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 Would you leave or stay with your spouse/partner if they told you they were 'In Love' with someone else
Personally, if I was faced with that kind of situation I would not want to be with my partner anymore if his heart was with someone else.
Has anyone views on this, or has been in that kind of ...


 I'm about 6 weeks pregnant by my twin sister's husband. What do I do?
My sister has been married for 2 years. She has been having an affair with a coworker for the last 18months. She lives on the west coast. I'm on the east. My sister and I are identical, so much ...


 What is a man looking for when he decides to cheat on his wife/his family?
The obvious perfect answer from ten or more people is that cheating shouldn't happen to begin with. But let's get real.
Men and women cheat.
What are they looking for? Is ...


 My son,14 hates his step father & I love him.Tearing me apart what should I do?
I have another son, 5 with new marriage. We've been together fro 6.5 years now. My son is now a teenager and hates him. I've been told to choose my son or my husband?
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 What does it say about a person who refuses to apologize when they know they're wrong?
Someone I'm close to blatantly disrespects me at times and refuses to apologize. They feel the best way is to ignore and move on from the issue instead of acknowledging their wrong doing. This ...


 I am looking to get back at my husband for making me clean up his urine, any ideas?
Long story short my husband is a 2 time Iraq vet with severe PTSD and is a raging alcoholic.
Last night he pee'd all over the couch while he was passed out. When he woke up before he got ...


 Should I ask for a divorce?
We have nothing in common anymore.. Its like we a roomates instead of lovers.... I dont feel wanted or need in this relationship ...


 My Recently found out that my husband of nearly 4 years was having an affair should i leave him?
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 Should I leave this married man alone?
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 I need some kind words?
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 Do you think if your in a abusive relationship it will get better or just get worse?
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 I am married but my niece wants to...?
..sleep with me? She is 18 and my wife's sisters daughter so she is not blood related. What should I do?...


 Should I kick my husband out of the house?
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 Does anyone else go on answers just to pass time at work?
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 Advise? I'm pregnant and my husband is leaving me...?
I'm about 7+ weeks pregnant and happy to be, even though it was unexpected. Now my husband wants to get divorce because he says he's tired of the drama.. Let me explain..

He has ...


 My married man?
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 I cheated again.. what to do?
Well basically, About 3 weeks ago I cheated on my boyfriend with this guy. My boyfriend and I are in a long distance relationship, and hadn't seen each other in 7 months. I started feeling ...


 I am dating a woman with a kid, who I do not like. How can I force her to get rid of the kid?
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 Is it time for a divorce?
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 My wife of 13 years has been bugging me to give her anal sex, but i think its gross,, what do i do?
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How long should I wait for my boyfriend to get his divorce final?
We've been dating for a year now, and he claimed already when we met that he was getting out of his marriage - with not much progress to this date. He says he wants to do it his way, without hurting the wife, and giving her time to get used to the idea of breaking up. How much time should I give him (more) - when is it time to see the reality and let him go?



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not one more second. Dump him now. Take my advice. You can thanks me later.

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budding author
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Sorry but for just about the first time ever I agree with the vast majority here, you are being taken for a ride, dump him now, move on very quickly!!

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dappersmom
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the hurting of the wife was done a long time ago, sounds like he's avoiding filing for divorce and i wouldn't wait around any longer than you already have. why is he not filing for divorce unless he still wants to be married to her and if he does you are wasting your time anyway. let him know how you feel about it and that you expect him to at least file for divorce VERY soon or he loses you.

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ONE
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all ur life

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t_williams114
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LMAO U'VE BEEN PLAYED ..being a respectable woman you shouldnt of messed with himn in the first place and if he reall y want to be with you once you express your feeling on this matter..if he doesnt get on the ball you should leave

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spaceyinla
sweetie, you should have let him go a long time ago....do you really want that?? he cheated on his wife with you...what happens when you marry this guy and he starts cheating on you with another woman?? you really give women a bad name by dating a married man...pathetic plain & simple

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hsingyu
How long have you waited already?Give him up.He doesn't deserve your waiting.

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capu
If he has begun the process, (told the wife, filed papers etc,) just wait till its done. However, if he hasn't even told the wife yet, he isn't going to.

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Mama Pastafarian
You aren't a girlfriend, you're a mistress. He's using you, and will probably not leave his wife since he hasn't done so yet.

Have a little pride in yourself, and find someone who is available. And remember, if he cheats on his wife, he'll cheat on you. I guarantee it!

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enstable2
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It depends on how long you are willing to wait on your divorce from him when he finds someone else. It is your call he's cheating now he WILL do it again.

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kurtrisser
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Does he know that you are thinking about marriage?

Why mess up a perfectly good relationship by getting married!?!

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bobby
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You are the other woman,let him go.

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sexy me
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dont wait
try sum other

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cairn06
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if you dont see the reality of it now youre never going to see it. dump him now. he seems to be having his cake and eating it too.

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dingy peanut
I would say that he should be out of his marriage by now. It looks to me like he is stringing you along because he wants it both ways, a wife and a girlfriend. That is not fair to you. If I were you, I would admit to myself that he is never going to get divorced, take a deep breath, move on and never look back. You are wasting your time on a hopeless man, when there are plenty of men out there you can treat you the way you should be treated.

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tdc64804
Perhaps you've already waited too long. If he didn't have you there, he maybe would have divorced by now. OR not...he has the best of both worlds now, why would he want to rush to change things? You should find a man that values you and that wants to offer his full self/being to you.

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Rock Goddess
Girl, dont' waste your life waiting on a married man. A co-worker of mine is dating a married man and he keeps telling her the SAME EXACT THING that your man is telling you. My co-worker is so madly in love with her boyfriend, yet, she's not realizing that she's wasting time... and also could hurt him in the divorce proceedings by having the "adultery" slogan pinned against him.

Move on and see if within a certain amount of time, he'll hurry up and actually go through with it. If he doesn't, then I hate to say it, but he probably didn't want to leave anyways.

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robertbarbarotto@sbcglobal.net
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Sounds like he's putting you off. Perhaps he's just using you for his pleasure. If he really loved you, he wouldn't worry about hurting the x's feelings. After all they are supposed to be finished. In most states a divorce will become final 90 days after filed. I would give him a choice, and if he don't want to comply, then I suggest you move on and find you someone who will treat you as a special person. GOOD LUCK!!

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andre g
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just talk to him thro the phone until he levs his wife!
that way he would want u more if he wants to b with u at all?!

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mell14716
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it depends on how much you love him and how much trust you have in him divorce is not easy especialy if you dont have the extra money to do it it dase cost alot and if you want more tan he can give you then i suggest you set down and tell him what you want and see what he says

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Janeen
You are allowing yourself to be used! NEVER date a man who is in the "process"... it's a no win, painful situation. Let him GO! If he really wants you he will take care of his mess and contact you when the dust clears!! Until then why allow yourself to play second fiddle to the wife? Hello?! He's sacrificing YOUR feelings b/c he doesn't want to hurt the wife (your words) because YOU don't really matter to HIM!

Get out while you can!

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kayai
IF IT WAS MEANT TO BE.HE WOULD ALREADY DONE IT.YOU SHOULD LEAVE HIM ALONE AND MOVE ON WITH YOUR LIFE.HE MIGHT DO NOT WANT A DIVORCE.HE WANT TO HAVE HIS CAKE AND EAT IT TO..IN OTHER WORDS HE WANT THE BOTH OF YOU....

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swtz69drmz
So I take it he hasn't even filed yet? If he hasn't, I would back off until he does!!! There are people out there that will say these things to you to make you believe that they are unhappy in their marriage and on their way out of it. Be very careful what you are getting yourself into. Most married men won't leave their wives for you. Most of them will say these things to keep you around because in some silly way you are filling a void in their lives that they should be filling with their spouse. Good luck!

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Simply Lovely
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Looks like someone has their cake and is eating it.

You just keep telling yourself that he is going to divorce his wife someday.

Not hurting her....he is screwing someone else. Yeah, that does not hurt.

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curious
I dated a guy who after six months finally fessed up that he was still legally married. They don't live together, but then neither have them have even so much as filed for a legal separation. And these two have been living apart like this for almost three years. Neither one sees any reason to make a move at ending their marriage legally.
Long story short, I ran and didn't look back. He tried to lay a guilt trip on me about being shallow and all that. I didn't listen. Actions speak louder than words.

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monkeyface
Sorry but this man is a liar & has no intention of getting a divorce.
Maybe he isn't even married in the first place &this just gets him out of too deep a relationship with anyone.
Either way, I think you have been patient enough. Get out of this relationship - it is going nowhere.
You deserve someone who really cares about you. This man obviously only cares for himself.

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myconfusion101
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Speaking from first-hand experience here...he's not leaving. He's unsure of what he wants and he's having the best of both worlds. Don't play second best here, honey. Let him go. If he wants you bad enough, he'll speed up this wife-leaving process and run directly back into your arms. If not, he wasn't going to leave anyway.

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danae5839williams
UUMMMMMMM........ If he is married then he is not your boyfriend he is someone elses husband. And that would make you...... his chick on the SIDE!

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RUNINTLKT
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Dude..let him go.. you don't want to be the reason why he will break his vows with his wife... obviously he cares about her (a little bit anyway)...because he doesn't want to hurt her (even though he already did hurt her by going out with you)...

Anyway...go..save your soul... ask God to forgive you.. and find another great guy somewhere else. You'll find him.

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Brown eyes
It is time to move on. He says he does not want to hurt his wife but he is doing more damage by keeping you a secret, so he is hurting you and his wife. Do you really want to be with someone that is a coward and willing just to put himself first?

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James
I don't think there is necessarily a "time limit" or certainly any hard and fast rules about "how long"

Sometimes divorces can take a long time to sort out.

If I were in your position, I'd want to be seeing some progress, or at least some effort by him to make progress with his divorce. Even if the two of you have no plans or thoughts to get married yourselves, divorce is a definite sign that he's stepped away from his wife, and (although I'm not a relatiship expert by any means).

Have you talked to him about your concerns?

It sounds like you've been very patient and understanding with him... and it seems like you need a little bit of understanding and commitment from him if this is going to work out.

Good luck!

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