I am having an affair and i don't know what to do, my husband is in the army and is away?

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Sandie	Your husband is out there fighting the war for all of us, and you should be proud of him and pray he comes back alive, but you have to get so freaken HORNY for stupidity! He doesn't deserve you, neither his hard earn money! You're just another scum! Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

Frizzy	That's not smart. Why cheat on your husband who is a trained killer? Have you thought about that? He might just have that kind of rage. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

Tetrazepam is back	Slut ! OK than in German Du "Schlampe" need no translation Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

Miss Texas	WOW. You do not deserve your husband AT ALL. He's over there fighting for his country and this is the thanks he unknowingly gets?? Either way, cheating is wrong! And how stupid are you to be broadcasting this on the net?? You were obviously never even ready to be in a marriage. You are only 23 and already talking about leaving your husband for some other dude?? YOU ARE TOO YOUNG AND IMMATURE! Tell your husband everything, that way he can divorce your skanky butt. Also, did you not think of your daughter? I didn't think so... Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

Nicky♥	I think that's a terrible thing to even contemplate doing - you're still married to this man. If your husband's career is the Army then YOU have the decision to make. Don't do this to him - its not right! Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

Sweetdreams529	that is a really hard dilemma but if i were you, i would stick with by husband (if you love him that is) becuase he would feel terrible knowing that he has nothing left to come home to. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

kwflamingo	Was he in the army when you married him? Bet you liked the idea of becoming a military wife with all the benefits - housing, medical, etc. You're only 23 so there's been a war going on for some time now. You're supposed to be worried about him - at least wait until he gets home this time and TALK to him about it - because now you're talking about packing up your daughter and moving to England! Grow up - be a diligent wife and mother until your husband gets home!! Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

Marie H	Tell your husband how you feel, what is the reality of the situation, as it is not that easy to just get up and leave the army. It sounds like you want to spend the rest of your life with your husband, but get lonely when he is away, and have fears for his safety. A councillor may be a good option, to help you deal with these feelings. Starting a relationship or having feelings for another man will only confuse you and the situation, you won't be able to make a decision, either way. Best to end one relationship prior to starting another. Trust me I have been their, and any relationship such as an affair will not work, as their will be no trust. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

yaguru	so you go out and screw other guys? Shame on you. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

Mister	Hi, I am sorry for what you are going through. I understand - you need to make up your mind if you really love and wanta be with your husband or not. Have you had sex with the other guy? You need to decide one way or another. Your husband won't be there forever. If you wanta make it work with him you need to make a clean break with this other guy or it will get worse and worse. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

boo	Don't do it! Stay with your husband or talk to him!!!!! It doesn't hurt to talk. But in a situation like that I wouldn't leave my husband.....it's wrong. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

Johnny Deep	Give me your husband. I love men in uniform....... Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

Kimberly C	Shame on you!!!! How could you be so disrespectful to your husband, your child and the vows you took? You obviously must have known your husband was a patriot when you married him. Did you think that getting married and having a child would change that? If anything, I would think it would reinforce his ideals and values system. I'm sorry you're having a tough time here, alone, while your husband risks his life for our freedom and way of life. I'm sorry you don't agree with why he's there. But, if nothing else, can't you agree that it takes a strong, courageous, and committed person to do what he's doing? I'm thinking that's the kind of man who deserves a devoted wife waiting for him at home...not someone who is opportunistic, self-centered and selfish. I hope he find out what you're doing and leaves you first. And...I feel very, very sorry for your daughter. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

eli	if you're having an affair with your soldier husband, you're a c-u-n-t. how dare you disrespect a hero like him you ***. you're the enemy i hope he finds out and dumps your *** a-s-s. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

*Two Hearts*	You are supposed to support your spouse on their beliefs... Not turn your back on them and cheat on them. He is fighting for the freedom of every American Citizen and should be honored and you are about to disrespect him in the worst way possible. It's not like he is out at the bar neglecting you.. He is fighting for our freedom and the freedom of others... Sounds like a good man to me. I am not saying it is not a tough situation being married to someone who has a dangerous job and is gone a lot but you knew what you were getting into when you took those vows with him.. Some other man should not be raising his daughter. You sounds very selfish to me.. Have you ever considered how lonely he feels over there? How much he misses you? He obviously feels this is his calling.. Support him.. He loves you. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

DiDi	it's wrong for you 2 do that to your husband!! your unloyal and you obviously don't love him if you need stability go stay with your parents!!! shame shame shame on you Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

JMichael	Don't cheat. A marriage is binding, and should not be broken. Take it to God, and say goodbye to this dude that's trying to get you to cheat. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

kimberly k	you should be ashamed. this man is fighting for his country and you are being unfaithful. all i can say is that karma is waiting for you around the corner. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

Mrs.cullen	YOU SHOULD BE ASHAMED HE IS OUT THERE FIGHTING FOR OUR COUNTRY AND LOOK HOW YOU PAY HIM SCUM!!! Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

Susie	uh... this doesn't sound good at all. You made a commitment when you married him, through sickness and health, war and no war. Practice some self control. Consider this a test, and so far you're not passing. Sorry but save your sob story for all those single moms out there raising their daughters alone. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

Mic K	What kind of person are you to betray your man while he is off in a situation like that? What part of till death do you part was confusing? I will not support a woman who will not stay by her man just because she is lonely. If he beat you, sure, if he cheated on you, maybe, I'd have to have more details. As it is, you need to stop all contact with this guy and quite being such a horrible wife and person. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

Gillyahoo	If you love him, end the affair and work hard to make your relationship work. You know the grass isn't always greener. My husband works away for weeks on end so I sort of understand. Good Luck. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

Sean C	What makes you think you'll raise your daughter alone? Is your husband alrady dead to you? I'm sorry I have no sympathy for wives who cheat on their husbands while at war! I've seen this happen to my buddies while I was there and it ruins everythign for everybody. If morale is down for jsut one guy it hurts others and their guard is down and that's when guys get killed. you may be persoanlly responsible for the death of your husband or worse, the death of the guy who's back your husband was supposed to have been watching. You don't F*CK with the morale of a soldier who is in harms way every single day while you go to sleep at night with the temperature falling, while he has to worry about mortars falling. My wife stayed faithful to me while I was there, what the hell is your excuse? Cut it out right now and get your head back in the game. You're there with him more than you think. You're his rock whether you know it or not, YOU are what keeps him alive. EDIT: Him being in the war has ntohign to do with him! He does what he's told and he's proud of it. He can't choose not to go. He has to, it's his patriotic duty. Don't get me started lady, he knew what he was getting into and he is doing a great thing. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

*sarah*	to be honest even if your considerin the offer, you're not really worth your husbands breath he breathes. go and move away. you're probably do your husband a good thing. at least he can get a life and another girl worth livin for. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

Twisted Fairy	Stick to the committment you made to your husband FOR BETTER OR WORSE. He is fighting for our country rights and the freedom of both you and your daughter! Being the wife of a soldier is difficult, but you have a responsiblity just as he does to his country! Start confiding in reputable female friends who's husbands are also deployed and share the responsibilties by taking turns cooking and helping each other with things and letting the kids play to keep you from getting lonely! You need to step up to the responsibility that you took on by marrying him and be fair to your daughter! Don't deny her the chance to have a life with her father just because he's fighting for her and you're a little lonely!! You act like he's at fault because you say "you beg him not to leave you and he does"....it's called ORDERS from the army to go active duty! He doesn't have a choice in the matter. While being a military family can be difficult, it's not a bad life! You're daughter has some of the best benefits she can have! I don't mean to sound rude, but you have a lot of growing up to do!! Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

Ashley D	Don't cheat on your husband - that's despicable! Get some therapy because it sounds like you really need it. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

Ray E	you are going to ruin your daughter's life. good job. boy you are just so blind. you need to get all of DR. Laura's books and call her show everyday. unbelievable. He's doing what he thinks is right. Something you apparently can't understand. You need to do what's right. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

gangsta rap made me do it	tell your husband, dont screw him over anymore than you already have Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

Audrey King	If you love your husband as much as you do you will stay with him as you promised the day you got married. This offer seems attractive because your husband is away, but remember that you chose to love and spend the rest of your life with your husband not this man. You made your decision already, you are committed to another man. Your husband needs you more than ever right now. He is not there for you rite now, but you need to be there for him, even if he cant see this. This is true love. I dont agree that he should have left his son and wife to fight a war, but i dont know what is stirring in his heart, so i cannot judge him on this. As his wife you may have resentments, but remember love is not only about feelings, love is about decisions, you chose to love him, now choose the actions that go with that love. You will have to tell him about your affair while he gets back, and ask for his forgiveness. If he does not want to stay with you than so be it, you were honest and did your best to make things up. This is life. Stop seeing this man, he is taking advantage of your situation. Remember morals and values, if we all decided to go with someone else when are loved ones werent there for us at the moment or we thought we found someone better, we will never be satisfied. Its like a drug. You need higher and higher doses and will never be satisfied. You will need a better and better man, only you will never find the "perfect" man. We all make mistakes, we're not all always there for eachother, that is why forgiveness and working things out is so important. Good luck! Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

firstythirsty	You should stand by and support your man. Put your selfish interests aside for the moment and just show him the support he deserves. You think the situation is rough on you, I guarantee it's 10 times rougher on your husband. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

Contemplative	You can choose to use the counseling services available to you as a spouse of a military person. You are in fact, enjoying the pay and benefits while your husband is risking his life every day!!! Stop the affair, you are causing undue anxiety and ruining your marriage. The other guy is a pig and opportunist to be "comforting" you while your husband is away at war. Thank goodness your husband is man enough to fulfill his responsibilities to his country and his family, he is supporting you! Do not burden your husband with drama now, bc his head is in the game over there and it's hard as hell. Find another way to comfort yourself - today!!! Books, other wives, prayer, meditation, exercise, whatever it takes. Just stay loyal. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No