I don't love my husband anymore, what should I do?

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MeL	Just leave him.. beforo you do something crazy... like cheat on him.. apparently he doen't deserve!!! Best of Luck!!! Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

i_luv_suvs	talk with him, see if you can save your relationship m aybe you both can change and you may love him again, if it fails divorce or anolment Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

MiMi™	let him no how u feel...go on a couple of dates with him maybe thats y..because u dont spnd time w/ him much. if u still dont feel a conection talk 2 him and tell him how u feel. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

murmurup	If the only reason you are staying with him is because of the money, you shouldn't stay. But, first off, if you think you can work it out with him, you should seek counseling for yourself or both of you 2gether. best of luck Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

goldy1980@btinternet.com	i feel so bad for you..i was in a very similar marriage too. all i can say is when your marriage becomes this bad the only extremity to take is to separate. trying to live seperate lives is not the solution...you say you don't hate him but believe me if this marriage is making you endlessly miserable you will in the end begin to hate him. the state of feeling of frustration can't be just frustration because you wouldn't be asking for advice. this circumstance doesn't come close to pmt or sex deprivation, this is a really serious situation. iv'e been through your situation before and if you mean being significantly less well off means no money, no house, no possessions well your'e right.... but your'e a woman.......you just get on with it....you make your own life after a relationship like this....i did and i have 6 children....GOOD LUCK Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

myddad	if you have been married a long time or have kids you should try to work it out. there must of been a reason for you to marry him. otherwise, go on your own way if not happy. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

The Man	Yes get a better job and get a cool little one bedroom apartment or a roomate and get out there and meet a new guy. But just remember you will get sick of the next guy also, its how it is. If your seeking passion then believe me it doesn't last forever and life is not like the movies, and when you look at a couple that you think is cute or romantic well you haven't been inside there house to see what is really going on. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

shunta w	it depends if you have children then stick it out and if you dont then tell him how you feal and try lite that spark back up or if that dont work them devorce him Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

moke040	It sounds like you need a friend to talk to, send me an email and I will be happy to talk with you. It beats not having anyone to talk with. And yeah, Ive been married a long time too. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

kitycat	I think you d better stay especialy if you have children, there must still be respect betwwen you . Good luck Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

nikki w	mental happiness is far more important than financial happiness, we all have a cross to bear but if you can bring yourself to become independant and leave a man who no longer makes you feel happy and vibrant then i am sure your cross will become much lighter. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

heather_honey_2002hs	Tell him Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

markos m	Have you tested the duration of your love, I mean, have you discovered for how long your love for a person lasts? I have asked this question, because most probably this period of time will also apply for your next love affair, and the one after that, and after that!?! Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

Michelle	Having been through similar thoughts and asked similar questions I can tell you that unfortunately the only person who can make this decision is you. If there is any kind of abuse or cheating then i would say leave him but if you don't hate him then maybe its best to give it a go for say, six months and then make a decision after that. I hope everything goes ok for you. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

sticklertoy	If you are unhappy you need to go. "If I leave him I will be significantly less well off" is not a reason to be in a relationship. A relationship is to people enjoying each other.. Where you do not.. If your that greedy about how well off your going to be.. Then emotionally you are not well off at all... nor will you ever be. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

Vegetarian Rockstar	Speaking of a child of divorce, if you don't feel it is working out, find out why you are no longer in love with him and exactly what has changed. Your best bet would be to tell him how you feel..maybe he feels the same way but isn't wanting to tell you either. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

nymaatra_horakte	talk to him, get some marriage guidence councelling, if that dosent work then leave him to find a wife who loves him. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

MomBear	Find a therapist or counselor whom you can trust and talk this all out with him/her. You need a truly objective observer who can help you find out if you're really not in love anymore or if something else is impacting your marriage - such as boredom. Don't make a decision until you've thought about every aspect of this. Choosing to leave or to stay is a huge decision; take your time and be sure you know what your future will look like. You need more support than you can expect to receive from this site. Good luck! Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

steve	I think your still hurting,you need to seek professional help. talk with him, or find a stranger to talk with.say what you really want. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

sabrina b	i suggest telling him that you feel a bit uninvolved in his lifestyle and that you would quite like to start to spend a bit more time together. i sense that you have different interests and commitments but it might be possible to fit in a little time toghether during the week to do something new as a couple. even if its a special meal you have both helped to prepare or a walk on a nice night when the weather is pleasant. if you both try something neither of you have done before eg. a new hobby, it might just get you feeling that you are connected with each other again. Even if this doesnt work at least you have communicated with him openly and honestly and you know that you you didnt give up when there was a chance that the problem could be rectified. good luck! Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

sylvie c	Please do not do anything hasty, I am guessing that you are between 40-55 and it may be that time of your life. I have been where you are we both just drifted, but hey we worked on it.When you are young the flush of sex and attraction it seems that is what real love is....its not. Loving someone takes all different forms and and different stages. Men suffer menopause as well as women... and this in itself can be a changing point in both your lives.You still care enough to worry about him.start the courting process again, we all become stale after being in a relationship for such a long time, learn to love each other again......be an individual, and if you truely can do that then restart your life elsewhere......but it is truely worth trying....special dinners for just you two weekends away joint days out......it works I promise it does work it worked for us. but dont give up yet too many people do without thinking about the reasons behind things Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

bubbba2u	You have been married a long time. Try and remember all of good things; take out a photo album review pictures. Take a vacation to some place you used to go as a family. Talk to him about how you feel. It seems like you are throwing in the towel early? What percentage of the time you have spent together have you spent trying to renew things? Slow down!! Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

lucki female	How long have you been married and are there any kids? Maybe you are bored and need to find a hobby together. You don't leave because you don't see excitement anymore. You create excitement. "For better or worse" you better honor your commitment. Nobody else does, be the minority! Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

goodguy_46947	Seriously consider marriage counseling first ( who knows down deep you may still have feelings for him ). If that does nothing then go with your heart. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

FoneQueen	You don't mention how long you've been married! Sometimes we fall into a rut in our marriage and just take each other for granted. It can be because of all the time spent raising the family or time spent at work trying to make ends meet. I think a marriage goes through several changes over the years and perhaps you're simply at a low point with respect to your feelings for your husband. Maybe it would be time to remember back what made you fall in love with him in the first place. Tell him how much you enjoyed that time in your lives together. You may find that he feels the same way that you do. For all you know .... talking about how things used to be between you ... could actually spark those old feelings in one or both of you again! Don't give up too quickly ... there were reasons you decided to marry him and therefore I feel it should be worth the effort in finding those feelings again. Remember that a marriage is hard work to make it work and this job never ends! I wish you happiness in whatever decision you make! Good luck! Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

lexxxina	try and work out why.try rekindling your love .how about staying for companionship and for the children. we ll have to make sacrifices.as long as he is not abusive. how about start dating him.leaving might not make u feel beter as u might miss u r family.it is so easy to just give up sometimes. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

psych_78	Take the plunge and go!! Money isn't everything!! And just think you could really make something of yourself by leaving your husband!! I don't believe you should stay with him if you no longer love him!! Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

Jc	If you are no longer in love with this man, it makes no sense you staying around because of the money, life is to short for you not to be happy, including your husband. So pray about it, and if you are truly listening, God will give you the answer. Best of Luck. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

Sami A	You can't live under the same roof with a man you don't love and it's hard to share the same bed with him as well. So it's better you be honest and tell him that you have no love for him anymore. I think that's what is best for both of you. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

Principessa	Well it's very subjective, more info would be helpful. Is it because you two haven't spent enough time together? Did one of you cheat? Do you have kids? There are soo many factors. Marriage takes work, perhaps if you went to a good marriage counsellor then you could get to the root of why you're feeling this way. Do everything you can to fix your marriage. Tell your husband how you feel. A marriage is worth saving. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

Stu pid	you must leave or you will both go insane! Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No