I'm married & just made love to someone else...?

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jooje@sbcglobal.net	duh get A DIVORCE! Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

nkingdom2000	I would suggest you quit using his faults as excuses for your own sins. How were you trying to not let this happen? I mean really... Did he trip over you and his c0ck just fall in your cunny? News flash honey...a cheating wife is not living for God either. Just leave him. Seems you got more responce than desired. ANYONE CAN LOVE YOU W/O STICKING IT INSIDE YOU. STOP LYING TO YOURSELF AND US ALSO. SORRY IF THE TRUTH HURTS. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

spelling nazi	What a ho!!!! You want to be Biblical!! What a hoot!!! Now, your husband doesn't live for God? Do you? Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

dj nkro	Man. You should have gotten a divorce from him. He is gonna beat you again if he finds out. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

Allycat	Well first of all, you threw all your God arguments right out the window by cheating. You can put that little game back in your pocket. If your relationship is that bad, get the hell out. If you want to suffer and cheat, fine, but don't make those kids suffer. They don't deserve that. If you were truly all about God, you wouldn't have been with another man. This whole can't divorce him because of God is crap. You're probably just scared of someone being mad at you, or looking bad. Well, get over yourself, put your kids first, and get out. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

spun_up_06	Okay, sounds like your husband is a jerk, but what you just did wasn't very cool, either. You say he doesn't live for God? Methinks you sound like a hypocrite on that one.....I never saw in the Bible where it said, "Hey, you can sleep with whoever, as long as you go to church every Sunday." If I were you, I'd see what I could do about ending your unhappy marriage BEFORE getting involved with someone else. Plus, if your ABUSIVE husband finds out you've been with someone else, it may be the LAST time he ever hits you.....get it? Good luck! Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

Ole Whoopsie Daisy	You know exactly what you have to do. You have to try it on top next time--reverse cowgirl. Come on now. Be a realist!! Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

Nodor	Would you rather be happy, or unhappy? Answer that question for yourself and that will be your answer. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

Lisa	wow you question his living for God and state you want to be biblical about this but then you also state you have committed adultery? Is that not a contradiction? now I say that and I am no angel and i don't think anyone answer these questions is an angel nor should we be the first to cast the first stone -- I know I can't but sweetheart if you aren't happy don't get caught in the trap of an affair. it will tear at your heart and eat at you. you don't deserve to be abused, cheated on or any of those things, but you also don't deserve to become a cheat yourself because you are hurting. because trust me you only got into this relationship because you are hurting. yes it is amazing and yes he could be good for you but first end what you have before this man hurts you anymore. you sound torn between what is right spiritually and wanting something better -- you can have and do both. you have every right to move on and do the right thing for yourself. if you love yourself first the rest will follow, do what is best for you and not any man. because baby they will come and go like flowers with the season but you will always have YOU. so take care of you and your kids -- you are all you can count on in life. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

matthew.armstrong	fcuk him off get with the new guy wheres the problem. from the title I thought you were a btich, but no. if what you say is true, him cnut, you good, now sex is good, go enjoy yourself Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

Shocker3:16	You sound like a wackado. You cheated on your husband, but you want to be biblical about getting a divorce. What the heck..... Thanks for the easiest 2 points that I can earn. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

hopestar23	Unfortunately, you have already made some bad choices here, now its a matter of damage control. It sounds like you are in a very tough spot and really do need to leave your hubby. All those reasons you listed off are extreamly difficult things to deal with in ones marriage and life. My only advice I can offer it to tie off one loose end before you start weaving another rope. Basically, decide that you have had enough and leave this deadbeat hubby of yours and once you are a free woman, by all means, persue this other love interest of yours. You mention that you want to be biblical about this but remember this--God is very specific when it comes to adultry--it is a sin, one of the biggies. There is no way that you can truly justify this in His eyes. Also question if you truly love this other man enough to leave your hubby for or if you are just in lust with him (Oh goody, another sin) or if you just like the idea of being in a forbidden relationship with him. Good luck. There are children involved and that always makes things messy when dealing with complicated issues of the heart. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

Clarkie	If you want to do this biblically, I believe now is the time that your husband gets to stone you to death publicly in the town square. Did your vows include "For better or for worse" ? Welcome to worse. Live with it. Biblically! Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

jude	if your in a cheating and abusive relationship and don't love your hubby for those reasons, than seek a divorce and move on with life. two wrongs do not make a right,cheating is wrong and will come back to haunt you later on in the form of karma. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

Nicki	If you are so free to go , but don't expect the one you made love with to take care of you. Men sometimes just like a little on the side with a married woman. if he says he loves you so much , you better check his going record real close. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

Peaches	If you are not happy leave. Once a man put his hand on you and cheats on you is time to go. you are not happy with him because you ended up making love to someone else. Just divorce him. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

sundragonjess	I personally think that getting a divorce is better than cheating... Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

hoyhoydc	No offense...but you don't live for God either! You should bit the bullet and get a divorce if he's cheating on you. Now you're on equal footing with him! Just because he did doesn't justify what you did. Say a prayer...ask for forgivness from God and get a divorce. You're just looking for justification of your actions. Hold off seeing this guy until you're divorced. You have involved this guy in your problems now. Grow up and do what is right, move on then find a guy. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

gala	Don't waste your time on him (yeah, it's easier said than done). But you already acknowledge the fact that he's not good for you. That's the first step and the most difficult one. You deserve something better than that. Make the second step: Get a divorce as soon as you can and don't be scared of it, it's not like we are living in 16th century. You'll be free. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

miranda elizabeth	if you want a divorce then get it why tack on to your problems and add some more drama to your alread tramatized life its no excuse you should have at least been separated from the husband before you had sex....now this guy you had sex with is he what you want in a man and worth losing the husband home and everything for?can you live with all the guilt of the lying and hurting b4 you decide when it's to late to turn back think of the pros and cons b4 doing that again honestly and two wrong dont make a right just makes you look like the bad person tsk tsk Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

truly	Why don't you get a divorce. There is nothing biblical about being used as a punching bag. The Bible says that a man should honor and respect his wife. Don't put this one on God. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

madtyga2002	WOW!!! Get your freak on! J/k. I don't think God wants us to stay in abusive relationships, you were wrong in giving your sweetness to another man and his cheating doesn't justify your behavior. Get a divorce and move on with your life. I think God will be more prone to understand that you got out of a relationship than to stay in one and commit adultery. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

KryBaby	How r u trying to be biblical about it and u cheated? U might as well get a divorce. God wouldn't punish you or consider divorce as a sin if a fool is whoopin your a** and doing you wrong. Come on now, get real. I would sympathize with you but it makes no sense to say that you want to be biblical but you cheat on your husband but won’t divorce him because u don't love him and he's doing you dirty. That's backwards! I hope you're just not making an excuse to stay with him. You're doing more damage to yourself and your kids by doing so. So stop making excuses and get with the program. Do what’s right instead of making yourself look like a hypocrite. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

june clever	My sweet child, I understand this more than I could ever explain to you. Any time there is physical abuse, get out. Your children witnessing this is horrible. You deserve more out of life, and so do they. This is something that comes back in life and shows its ugly head. It's a circle, and possibly your children will grow up and do the same, or put up with the same. No, sleeping with the other man was not right, but who would blame you, the overwhelming feeling of loneliness, and desperation leads us to do things we ordinarily would never do. Do I see a happy ending here for you and your children? I hope you do what I didn't have the courage to do. Bless your heart. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

Keisha L	Sounds like you have tried to justify this in your head. Its great that you have your beliefs, but that is not a reason to leave a man. Especially if you knew that was his belief system before you were married. Ask youself straight forward answers like, do you want to be married to this man or not? Be true to yourself and the vows you made until you are not married. Some of the most religious people I have met are the ones that have followed their stated beliefs the least,and you are no exception. You need to do some soul searching. I'm sorry I'm not trying to hurt you any more, really, but its important to play devil's advocate in these situations. I feel for you, especially if you have been physically abused. Remember, everything that happens begins in your head. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

rachael_in_minnesota	Get a divorce. Keep your head up, and take care of YOU. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

No More	If you are unhappy with someone then you owe it to them and to yourself to get a divorce. Marriage is just like going to church, if it means nothing to you then it is a lie... and God knows this. If you think by staying in an abusive, loveless, marriage that you are doing what Jesus would want you are flat out wrong. You should have gotten divorced and then tested the waters. Your affair is wrong but at least end your marriage before you commit further sins. Chances are you "new " guy will not work out either because he is with you and he knows that you are married... I have to question that. Clean up your mess and start anew. Reconnect with prayer and your Savior. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

Anita	you should leave if he isnt making you happy or showing you or the kids any attention he should have known that it was bound for you to cheat on him... but if you have had physical abuse from him in the past you should leave soon before he finds out you cheated on him Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

davinm23	Move on. Abuse is not a good thing and you need to leave him. Should have done this a while back, before the affair, but what happened has happened. Now get out and away from the abuse. If not for you, then for the kids. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

?	You've already broken your vows by having sex with someone who is not your husband... so what is stopping you from breaking your vows by getting divorced? Hypocrite. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

John S	Wow....a lot of harsh answers. I'm guessing none of them has evern been tempted to cheat...yeah right. You gave in, it was fun/passionate/carnal. Things happen and you move on. You probably should get divorced, but not because you slept with this guy. Its hard to do and the affair is an easy way to feel better. Suggestions??? No I don't have any....but I'm not going to condem either. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No