I don't want custody. Let him and the honey raise the 2 kids. Bad?

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robs_princess2	i share custody with my ex, don't give him full custody you'll regret it but be good parent on your times togehter write the agreemenet up you get certain days and times and go from there i was stupid i have cancer and let my exhusband be custiodial parent he gets to make all decisions ans and now this there is step mom who is a ***** think of the kids Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

sdtc32	i don't know how old you are but I'm guessing pretty young, take it from someone who knows, this may be what you want now but down the road you're going to regret it. I've been where you are now and i made the wrong choice, I'd give ANYTHING to go back a make things right but it's to late, thank god i have very understanding ex in-laws (yes i have to deal with the entire family) but the damage you do to your children can never be undone, yes you can put them in therapy but the pain of their mom not wanting them will be there FOREVER, and one day all that pain will be in your heart. the pain of wishing you could change it, the pain in the sound of your child's voice and the look on their face when you tell them how much you love them but they don't know if they should believe you because actions speak louder than words, or on the day you take them home after the weekend and they're so depressed they don't talk or eat or do anything because they know they have to let their mommy go once again. can you handle that for the rest of your life? don't lie to yourself, it will only make it worse...... Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

purpleartof5	IF ITS IN THE BEST INTEREST OF THE KIDS I SAY YES BUT CAN YOU HANDLE SEEING THEM WHEN TOLD AND NOT WHEN YOU WANT , OR ARE YOU GOING TO GET UPSET WHEN THE KIDS COME OVER ON THE WEEKEND SAYING MOMMY LOOK WHAT JANE GAVE ME. JANE THIS AND JANE THAT BECAUSE SHE IS WITH THEM ALL WEEK. I MEAN MEN NEED TO STEP UP AND START DOING WHAT WOMEN HAVE DONE FOR YEARS BUT MAKE SURE HE IS DOING IT AND NOT STEP MOM. AND MAKE SURE YOU ARE READY FOR THIS . Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

Kesha	i am the second oldest out of 14 and my mom does it on her own and i am 17 got my own child and still helping her but she was with my father for 22 years and when they got a divorce she didnt ask for shyt but for him to leave in peace. so if you really wanted to you would do it alone and stop acting like you need a man Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

?	I am glad that you are being honest about the parent you would be. Instead of taking them and not really wanting to. But do keep in mind one thing....No Matter who you are...you will always be the mom to your kids..whether your a good one or a bad one, nothing will ever ever change that fact. And your children will accept you for who you are no matter what. They will always love you even if your not the way they want it. They can be brainwashed by others, but deep within they will still hold a love for you. NEVER FORGET THAT. But please let them live with dad, but always cherish the time you do spend with them. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

gemini22	Personally, I could never give up my children, but some people just can't handle raising kids full time. There is nothing wrong with having your ex husband have custody. Just love your kids as much as you can. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

angelica11_01	As a PROUD mother of 2 little angels, I am appalled! Your poor children. I hope they never hear you say this and I feel so sorry for them Some people do not deserve to be given such a gift. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

hello	It's your choice, I think you should be able to do what you want. I have no children, nor do I want any. This sounds like a no-win situation. He doesn't want the kids full-time, and neither do you. Poor children, if I was the kid I'd feel like my parents don't love me. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

marrissa	It's your life and if you feel he is the responsible parent then go for it. As Long as you are still a part of there life then I don't find anything wrong with that. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

LaToya L	Your decision has to be based off of what is best for those children. Your sole reasons for giving him custody should not be to become a party parent if that's the case be ready for the resentment that those kids will have for you later. If you don't want split custody, fight for your babies. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

livetall1	if you feel in your heart of hearts that not having them is in the best interest of the kids, then do it. If you're using them to get back at him then that's the wrong reason for not wanting custody. Has either one of you spoken to the kids to see how they feel? Many women choose not to have kids or raise them cause they know they suck at motherhood, so do what's best for you and the kids. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

hot_tamale962	you make me sick. I feel sorry for your children, probably not much worse then your mother not wanting you. In fact I believe its parents like you who make hardened criminals for the rest of us to deal with and pay for. I hope the children's step mother is more compassionate and caring, although I believe there is really no substitute for a real mom. You should have never had children. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

Karla T	Under normal circumstances you shouldn’t feel bad for needing alone time and happiness as an individual, but DO take responsibility for all of your decisions, including having kids. Think about if there is a way to ‘willingly’ provide them with what they need, don’t force them to endure the pain of feeling as an unwanted burden. It is not true that a bad mom is better than no mom, if you are not going to make them feel TRULY loved… they could be better off without you. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

Tony	Your decision should be in the best interest of the children first and formost. But also consider there are financial obligations. If you give him custodial custody are you prepared to pay the child support? Just some things to think about. Good luck! Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

Honey Dip	sorry honey...make that choice if you like but you WILL pay child support...it doesn't matter if he grossed 5 million a year you still have to pay to support the kids unless you chose to give up your parental rights....good luck with that one. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

my dog bit my nutsack	kids suck!! annoying fuckks that hold you back from you own life. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

helen g	Why did you have kids? My ex was the one they lived with, though I had visitation. Now my youngest son lives with me, and the older son would, but he feels guilty for wanting to. My ex would have been delighted if I would have bowed out completely, but I had no intention of doing that - I wanted them to live with me all along, but I was flat broke and hadn't worked in several years when me and the ex split up.Of course you'll have your visitation with them - but I wouldn't recommend being all fun and games.You are their mother, not their friend.Don't you want some say in how they are raised? Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

bracygirl	Why did you have kids to begin with? Do you think that you can just treat them like the family car? There are so many people in this world that would love to be able to have a child and can't. You know what, you should give them to him because at least they have a chance to be part of a family that will love them and treat them with respect and dignity. It is so unfortunate that God blessed YOU with children instead of someone else who really deserves that gift. You give mothers a bad name! Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

cowboy	Because children really need both parents in thier life even if one of them are screwed up. You should be ashamed!!!!!!!! Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

Nicole M	Yes actually you will have to pay child support. I have my kids 50 percent of the time and still have to pay 340.00 a month. Trust me been there done that. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

soulman2007	If you just wanted to party, why did you open your legs without protection in the first place? Now that they are here, take care of them 24/7 or leave altogether. The way you want to play part-time parent is sad. Two days a month? What dimension are you living in? That is not a parent, that is a casual acquaintance. What he makes is irrelevant. What you make is irrelevant. The way you and him play the kids like a tennis match, back and forth, is sickening. Grow up!!!!! Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

Carp	Your honesty will help the situation greatly. Your kids still need you in their lives so make sure you take care of that part. He can't force you into split custody. Do know you will pay child support. Split custody can be a real P.I.T.A. and I often feel one person making the decisions to avoid arguments between the split parents is the way to go, especially when you can agree on nothing. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

My midpt. in life.	well...its only bad when the kids get older and wonder why you never wanted them. but I feel if they are really young and the honey knows what she's about then let 'em have the kids. clearly you are not interested, and sure as heck you shouldnt be taking care of kids when you arnt interested. as long as you know what your about , its good. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

Kaia	You have to do what's best for you..and hopefully for the kids. If you don't want to be the custodial parent or having split custody, and you feel the kids would be good living with him...then do what you feel is best. Just don't forget to be the "Mom" while you're being the "party parent". They need both of you...not just one. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

Ibdreamin099	I will never understand why girls want to have kids but don't want to take care of them. I guess you will be the one paying the child support and then you will not Have the money to party with the kids. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

bob kerr	I feel sorry for the children. Parenthood doesn't come naturally to everyone but it comes across that they are just not a priority in your life. Do them a favour give him custody and get on with your life but please remember one day the fun, the parties etc. will end. They'll have grown up and you will be an old woman with few memories to treasure. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

Blond Logic	If you honestly do not want custody - then do not accept it. Give your husband total custody. It would be much better for the kids. Of course - you will have very few rights - if any when it comes to the children. From the tone of your question - a third party must be involved. Hey - kids are real human beings - they get hurt really easily. They are not a "weapon" to get even with your ex. They are your children. Let go of the anger and hurt that is inside of you for a little while. Then - maybe you will see things in a different light. You don't want split custody? Then work out a compromise. First and for most - think of the children and a stable environment for them. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

flagger	If you two are making that kind of green go pay someone for your advice. This post is for us plebes. Not too much sympathy from this quarter. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

Slim Whitman	why not give up your parental rights then so his new wife can adopt the children? Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

Goodspeed	Regardless of your reasons...do whats best for the kids...Nothing wrong with him having full custody. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

amyvnsn	Don't be such a lazy parent. Is this what you really want? Or are you just doing this to avoid total responsibility? Sure, you can be that parent that only sees them on weekends and holidays, the one who spoils them, takes them everywhere. But when it comes down to the nitty gritty, they won't be very close to you. You won't get to tuck them in bed every night, scare monsters away for them. My ex-husband has the same responsibility that you are thinking about. And you know what? My son doesn't enjoy going over there very much b/c he lives with me most of the time. He can't wait to come back home to me and my family. You are their mother! Stop being so fu ckin lazy and deal with your motherly responsibilities! Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No