I finally found an apt and i told my husband that am moving out with the children?

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Douglas B	Sorry you had to go through all of that to find out he really doesn't love you or know what love is all about. He has serious anger issues and he should have that taken care of. You did the right thing. Your children shouldn't have to put up with that any more than you. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

labellemere	ETA @@@@@@@@@@@@@@@@@ >>>>>>>***BESIDES, ACCORDING TO YOUR OTHER QUESTION, YOU ARE HAVING AN AFFAIR!!!!!!!!!!!! YOU ARE CHEATING ON HIM!!!! GOD!!!! WTF IS WRONG WITH YOU!!!!!!????? YOUR WHOLE STORY SOUNDS LIKE A MONEY GRUBBING CHEATER TRYING TO MILK HER MAN FOR ALL HE'S WORTH!!!! I PRAY TO GOD YOUR HUSBAND GETS THOSE KIDS, BECAUSE WHAT YOU ARE DOING IS WORSE THAN NAME CALLING!!!!!***<<<<<<<< @@@@@@@@@@@@@@@@@ Wow. You can't just take his kids. I hope he comes here so I can advise him to file kidnapping charges against you. Hopefully his atty will tell him this (and he will, so be prepared), making YOU the money grubber more likely to loose the kids and end up paying support to HIM. Wouldn't that just throw a wrench in your pretty little gears. The judge will be the FIRST to tell you that just because he "verbally abused you" (completely unprovoked by you I'm sure-you never "abused" him back?....) it doesn't make him a bad dad and it certainly doesn't men you can KIDNAP!!! You know, my hubby's ex wife went to JAIL for taking his kids away from him. Now she pays US support because this judge (despite what her atty told her) considered taking the kids a form of mental abuse. ETA-and MY point is that ALL judges are trained to see through this. "Protective orders" are a common manipulation that soon to be ex wives use ALLL the time (yep, my hubbies ex got one on him too, and yep, she still lost the kids). Judges are smarter...they read the entire situation with caution, they don't just go by surface appearance these days just because so many people misuse restraining orders. You can expect your judge to look beyond that. In fact most judges are well versed in a thing called PAS-Parental Alienation Syndrome, wherein a parent (usually the mother) tries typical tactics to alienate the children from their father.....and one of the number one ways is through use of "protective orders''. JUDGES SEE THIS A HUNDRED TIMES A DAY, so you can expect yours to fall under the same hard scrutiny at custody time that my hubbies ex's order fell apart under. If it does, mark my words it will bite you in the . Having an order of protection because of verbal abuse sounds far fetched anyways...and while you are living with him? What court grants an order of protection when the people are living in the same house. If that's the case, ten you are the one violating the terms by now being gone NOW...and besides that is for you, not the kids. Having an order of protection for yourself doesn't mean you can take someone's kids from them. Yeah, that would still be KIDNAPPING If you really want to "protect" the kids, don't put them through this HELL. You having a vendetta against the guy doesn't mean you can do this to them. He hurt YOU not them, so they aren't the ones who should carry your cross. Propose fair visitation, REASONABLE support and don't drag your kids through this. And by the way...if you were threatening to take my kids, I'd verbally abuse your ** too! Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

Shigoobidooby	How tight are the children? Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

Mel	Did you know that you can have child support written into the separation/divorce agreement? See, that is a question! Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

Vpot	Tell him that you are thinking of the children first, then yourself. You are concerned about the way he conducts himself in front of the children, and as such, don't want him around them until he gets himself in order. Simply tell him that you want what's best for your kids first, and then and only then will you concern yourself with trivial matters like you marital status. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

LIPPIE	Pardon me, but what would you like us to do for you. You sound like you have a good plan of action, so go for it. I hope all will be happy when it is over and done with. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

Forlorn Hope-only 5 suspensions	sounds like you made the right choice... get yourself and children out quick, then let everything else take it's time... Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

Percy	Cool down Girl Take a Deep breath and start asking again what are you talking about. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

bearsbullsfan	is there a question in there? sounds like your plan is good, but what do you want from us? Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

Edgar	Well what u got to do is get some cheese Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

rooney	great good plan, hopefully the children don't end up too emotionally damaged. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

★★★ Katharine ♥♥♥♥	the children have law guardians because he verbally abused me in front of the children and second ????? ARE YOU FOR REAL??? he verbally yells at you and you make the children have law guardians... good way to keep the dad away from the children.. In other words.... GOOD WAY TO SCREW UP YOUR CHILDREN RIGHT OFF THE BAT.. YES, you are doing it the WRONG WAY. first... don't accuse the dad of things like this- ridiculous. #2. Look out for the children by being REASONABLE with each other through the divorce. that means.. don't put them in the middle - and don't make accusations - for crying out loud... you are divorcing him..... I'd ***** too!! its NORMAL if you ask me.... all i have to say is: Best of luck to your children who are going to be screwed up because of what you are doing to them...... and their dad..... do NOT keep children away from their dad.... OR mom.... don't make this about YOU... make it about your children you go ahead and raise these children on your own....and when they turn into teenagers and you can't handle them..and they end up behind bars... do NOT call the dad for advice - Do it ALONE!!! Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

Tilley	It takes two to tango, sure your not even a little bit to blame here? Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

Debbie B	Do whatever you have to do to protect yourself and the children prior to the divorce. Just make sure all corners are covered, let your lawyer advice you. You don't want him to claim in court that you abandoned the home and took the kids from him. He will use that against you if we could. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

mimzy	It sounds as though you have it all figured out. So what is the question? Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

BaBaoooMowMow	There is not a single ? in the question. sounds like your venting to me! Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

Cryssy	I'm confused, what's the question? Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

jules vane	Sounds like you've got it all figured out. What if HE gets custody and YOU pay HIM support? That new apt. may get expensive. EDIT: Wow, so, 'ya got some money saved NOW? I wonder how 'ya did that? Stopped helping out with the household bills so you could sock YOUR money away so you could split? I'm wondering if you're a very nice person or not! Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No