !!! Be careful........... Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

Stephanie S	I also believe in the vows of marriage, when your partner is not meeting those needs then you need to rethink thing over. I had the same problem but I wasn't married to this guy just living with him. At first it was great until he started to steal from me and my family, i had to hide my money, and take all my expensive thing to my mom's so that he would not hawk my stuff. Everyone told me to leave him, but i was stupid and stuck it out. It's been 10 years since i through his *** out. In the year that he lived with me, It has taken me 10 years to get back on track. Your man may not be that bad, but always remember that you come first, and you need to take care of you and if your husband keeps it us get out because he has no respect for you or your marriage. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

Lilly K	I have never heard of someone making their spouse ask for permission to use the car . When you get married you cant act like a baby and say everything is mine mine mine and you cant have any.Looks like you wasn't ready to get married. Sounds like you want a roommate not a life partner. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

cowboy	It sounds to me you have married a child. Tell him to grow up. Try councling if that does not work Kick his butt to the curb. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

rwhatley65	....And this is all new to you??? Several questions: How long did the two of you date prior to marriage? Did you go to counseling? Does he work? It is rare that someone can completely hide there flaws over a substantial period of time. That is the purpose of the dating relationship-to assist each individual in seeing how this significant other will react in a variety of situations, such as, illness, loss of family member, loss of job, how they treat other people, how they react around your family, what their belief systems are. Do not give up so soon....seek out help for you and for him. My dear, this may have come as a surprise to you, but he did not change after you married him....you just didn't see the reality. Find a counselor, buckle down and work this thing out. Marriage is hard work that may not pay off for a long time, but it is a worthy investment. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No