I have been with my husband for 7 years and he still has not grown up will it ever happen.?

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greeksun	by the time a man grow up like a Govt.Bond he is depreciated so much ...let a man be a child...... Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

david w	He probably wont change...but did u marry him expecting to change him....who did u fall in love with? Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

lesuiremike	ignore him he will come around Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

raffi	my question would be does this man want a marriage? it seems to me that he is living the life of a single man, no responsibilities or thought for how you really feel. if he can't understand he should give up some of his extra curricular activities then he is a selfish and self centred man...get rid of him Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

~Metalman Princess~	I Am Messing Around With A 54 Year Old Married Man And I Am 20 Years Old. I Been Messing Around With Him Since Last September 2005. He Has A Son Who Is 20 And He Is My Friend And A Daughter Who Is 17 And His Daughter Caught Us Having Sex Once Before But She Did Not Say Nothing To Nobody Because She Has Autistic And She Has A Mind Of A 6 Year Old. This Married Man Wants To Leave His Wife And Marry Me... But I Do Not Know If He Will Leave His Wife Of 21 Years! The Sex Is Good And He Always Said I Love You To Me All The Time And I Do Not Know What To Do. But I Love Him! We Never Use Protection But He Pulls Out And Ejaculate On My Stomach! We Have Had Sex In Werid Places! Nobody Knows About This Relationship And He Plans On Getting A Divorced From His Wife When His Daughter Turns 18! He Already Asked His Wife For A Divorce But She Say Things Will Work Out And He Thinks Things Won't Work Out! This Relationship Between Me And Him Started When I Went Over There And Fixed His Computer And I Saw Porn On His Computer And Then I Ask Him About It On-Line And He Said It Was His And We Started Messing Around And Other Stuff!!! His Wife Is Going To Court In September To Gain Full Rights Over Their Daughter!!!!! What Would You Do? Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

n3rdluvr2001	they never grow up, but i'll trade you husbands. i wish my husband wanted to do things instead of being such a homebody. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

butterflybaby	NO But you have been with him for 7 years he is not going to change now. You are going to have to live with it or you are going to have to make him leave. Or you can take the kids and leave for awhile and see if that straightens him up. That is what I had to do I had to take my kids and leave for a couple of weeks for him to realize that we mattered enough for him to change. Married for 10 years. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

?	I was married to a man like yours when I was younger. He would go out to clubs, hang out with friends, play "Sega" that was the thing at the time. The only time I really saw him was at the dinner table and in bed. That is why I was only married to him for 2 years. It sounds like your husband wants a family but doesn't want to do the work involved in a family. He wants all the benefits, but doesn't want to deal with the day to day activities of you and your kids. Do you think he could be unhappy with the marriage and is using all these excuses to be 'out of the house?' Sit down and talk to him. Good Luck! Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

onelonevoice	With two kids,he is home more than just wed Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

?	First of all, how old is he? Sounds as though he is quite young or in mature. Regardless of his age, he possesses a family. It is complete with a wife and children. Those are the individuals he should be making his DAILY plans around, NOT friends, personal activities OR alcohol consumption. You need him, the CHILDREN need more than a stable bread- winner. A real husband does more than work 8 hours. Big deal, he'd be doing that regardless. You need to set some limits for him. He needs to respect your feelings and listen. THE PARTY IS OVER. THAT is what I would tell mine; and I have. Good Luck. You'll need it. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

kat	NO....it will never happen. I know we all wish that the day will come.....but.....I don't forsee it...... Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

jenna	Does he live in this day in age-honey your crazy-I'd kick his a-- out when he goes to his buddies again -doors locked or changed-and see if he likes that sh-t! I use to be a little like you-but i got smart= tough and made a life of my own-it still includes him-but i don't take no sh-T i mean it-sorry for the bad language-that was something i inherited from my disgust as well---little secret when they realize you will leave-you'll have him begging @ your feet-and if that does not work-then move on-and the next one will be better-kids or no kids- don't get treated like crap--have him baby sit sometime-and you go out to happy hour-you'll probaly see me- Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

whimsygirl	No he will never change!...move on Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

ruthie	OHHHH scary - been there, done that. Gotta love those self absorbed men who love having you home where they know what YOU are doing! YOu REALLY think he will change- be that guy who comes home at night and sits down for the meal you prepared and helps bathe the kids and put them to bed??? Ain't gonna happen- the pattern is set, Let me guess Momma's boy or the youngest in his family-used to getting his way. I am sorry for you. this is so hard because I know you wait up hoping he doesn't get arrested or killed driving home.Stop the craziness. Do it now while kids are young. If you wait - it will be harder on them. The teenagers will do what he does because they see it is acceptable to you. This sucks and I am sorry. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

johnnysunshine11	id try and apply for wife swap or nanny 911. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

rkilburn410	In a word NO Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

virgo1	honey sounds like u r just hi maid & care taker. if other men get away with this then it proves what i said...a maid. ofcourse sex 2 is prob. his terms. u really need someone 2 b there 4 u because he isn't. children deserve father 2. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

Jeanne G	Looks like he wanted one at some point but has since changed his mind. Put your foot down! If he insists on his "out" time, you must insist on yours also. I would suggest that you both pick one night out of the week to hang out with friends, the other six should be family inclusive. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

katie	Unfortunately some men never grow up. And, they never change either. How much do you want to put up with? He is taking way more than he's giving. Doesn't really sound like he wants a family. If it were me, I'd be gone. Good luck to you. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

mac	sounds like your right,seems he puts his life in front of yours,and his duty's as a husband/father,while you only give a glimpse of the picture,maybe you should sit him down,and talk,if he refuses,ask about counseling,if that doe sent work.....maybe you should let him know its possibly time to part ways,if your not satisfied and he is then something is wrong and will stay that way,maybe he's bored with you and the kids,football and their drink as is his friends are at this moment better than you,i don't know how it is in your country,but in America,women seem to want a divorce if all else fails,maybe this might be something to think about,if divorce is not in the picture,then.....seek help...maybe from a professional.... Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

twiztiddarkangelman	Sorry to say this but I doubt hubby will ever grow up unless you make him. Stop being his doormat. Have his dinner ready when he normally gets home, but heres a twist. Meet him on the way out the door. Tell him you're going out and he has the kids tonight. Hubby needs a wake up call bigtime. He needs a real big dose of reality. If you don't force the issue. You're in for alot more of the same from him. . . good luck! Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

Hailee's mom	If you married him that way, why try to change him now. Your both used to it. If you can't accept him that way why did you marry him that way? Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

crrankin22	Oh Honey you know very well the answer to that ?? So heres what you do. You just pretend everything is alright & start socking away some $$$ Then when you are ready, talk to an attorney & get rid of him also keep a journal of what he is doing how late he comes in etc. Then make the foolish kid pay spousal support & child support. Maybe do a little PI stalking & see if he is doing something else. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

conebone	omg--and you had sex with him and had 2 kids-and you think he should grow up--read your own letter Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

old man	Hey he has it too good why should he change, let the house cleaning go fix supper for yourself and the kids and let him fend for himself. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

mandie_darkness	he might want a family just not the work involved in it. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

>>\|\|<<	There is nothing wrong with what he is doing , he just needs to do it in moderation. I bet it feels like you have three children. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

cocoanutt	That sounds like a common problem, and one that isn't easily solved. I seriously recommend counselling if you can get him to go. Although he should be aloud to have friends and a social life, he should not expect you to take care of him while he plays. I would try signing up for something, joining a group, something that has a set schedule every week. Tell him he has to stay home on those days because you have plans. At least you get out and have a life if nothing else. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

Beware the fury of a patient man	Short answer - No. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

angiesue1032	what in th hell? Put your foot down...find out exactly how important that family is to him. I bet you'd be suprised..... You and your kids are being taken for granted....you need to handle this now hun, you and the kids deserve better. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

hunterman	Probably not... Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No