I'm pregnant...should we push the wedding up?

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carolinaz_most_wanted85	wow, that's a hard one. your parents can push all they want. if you and your boyfriend aren't really ready to get married then don't rush. you'll still be together for the baby, right? i feel if ya'll are both gonna be there, doesn't matter what your marital status is. being married would be more traditional but think of the kids out there having 3 or 4 babies by 3 or 4 different guys. don't stress it! Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

>>\|\|<<	There is no reason to push up the date. The baby is coming weather you get married or not. We are living in the year 2006, not back in the dark ages where they hid things. It will just add more stress to you to push it up. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

biiha	whose life is it anyway, yours or your parents? Get married because you want to when you want to not because someone says you have to. Your baby will be loved and can still have your man's last name. If you have plans on how you want to be married follow them. Your man is right, take your own time and do what YOU feel is right. Tell your parents to just back off a little. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

kelsey	This is your life do not do what your parents want you to do. Good luck Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

I'm Gonna Tell You	Don't rush because someone tells you to. This is a great and regretable thing to do if you become unhappy in your marriage. You will always blame your parents for things not going so well. Believe me when I say, don't rush it. But do set a date and stick to it. If you live your life to please your parents, you'll never be able to really live. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

p_boxter03	I would try to express how I feel to my bf...but I would not push the issue because he could end up backing out. Being an unwedded woman is very difficult. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

ninerfaninsanjose	no..you let him STICK YOU IN YOUR MIDDLE...now get over yourself...if ya BELIEVE it makes you less pure..to marry after the baby...DO IT NOW.... Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

mikemadie	Don't rush it, you are still parents no matter if you are married or not. Plan the wedding, in order to get what you want, this is the only one (hopefully) It is your special day, make it that way. It is just fine to get married after children. Just tell your parents that you are greatful for their advise, but you 2 decided to just wait and have the wedding you have always dreamed of. Congrats! dp Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

aj_lets_go_shopping	Maybe you should have thought about all that beforehand. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

jandracu	Isolate yourself and figure out exactly how you feel about the situation. Once you have come to a conclussion, go back to your boyfirend and defend what you want. You will come to a compromise and all will be well, so long as you figure out what you would be ok with first. Good luck. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

chasitee	i think that you and your fiancee' should do whatever works for you all and that you should only hurry the marriage along if you both feel it is neccessary come on it's 2006!!! Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

cookie	no just get married. Before the baby gets here and u will fell better. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

maury h	it wont make a difference if you two have already plan the wedding . but if my baby birth is before the date i planned the wedding i move it up. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

pamspraises	You're willing to sign a 30 year mortgage with a man you're not married to? Are you out of your mind? Get married today! Sure you can still have a wedding if you don't invite anyone who can count past nine. Don't close on that house until you are MARRIED. If your boyfriend won't budge...I don't really want to publicly say what I really think but basically I would recommend moving back in with your parents. DO NOT SIGN THOSE MORTGAGE PAPERS!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

Kris	This question is perfect for me. I got pregnet at 15 with my highschool sweetheart and he was only 17. Everyone pushed us to get married, we did not. We loved each other very much but were just to young and did not know what would happen.Well our son was born in Oct 2001 and we broke up in March 2002. Well a year went by and we got back to gether in 2003, bought us a house, got married in 2005 and now happily have another baby on the way. So I say don't rush things, they will happen how God has got them planned for you. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

tammyshamrock	Don't think just because your pregnant you should marry, on the other hand you have been together for quite awhile, have good jobs & are purchasing a home together I'd say do it! Whatever you decide should be between you two, after all you have to sleep with him! Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

sladed	Assuming YOU 2 are paying for the wedding, it should be YOUR decision (together). You parents have the baby's interest at heart and I happen to agree with them. If you think it will have NO impact on the child as he/she grows up them don't change the date. If you do think it will matter to the child then change the date for her/his sake. (By the way, this is the argument for why people shouldn't have sex before marriage. Birth control is never perfect.) Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

usmchawkeye	might be a good idea. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

StraightDrive	When you are actually living like a wife and husband why should you not get married? What is the idea in postponing the wedding? I don't recommend pushing your boy friend but i cannot understand why there should be any delay in getting married. You feel stuck in the middle? and your boy friend doesn't care? Something is wrong with him. What does he mean by shot gun wedding? You can plan it and marry before the baby arrives. It is exactly for this kind of situation that you should first marry and then sleep with your husband. The conventional wisdom seems better than the modern attitude. Try to convince your boyfriend without being pushy. Ultimately you have to bear the baby. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

doreen j	Tell your parents to back off that they can't tell u what to do. If you and your bf are ready than it would be time to but if not than don't rush into it. he can still be your bf even after the baby is born. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

nonna57	With all due respect to your parents, the decision about when or where of if you should marry should be between you and your fiance. You can find a way to tell your parents your decision in a firm but nice way. It will work out in the end for all of you. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

somanyquestions	Uh...yeah! Unless of course he's not quite ready to be married yet. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

+++++ SPOOK ++++	IT IS YOUR LIFE.. YOUR PARENTS CAN'T TELL YOU WHAT TO DO. YOU DON'T HAVE TO GET MARRIED RIGHT AWAY. YOU CAN GET MARRIED WHENEVER YOU WANT. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

barrwiese	Wait. A girl I know was in the same sit. and her parents forced her to marry him right then. They planned a wedding in a month. It was nothing that she wanted; it was what she could get in a month. She was showing by then and looked ridiculous in this huge, formal white dress. On top of it, they forgot to hire an organist and her shoes squeaked as she waddled down the aisle. And everyone was scandalized and kept saying, "You know they HAD to get married, right?" If you wait, you can plan it the way you want it to be, on the specific date you want. You won't have to settle or look ridiculous. Also, everyone will know you didn't have to get married-you did it because you love each other. You are an adult about to be a parent. Time to be partners, make a decision for your lives, and put the foot down. Or, your parents might try to control the way you raise your child as well. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

♫†☼☼♥Natasha♥☼☼†♫	How can you push the wedding up if you are not engaged? You should talk to him about getting married and you two will come up with a decision then. Hopefully you can work something out. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

americangirl_11501	well..wat do u mean "U JUST FOUND OUT" for gods sake omgg..u had sex!! eventually YOUR GONNA HAVE A BABY!! well anyways heres wat u should do.. since u've been with ur bf over 4 years u guys should get married b/c its about time..since u two are in ur mid twenties..it wouldnt be good to get married at an old age.. and i think that u should have a wedding before the baby comes... no matter wat.. =] good luckk.. and u should of thought of this before u had sex..wow.. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

winona e	Do what you feel is right for you. Good Luck!!! Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

cowboy	You are not going to be living with your parents forever. But you will be living with him go ahead with your plans. Your parents will love you and the child anyway. Thats just what parents do. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

Ontheotherhand	You are an adult. Decide what the two of you really want. Then do it. Parents, family, friends, and others may tell you what to do- but ignore them. Only you and your boyfriend matter here. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

WDS	It sounds like you are already married. Too bad the big, expensive wedding you were planning will be now performed on the steps of city hall. What do you have to look forward to now?? Raise the baby in a two parent home and quit thinking of yourselves all of the time. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

Mrs. Lisa	I can truly understand were your parents are coming from! but you and your man need to discuss this alone and then decide. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No