I caught my wife. What should I do?

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familysport	LOOSEN UP! ENJOY LIFE A LITTLE! Read some of the filth and then re-enact scenes with your wife. It's never to late to spice the marriage. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

jirstan2	Man, it could be alot worse. I'd rather have my girlfriend reading those than hiding porn, or internet sex, or another man. If anything, you should indulge her and bring her back to reality. Take her out for dinner and wine her and dine her. Bring her flowers, candy, a poem, sing, draw her a hot bubblebath and massage her shoulders AND REMIND HER HOW GOOD REALITY FEELS AND MAYBE SHE'LL BURY HER NOSE IN YOU INSTEAD OF A BOOK! Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

green eyes	it was just a romance novel. it's not like you found porn magazines.. take a chill pill, otherwise she will go out and look for another man. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

eehco	I don't think you should leave behind trashy romance novels. When it comes to expectations, remind her that you are the real man in her life and you don't feel right with the imposition. As far as the kids, ask her to get a lock box to keep them in for their sake. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

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JamaicanGirl	You should ask her which character is her favourite.You should surprise her and dress like him. Put a rose in your mouth and wear a white button down shirt with the first couple buttons, unbuttoned. Hey after you do that, she might never pick up one of those books again. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

Kokopelli	Hee hee...methinks you protest too loudly. Some of those type of novels are really base and not all that well written. After I read about the "throbbing member" for the 500th time I start to nod off. One that I enjoyed was a Victorian novel entitled "Autobiography of a Flea" which was written from the view point of a flea that inhabited the pubic hairs of a young maiden and detailed all the comings and goings observed by this flea. Another one which is quite good actually is "The Story of O" which is the story of subjugation and submission of young women. You should pick up either one of these and ask your wife to read them and give you her opinion. Have her give you a book report of sorts. You might be able to turn this literary preference of hers to your advantage... Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

Mike	Well.. I really don't think you have anything to worry about. Women enjoy reading romance novels.. no harm. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

520	They can't be any worst then Soap Operas on TV. Don't throw in the towel ! Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

Johnboy	Get over it. It isn't that bad. If she was sleeping around that is another story. It is just an escape. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

805	You've got to be kidding me, your thinking about leaving your wife over romance novels?....lol....dude stop wearing your wifes clothes and grow some balls Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

xcutiex	oh come on that is not a reason for wanting to leave ...every girl reads romantic stories i mean its natural and u should not feel wierd because of it...don't do anything just accept it..!!! Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

armypoetess	All I have to say is... I'm glad I'm not your wife. You have to be kidding me right??? I think you need to go see a doc - this is YOUR problem not hers. This sounds to me like a very insecure person reflecting thier insecurity on another... Defineately get counseling. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

JustBri	Are you serious?!? You are being completely RIDICULOUS dude! Would you rather her watch porn? I would think NOT! Porn is much worse than a harmless romance novel!! Who cares if you care for the way they portray men. Perhaps you can't handle the romantic crap because you aren't a romantic type of guy. Maybe you're afraid your wife will start expecting you to be a REAL man who can satisfy her....I would bet that you aren't right now!!! Who are you to judge if women separate fantasy from reality??? You are kidding yourself if you really think men actually do separate fantasy from reality in porn!! Porn IS reality, duh!! Probably NOT a reality for YOU but it is real & happens every day, all day! There IS nothing wrong with reading ANYTHING. You would be a fool to break up your family over a bunch of romance novels! Your wife is doing nothing wrong, get over it & maybe you should try reading one yourself & get some ideas on how to REALLY treat your wife! Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

chinoko	What a pussy . it's just a F book , it's not that she was F the a guy in the book. Make that work to your advantage so it can make your sex life for xiting. Pussy. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

skonch01	Maybe she's seeking escape from an insecure, controlling home situation. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

Jennifer M	There is nothing wrong with what she is doing. Romance novels, trashy or otherwise, are a fiction... a form of getting a little break from every day life, as any other book is. Just because she likes to read about romance, doesn't mean that she expects it from you.. maybe that's why she reads them. Maybe she gets her romantic needs fulfilled by reading about other women in romantic situations, so that she doesn't have to pressure you into doing romantic things, that perhaps you don't want to do. And are you trying to say that the way that porn portrays women isn't unreal? If you took the average porn movie and generalized the female population by it, then most females would be skinny, perfectly tan, have DD-E breasts, wear skimpy clothes everywhere and have absolutely no inhibitions. That's more real than a romantic man? And thinking that men seperate their fantasies from reality when watching porn any more then women do when reading trashy romance novels is a bunch of rubbish! At least when women read these novels, all of the characters are creations of their imagination. They know that these images will never be real. I know a great deal of men who watch porn, and truely believe that if they ever met said porn star that they enjoy watching, that they may actually have a chance to live out their fantasies in the flesh! All I can say, is tell your wife how you feel about her reading these novels, and hopefully that will resolve your situation. If she decides to keep reading them then all I can say, is have her make sure they are in a place where your children cannot reach them. And if you are seriously thinking about leaving your wife over something so trivial, then I suggest that you get some sort of counseling. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

don b	You are pathetic dude. First off any woman that deal with you deserves to be romanced. If you can't treat a woman with romance then you should be with a dude. If she were smart she would find that guy in the novel and marry him. And trust me they do exist Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

nottashygirl	Oh my! A cheesy romance novel (Think Fabio) is maknig you doubt yourself and ruining your already ruined self esteem. You need some help guy. Call your doctor or see a shrink. It's a book! A fictional romance novel!!!! A fairy tale for heavens sake. Get over it. Your probs are far deeper than a book. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

two_kee_kees	Let her read her novels. I see no harm in it. And I disagree that men can separate porn and real life. I believe porn is often the cause for sexual assaults. If you feel you honestly cannot stand her reading those novels, then I suggest couples therapy, not leaving her. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

Mindy	take it easy dude, they are just harmless books, porn is much worse in my view, you can't compare Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

David Brent	First of all, I would make sure the kids don't have access to her literature. Secondly, you should use it to your advantage; after reading her books, she's probably very horny and raring to go. Lock yourselves in the bedroom and have some fun. Who the hell cares how those trashy books portray men? If they make her horny, good for you. Less foreplay, probably. Why would her reading these books give you low self esteem? Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

IGH3Rat	Grow up. At least she is only reading the novels and not out finding a more understanding man. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

Your_Star	Its just a fantasy book...what's the big deal? There's a difference between fantasy and reality...which one is she living in? Maybe you need to go to couples therapy...for the children's sake if you have that big of a problem with it. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

Kim	There is nothing wrong with her reading a book, maybe she just likes to read those kind of books, There shouldnt be no added expectations just because she is reading a book, If your kids are your young they wont know its a romance novel anyway. If BOOKS are your worry, You have a lot waiting for you. Good Luck. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

zgzig	WoW! If your're not just kidding around, then you have real issues... Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

Violet Pearl	You might want to talk this over with a therapist. You need to know that Fabio has nothing on you. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

Ant O	L.M.A.O Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

crazylegs	Holy crap man relax. There are millions of woman who find solace in reading these romance novels and they are pretty harmless. Allow your wife some independence to read what she wants and don't compare yourself to the males that are in these books. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

?	go see a doc, dude Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

Fader's Girl	lmao you are JOKING right?! lmao funny! :o) Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No