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I found porn on my computer but dont know if i can believe him...?
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I found porn in my computers Search history and i confronted my husband about it, and said it was pop-ups, and someone told me that pop up DO NOT show up in the " search History ", and i am having a really hard time believing him about this. He never does these kinds of things, and we have a 1 year old little boy. and if this is true then i am gone. and it was not just simple porn, it was much worse. This is so hard, i love my husband so much, he is my best friend and i really dont know what to believe. Any advise would be greatly apreciated, thank you
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hmmm, why you ask why i dont like my husband looking at porn ? um maybe cos i am his wife, and marriage is supposed to be sacred, i dont remember saying in my vows i vow to love, honor, cherish, and on the side look at naked people, So you tell me is that love , honor and cherish ?? Why do u have to be so rude ?
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Megan Z
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It's true, pop-ups do not show up in history...only visited sites do. I am like a computer goo-roo. Google a thing called key loggers. You can put an invisible program on your computer to log all activity, ie: anything typed, and sites visited, what programs were used and exactly what time. Some do cost money... not a lot. It may be worth it to get ACTUAL UN-deniable proof espcially if you want to leave the marriage. Best of luck to you!
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BiancaVee
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Pop ups dont show up in your history. the only thing that shows up are things that you have searched, and sites that you have visited. Guess I dont know the whole story here but I think leaving him over this is a little drastic.
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snack_daddy10
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The first year of being a parent is very hard.
You are changing and he is changing to become the parents you will be for the rest of your lives.
Maybe he is missing what you once were before.
Maybe he is missing what he was before becoming a father.
I find your statement "if this is true then i am gone" very disturbing. You need to left go of the these absolute statements. Will you treat your child this way? If your child does something that is not per se wrong, but that offends you, will you stop being his mother?
I've seen too many families fall apart because the parents stop being wives/husbands/lovers to each other and become parents 24/7. Your husband needs you to be his wife NOT his mother. If you act like his mother he will act like a big kid. People in part play the roles other give them.
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JoDoLo
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would u rather have him look at naked women in person in ur bed while ride him...if not get over it men watch porn ALL MEN DO IT whats the big problem...seriously if it aint kidy porn or gay porn wats the deal obviously u are not giving the man what he needs ask him wats missin and help save u relationship instead of ruining it over A PICTURE...if u cant satisfy him he goes to the net to get it....u failed not him
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onlineseeker
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If you would break up your family over this without trying to work on it I can not agree with that. Why not just tell him you dont expect to see this behavior again and see what happens. He may have looked because he was curious and can drop it just as easy. Porn to men is not the same as it is to you women. Can he leave you if he finds a romance novel you read?
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greenhorn
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Yes, he did visit those sites and he either doesnt know how to clear history or thinks you have no idea of computers. Pop ups dont get listed in History of sites visited.
While the situation is sad since you love him so much and dont want to lose him, you should talk it over with him and find out why he needs ot resort to porn. If you have noticed a marked change in his sexual behaviour with you of late, it would perhaps indicate he is not happy with the sex he gets. If he is a person who loves you, like you do him, both of you can sit together and work to find a solution. An understanding approach towards him would be conducive to bring back the joy in your life.
Wish you all the best.
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helpyouishelpmyself
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you can install netdog porn filter : http://www.netdogsoft.com
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shortpplrule01
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okay I will get booed for this one, but porn is not bad. Ask him why he looks at it.In a non angry judgmental way.Ask if there are things you can do that will help him out.Maybe there are things the two of you can try.buy one and watch it with him . Men are very simple creatures.really they are. If it is something very extreme offer to talk about it and offer to go to counceling.Dont let a marriage go just because of that.
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mbon:)
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This happened to be just a few months ago! I have trusted my husband completely and found some stuff on our home computer. It was accessed only once, meaning only that one day I found he had checked out a couple of sites. They were not horrible but I found he had completed a registration for one of those two websites. The site was never accessed again but the idea of him completed the form, freaked me out! I was ready to walk, pregnant and all. Couldn't belive this was coming from him! He is not the type to ever lie or be sneaky, doesn't cry or show much emotion but that night he was cyring and on his knees. Promissing it was something stupid, never thought to do anything with it. He said that since the site asked for a credit card and he didn't put anything, he had not finalized the registration. Long story short, the computer history proved that it was only that one time, that what he was saying was true but it took a LONG time for me to feel better about it. I had to comfront him about it and he had to be willing to answer any and all of my questions over and over again until I felt better. Speak with your husband, ask him all the questions you need, if it was a one time deal like with mine, I would work on it. Understand that we all at some point do stuff that doesn't make sense and really put not thought into it. If he has been visiting these sites often then you might need to go to a counselor and figure out what is missing, what is not there for him that makes him want to do it. Good luck!
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He's been there. My soon to be ex told me that the websites must have shown up on MY screen name...not his. That was his excuse. His other one was that he had no idea how it showed up in his history. After that, he started deleting the history everyday, and recently had his account password protected so I wouldn't find out. He had been looking at kids, quit when I found out, and since he has it password protected now I suspect he is back to looking at kids. That and the lies are the reason I am filing for divorce.
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Amy
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just talk with him. Tell him how you feel.
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angelzwings20032001
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Sorry to hear Shannon. Porn can't just show up like that. The sites were accessed. Between the 2 people here I found out the hard way. One being my husband. The other being my son who my husband has great influence on! And yes I am leaving him too. Not just over that. For the disrespect in more ways than one. Do it for you and your child .My son is no longer here now. He is grown. This happened of late. Being a total of twice in the last 6 years. Happening once. I gave the benefit of the doubt. Twice. Shame on me.
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If it was something that made you fear for the safety of you, your child, or children in your neighborhood or got forbid your pet. Then leave. If it made you fear for other women in your neighborhood than leave. If it made you feel he is going to expose you to STD'd and other things by engaging in risky behavior than leave.
Otherwise consider counseling, especially since he obviously thinks the behavior can be justified with lying.
It's not pop ups. And now that he knows that you know he will be more careful to delete his history. So if you stay and want to make sure that he isn't doing it again you need to get some kind of monitoring software. The kind that captures how long he was on a screen etc. Especially if you think your child or children in the neighborhood could be at risk.
My heart goes out to you.
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autumn b
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i'm in the exact same position as you...i've been with my husband for 5 years, we have a 8 month old daughter, and about 2 months ago i found hardcore porn sites on our history...he denied it, said it was pop ups, but it just got worse from there..there is no stoping them once they have started, and now my daughter and i are moving out. once they get into porn they change completely. that's all he lives for now. he use to be so caring and so against porn, but now it destroyed our family. i suggest either he admits to what he did and he gets help (if it's not too late), or you need to move on because it will break you down and destroy your life and your confidence as it did with me.
good luck
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xquis81
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I have been through the same thing sweetie, and let me tell you from personal experience, he is lying. There is no way that it would be in the history if he wasn't looking on these sites. My ex tried to tell me the same bs, but I knew better. I left him only 5 months after we bought a house together and I had to start over. It has been a year and a half since I left, and it was the best thing I could've ever done. He now admits that he was watching porn every chance he got and that nothing was ever going to change that. There are men out there that have respect for women and don't watch porn. I can promise you that he is lying... you deserve better girl. Email me if you need more advise at Xquis81@yahoo.com
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Ashley
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pop ups NEVER contain porn if your on plain old ordinary sites. The only way porno pop ups POP up is if he was already on a porn site. So, he HAS been on porn sites without a doubt. Im sorry. =(
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Plum
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secretly delete the history, put up a pop up blocker and then check the history after he finishes with the computer. then ul know
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Local Celebrity
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You probably should trust yourself and do not believe him. But, if you feel like the marriage is worth saving, maybe invite him to counseling. This is extremely tough and I am so sorry. I hate porn.
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peggie
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I had the same thing done to me with my husband, he lied about it all. Said he didnt do any of it. Well I am going to school for computers so I put on freeshield block just type in freeshield and put the block on and it tells you when and the sites he was on but remember to put a password on it. I will not let my husband get on here unless I am in the room and it blocks anything he tries to do. I wish you the best because I have been there it is hard to trust when they leave you in doubt.
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seattleman
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Having nothing to do with you, men can easily become bored and seek entertainment of this sort. While he probably hasn't done anything beyond online sexual stimulation, the history on your computer is proof of his partaking in such activity. So, your thought that 'he never does these things' simply isn't true. His secret male fantasies and desires is not dissuaded by your friendship or the fact that you share a child together. Because he doesn't want to hurt your feelings and disrupt your otherwise good relationship, he lied to spare further embarrassment and problems. My advice would be to simply explain that you recognize what he has done and while you sort of understand how this might be a form of entertainment, it also undermines your relationship with a sense of betrayal, which is compounded by his lies. It doesn't make you feel connected if he is going to live with secret fantasies...in essence a double life. Allow him to admit to his behavior, thoughts and feelings. Forgive, forget and move on...we are all human and none of us are perfect. As long as he isn't trying to move it to a real life sexual encounter, then we might consider what he has done as somewhat normal. The question becomes; Can you live with it? Open communication and honesty is key to understanding. I suggest you work it through. If need be, find a good counselor to help put issues on the table and gain understanding.
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Cyber Stalker
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Pop-ups do not show up on the history. He was just like most guys and looking at porn. The only porn you should leave him for is child porn and maybe gay porn, but other than that he's doing what most guys do.
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teh_flea
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If it scares you and the safety of your child, I would say go. If it's just odd or you don't like pornography in your house, you need to talk to him and perhaps a counselor. I, personally, see nothing wrong with pornography in the right venues (safe, sane, consensual and of age), but some people gain addictions or bad habits through it, so it should be treated carefully.
I don't think pop-ups show up in your history. And porno pop-ups usually only come up on questionable pages. I would be careful, because it seems like he's lying to you.
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Candy C
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The history isn't lying. Your husband is. Just install a net watch program like Cyber Patrol and he won't be able to access porn and it will let you know if he has tried.
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the one
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porn is not a reason to leave someone...but lying is...talk to him about tell him how you feel and find out about how he feels...but i think all men look at porn even if they are in a good relationship...
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RayCATNG
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If you are willing to leave him just because he looked at porn on the computer then he is not your best friend and you certainly don't love him as much as you think you do. If someone has an addiction or a problem ... a loving friend would offer to get them some help or just accept him how he is. I am sure glad you are not my wife and I feel very sorry for your husband. Porn, by the way, is one of the biggest driving forces behind the internet.
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Tracie
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IF IT IS SOMETHING YOU REALLY WANT TO KNOW, PUT A KEYLOGGER ON THERE. IF HE IS AND YOU CONFRONT HIM HE CANNOT BE UPSET WITH YOU BECAUSE HE LIED TO YOU FIRST.
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dar
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sorry he has been there popups don,t show up in history sorry
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kja63
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Sorry to make your life miserable, but if you found porn on the hard drive of your computer or in the search history of your internet explorer, they are NOT from pop-ups.
Hubby's busted!
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Justsyd
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He lied to you. Search history is where the browser has been, not the pop-ups. I think that you need to believe what's in front of you. He's looking at porn, and lying about it.
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prettybabi
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They ALWAYS say it's pop ups! He's a liar.
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Honey, if its in the history, he's been there!
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