I cheated on my husband but it's not my fault?

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C J	Of course it is your fault. You weren't forced, you made a choice. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

theriver	What if your husband was seduced by a coworker? is wouldn't be his fault if he slept with her right? stupid *****, i hope he divorces you; you may get half, but never the happiness you guys would have. i wonder if craig will marry you- a cheating dirty little tart Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

pappysgotitgoinon	You are kidding yourself. You are the one that ultimately had the choice not to sleep with that guy. You did it because you were thinking that you could get away with it. So you see, it IS your fault. I see a very bad future for you little miss. Personally I hope that your husband sees your post and gives you the boot. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

Mindi	Thats what they all say Women like you make all of us look bad I HATE CHEATERS!!!! Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

farplaces	I would only hope you are some degenerate kid living a fantasy right now and this is not a real life scenario... If you are not then you are a sl(u)t...face it...it's the truth. You deliberately shared sex outside of marriage and that makes you a sl(u)t... Was it your fault...YES...IT CERTAINLY WAS YOUR FAULT and you know it as well as I do... So why then are you here asking a dumb question...are you looking for sympathy or just people to agree with you...? You cheated once and enjoyed it...you will do it again, be sure of that. In some countries you would be stoned to death for cheating. Dare you ask forgiveness from your husband...? Yes, you should...let him decide your fate...don't hesitate...do it now...! My sympathy is for him... Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

Jess	Are you even serious with this?! Your lack of responsibility is sickening. You must be related to the guy who sued Nabisco because he ate too many Oreos and got fat. Do your husband a favor and divorce him so he can spend his money on expensive dinners for someone who deserves them. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

miraclehand2020	I got a few choice words right on the tip of my tongue But I am too much of a gentleman to say to say them.Oh I see.You are faking it there is no Craig.Please tell me there is no Craig.A 16 year old would have more sense than to pull her pants down as quickly as you did.I can smell you all the way to the bank,you are pulling our legs.OK now how does the story end? Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

ShouldBeWorking	I'm going to have to assume this is a joke, right? Please, just let me know you're joking. . .People can't possibly be serious like that. I assume you're joking, but I'm also afraid that people actually might beleive this crap. . . .Craig doesn't have vows to your husband. Funny thing- you do. So it is your fault. . . .Oh. . .I really hope you add some additional details that says this is a joke, because WOW. . . . Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

Goofy-footer	First of all, it is your fault. Unless you tell yourself it is really your fault, you will not get peace of mind. Second, it won't hurt him if he will not know. But sometimes secret will find its way to unfold itself. Third and last, there are other way for thrill seekers, try bungee jumping, speed race (go kart), etc. You need to find an alternative way to satisfy your thrill seeking nature. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

Peder S	I would say you enjoyed the experience and will repeat it. If you are looking for wether it is wrong or not. It seems it is, but you enjoy the feeling and the risk appears to be worth it to you. You probably won't tell your husband until you are angry with him and will use it to hurt him. Your friend craig has gotten what he wants. The question is how many more times he will want you. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

segun j	Comon girl.Stop faking, u did it bcos u wanted..Accept responsibility as an adult and carefully think about it again..r u ever going to do it again, if yes..pls divorce ur poor husband.. but if no..pls dont fess up and dont do it again. Lastly pls grow up. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

Cori	no it was not craigs fault. you have your own mind and you could have said no. You obviously wanted to do something with this man. Please don't blame other people for your actions, they're yours. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

Zaferus	"I know I sound like a bad wife but it wasn’t my fault that I cheated on my husband" A man making a move on you is "temptation". In the time you accepted his offer and was going with him to the hotel, getting the room, taking off your clothes and taking him inside of you gave you plenty of time to realize in your mind you were cheating. You can try to lie to everyone, but at least admit it to yourself: You wanted to cheat with Craig, and you did. Now you aren't worried about the betrayal you did to your husband, you are worried about getting caught. You're thinking about losing your lifestyle, not your husbands trust. Do you realize how shallow that all sounds? Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

Mark S	Tramp Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

ofsoundmind	Are you insane, you can't blame Craig, he might have sweet talked you but you still went. So, if some woman sweet talked you hubby and they had sex, you wouldn't blame him at all. It's not like Craig forced you, and if you do tell your husband, you better not say it wasn't my fault that's only going to piss him off more. You did it, you take responsibility for it. You should feel bad, you should feel real bad. Learning that the grass isn't always greener on the other side is a hard lesson. Whether or not you tell your husband is completely your decision. I'd consider looking for a different job, it's unfair of you to keep working with Craig, because if your husband does find out or if you do tell him, it might make things easier if you are not having contact with Craig. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

Jane Marple	The only way this could of not been your fault is if someone was holding a gun to your head......you are 100% responsible for your actions. You are responsible for cheating on your husband and you are responsible for not having any self-control. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

crazylegs	Firstly Jessie you should quit blaming this Craig fellow for your indiscretions. You were the one who made the choice to be unfaithful, and although he may have prayed on your weakness and vulnerability the final decision was still yours. What you do about it is also completely up to you. If the guilt is too much then I would suggest that you sit down with your husband and be honest with him and let him know how awful you are feeling about the horrible mistake you have made. If he wants to try and patch things up and go to a relationship or marriage counsellor I would suggest that you take his advice. But if he is so hurt that he wants to quit the relationship then you will have to learn how to live with the consequences. Also you need to ask yourself if the truth would be better coming from you or by him finding out about it through someone else (which might happen). I have heard that there are only three the 3 A's that should be even considered when thinking about ending a relationship. They are Abuse, Addiction and Adultery. You are guilty of at least one of these big 3 and as such must live with your poor live choice. Do whatever you feel inside of you is the right thing to do, but also please accept some of the responsibility. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

Poppet	Tell your husband what you have done. Yes, what YOU have done. YOU are in control of your actions. You cheated on your husband. YOU are the one at fault. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

june	Are you serious, I'm sorry, but it is your fault, all your fault actually. You let him seduce you, and you went along with it knowing you had a husband, and you didn't care about his feelings. It seems like you are more worried is losing the house and the "nice cars" then your husband, wake up lady! Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

Ian S	Of course it's your fault! I suggest you admit this fact to yourself, then go see a therapist about how to fess up to it. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

John Redcorn	get a divorce Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

hungryeyes001	You are dumb!!!! Quit making excuses and take responsibility for you actions. How old are you? Is the word "no" not in your vocabulary, or how about "I'm married", quit blaming the guy. It takes 2 people to have sex and obviously you are one of those floozy woman who opens her legs to any guy that compliments her. You are the type of woman that give the rest of us, honest, monogamous women bad names. You should be very very very ashamed of yourself. Your husband should divorce you and find himself a real wife, one that loves him. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

Kitty Kat	SHAME ON YOU! It IS your fault, dummy LOL! Don't worry, I have already told your hubby! He DOES have good taste in restaurants :p Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

Froggy	ha. You seriously don't think this is your fault? Takes two to tango, hun. He didn't hold a gun to your head, he didn't tie you up & drag you caveman style into a hotel room. You were both consenting adults, and you messed up. How can you brush off the sanctity of marriage with "it's not my fault I cheated". Can you be anymore self-absorbed? Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

Wiser1	First, you need to admit it WAS your fault. You voluntarily went to the hotel with him. You were not forced to go there by gun-point and you could have said "no." You feel guilty because you KNOW what a terrible thing you did. I hope you didn't get pregnant or and STD to pass on to your husband. I think you should keep your mouth shut, find another job and never, EVER, stray again. OR be prepared for a divorce. You did a terrible, terrible thing and if your husband is told he may never be able to trust you agaIn. Trust is the foundation of a good marriage. You broke your vows. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

aj_lets_go_shopping	Now why isn't that your fault? It's completely your fault. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

Brittany	WHATEVER! It IS your fault and you know it! It takes 2 to tango Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

Feeling Lucky?	What a loser! Have some self respect you sorry excuse for a human being. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

PlantGeek	Girl it is your fault, he didn't force you to do anything. Own up to what you did and quit putting the blame on others. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

?	You know what? You need to stand up and take some responsibility. Did Craig-The-Wonder-Man put a gun to your head and force you to do him? NO. So it IS your fault and you need to tell your husband so he can divorce you and find himself a woman that actually deserves him. Don't expect to find any sympothy on here. You broke your vows.. Your husband trusted you and obviously loves you. You obviously don't feel the same way; If you did, you would've kept your freaking legs shut. EDIT* Are you kidding me? He paid for the room & sweet talked you? Do you have a brain? Can you think & speak for yourself? Obviously you don't and you can't. Grow up you pathetic excuse of a woman. Don't blame it on Craig... regardless of anything he may have said. There's going to be temptations regardless of whether it's a "Craig" or somebody else. As a wife, it's your job to say, "I'm married. I don't want you." Stop blaming somebody else for you stupidity you dumb s l u t. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

ndnqt1966	Of course it is your fault woman! Did the guy hold a gun to your head??? You cheated now fess up! Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No