I found some text messages on hubbys phone from another woman, should I say something?

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MissingInAction	Me thinks so Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

south_cheshire_cat	Start getting worried and mention it too him. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

roseannetb@verizon.net	By all reasons you should ask him what is going on? And take the time, to listen, and and figged out where his head is at. Let him know you are their, if he ever need some one to listen. I hope everything works out for you! Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

EveretteDavid	No, if you enjoy being "cheated on" then don't say anything.However, if you don't enjoy it maybe you should text him back and let him know this. Or you could just confront him about it. Sorry if I sound a little sarcastic. Wake up your missing a good game. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

samwise25	hell yes why do women get on here and ask this stuff,do we not have a backbone anymore.Hell yeah say something don't be a doormat for him to walk all over cuz you are to scared to speak up. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

sbratt2	Yes, he will deny everything. Don't ask if you are not willing to no! I would guess he's having an affair and YES I WOULD ASK Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

Bee	For sure speak to him, ultimately he's your best mate - so is my husband, but I have a male best mate outside of my marriage and we would text whether we missed each other - but it's perfectly innocent - we're like brother/sister - so try not to jump the gun Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

klowery1971	if it is bother ing you that much you need to ask, but you need to do it in a way that doesn't make him feel like he is being accused of something without any warrant. give him the chance to explain what is going on. and then go from there. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

Sarah M	Maybe you should ask him if you can borrow his phone to text someone and see if he gets scared and says no. If he is happy to let you do it, it's probably nothing. I have had a text flirtation with a friend of mine though I didn't fancy him, I was just very flattered by him saying I was beautiful Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

Jewells	If they are inappropiate then yes! Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

Destiny	well you have to look at it from two ways. You went into his phone (violation of privacy) BUT he's getting texts from some other woman (violation of marriage...depending on what they said) You didnt enlighten us so I have to assume that they were something that bothered you...if it were me, I would try to get more info and then present him with my findings and ask whats going on. then you have to decide if you want to stay with him and work through any potential issues.... Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

wendyhannan0130	be worried - i would continue to investigate before you approach him. (if you do have sex use a condom) Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

Beezer	first off your not supposed to read the messages ,how can you say anything without letting him know you read them. maybe you could ask to use his phone as yours is broke, or you can't find it(make sure its of in case he phones it)then if you discover them then you can tackle him, Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

dungeoness	for your own peace of mind say something. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

kazzadanni	Yes l would but don't expect an honest answer from him especially if he is doing the wrong thing by you. Also he will try and put the blame on you for not trusting him. Why did you check his messages in the first place ? Did you suspect that he was up to no good ? A woman's intuition is a very powerful thing and usually very accurate. Go with your gut feelings. I would also suggest that you ring the other woman and make her aware that you know what's going on, l did, it didn't change anything to begin with but it certainly did in the long run and made me feel a lot better. she will know that she is not getting away with anything and it will certainly make her rethink her scheming ways. That was how l found out about my husband cheating and l too had always trusted him before then. Everything is fine now, but it was certainly a rocky road for a while. We both love each other and are working through our problems. Best of luck to you, l hope everything works out in your favour. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

brat `93	Just ask him about before making assumptions. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

cooper	Get someone to ring the number and find out some details for you. If it turns out to be innocent he never has to know. If not confront him!! Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

MANC & PROUD	It doesn't mean there is anything going on,but I would tell him you are aware of them. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

leo	Best advice Investigate first because he could say it s a wrong number or its innocent. men up to mischief will always lie. For your own dignity get your facts in order. All the best Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

bevalou	Yes course you should confront him about this,but beware, you might not like what he has to say about it! On the other hand he may well make excuses(and lie) and deny all knowledge of it then you will feel more suspicious and paranoid. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

hans2	its up to you. if you do, he might blag his way out of it and try to be careful next time. or try to get more info on these messages before you confront him. also, prepare for the worst!! take down the womans number and ask her whats going on with her and hubby? or when she texts again, text her back on your fellas phone something a little flirty and see what she comes back with. im sorry to break it to you, it might be nothing but prepare to put your marriage on line. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

lil' momma	not yet, wait until you get more evidence Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

♥♫♥ Crystal ♥♫♥	I would. If its innocent he should have no problem talking to you about it, if it isnt throw him out, dont waste your life with a guy who wont treat you right. Let me also add, ignore the people calling you a "snoop" you obviously had good reason to look through his phone, and look at what you found. That whole none of your business crap doesnt fly when you are married. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

tinkypinkles	not yet, find out more info if you can so you have case Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

hngalvan021	Yes, but just remember you are going to have to explain why you were looking in his phone. When you talk to him don't get defensive or emotional try to stay assertive and calm it will go better. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

shorte716	Yes why wouldn't you? Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

stephanie	What were they? I found "I love my family but I really want to be with you" on my hubbys phone! And remarks to another girl about a nice butt. So I checked his email and found even more..... That was a rough few months! I talked to him, and contacted the women and got to the bottom of it. He felt very unloved by me for a while so he started to drift away. But after that he realized that he loved me and I love him, and with God, we are doing great now. He didn't have an affair but I think it would have gotten to that if I didn't jump in when I did. I would look for more evidence if I were you. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

LittleLady59	Yes absolutly.....if he has nothing to hide, he will answer your questions openly and honestly. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

nenealne	Text the woman with some form of question(like love it the other night then if she response's with allthe juice details then confront your hubby!! Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

tragedy16	of course you should, if he was willing to hide the fact that he was getting text messages from another woman then he could be hiding other things from you as well... Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

Fiona M	Yes, you should talk things over with him. Make sure everything is all right. Don't go behind his back, because it will make him feel like you don't trust him if it turns out that he isn't doing anything wrong. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No