How do you start dating after a divorce and being married for 25 years?

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acz083190	First, start going out and casually dating with other friends to have the least pressure. Jsut have fun adn enjoy yourself and your next love may come out of no where. Don't stress yourself out trying to find your next ideal mate. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

browneyes	it is very hard but there is men out there some are decent some are jerks don't rush into any thing enjoy being single for a while Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

Eddie's Wife	take it slow and easy...Just dress up, put yourself out there, bowling, anywhere, and when you are least expecting it, that CERTAIN someone will catch your eye. Of course after 25! years of marriage Im sure you will be pretty scared to start another relationship at first, but just go slow, dont plunge in head first, after 12 yrs it was hard for me to get back out there, and divorce is murder on your ego, and etc. You can do it Hun!!! GL!! Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

Mickey72	Well first you have to realize your not damaged goods. Your older and wiser now. You'll know what to look for now. Sit down and make a list of what you want and don't want in the person. Then really decide the order from "must have" down to "bonus feature" do the same this the qualities you don't want. From "no way, not one second of it" to "I can deal with it if I had to". That's your ideal qualities. Or lack there of.... There is dating sites if you don't have a lot to choose from in your area. But dating has really changed these days. Living together first is almost common practice now-a-days... Sad but true. Good luck and just tell your self every day when your looking at the mirror getting ready for your day. I am priceless and lovable. Say it a few times each day. Say it out loud. If someone hears garbage enough they will begin to believe it, so if you hear how priceless and wonderful you are you'll believe it... Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

mars101_2000	i was devorced at 1 day short of 25 years and that was 18 years ago and am still single and having a good time do the things you like there r other things besides dating like making friends, dating is good but not the only thing u r single just start thinking single life is good Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

ukrajai	Exactly as you did before meeting your first wife> Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

mr_smookey	Try looking for a compatable partner first that is make friends and get to know each other and if u like then go aded Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

new-here	Start out slowly and be careful. Good Luck Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

The Good Humor Man	It is as before you were married except that the places you used to go must now be adjusted to age and maturity. Such as the shopping center, mall, supermarket, dog parks, beaches, etc. The only difference now is that the major games are gone, you have more knowledge and experience under your belt and you sense of self is quite stronger. Do not let yourself be compromised rather find compromise in your new relationship. Friends first as a baseline is most important. Go with your strengths and work on any weaknesses to aid in confidence. Take it slow and don't rush into anything. Life is to be enjoyed not hurried through. Now go out there and enjoy your new lease on life! Good luck and best wishes to you! Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

koodie64	take a breather and relax to be free from the chains for that many years. i wouldn't jump into anything, but let it happen naturally. hell u just got of a long relationship, so now it times to discover who you are. don't rush into anything. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

kiokwus	Just take it one day at a time. If it is ment to be, you will know when it happens. Untill then, relax and just be yourself. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

iwannano	Go to Ukraine. You can find dozens of young beautiful babes who are dying to be with you even if your ugly. One is sure to love you forever! It may take some time but in the long run it will be worth it. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

average_guy_1271970	You don't. Just find stuff you like to do, and get involved in your own life. Get to know yourself as a single person, and learn to enjoy life as a single person. After you're comfortable with who you are again, and you are active outside the house, someone will come along. NOBODY finds anyone worth having when they are LOOKING. Good luck coping with your new life. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

sillygoose	JUMP IN WITH BOTH FEET GIRL!! NO TIME LIKE THE PRESENT,TIMES A WAISTEN,GO FOR IT . YOU DESERVE IT :) Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

kablair	There's lots of good advice here. I read many of the answers. I went through the same thing several years back. If you don't have a big social circle, you might try Yahoo Personals or another dating service. I met some very nice people that way, and have subsequently begun to enjoy--in fact, RELISH my single existence. You might also consider joining a single's club--or even starting your own club or group--through Yahoo groups. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

weasered	same as when married. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

alicia_yong@sbcglobal.net	It's not a good idea too be dating, since you had a recent spouse. Your husband might want to reconcile with you again. Besides, how old are you? Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

crawcin2005	Just be yourself! You know what kind of person you would like to be with after 25 years (hopefully!). Do the things you like to do, whether it be church related, sports related or whatever! The "other gender" will stumble upon you when you least expect it! I am in a similar situation and have greatly enjoyed various dating sites---its quick and easy to find dates and see who is really compatible. Just know that you are in a similar situation to many others so just proceed with caution and "reckless abandonment"! lol Good luck! Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

Jerry S	Just hang loose, Don't worry about dating. Let thing's happen. When the time is right FATE will intervene <SP?> Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

JamesB@CL	After 25 years with the ball and chain you should feel free to get out and do what you are interested in. It should feel like getting out of jail. Go and travel, especially on a Cruz. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

fenx	Stay single! Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

Pyrate	I wouldn't focus on "dating". You should just spend your time doing what you love to do. Join groups that do things you like to do. When the time and person are right you will know. Lot's of luck. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

zen	I agree with zartsmom. Take a class. Any class, one that interests you. Join a church, if that appeals to you. Volunteer for your favorite cause. Volunteer to coach or drive kids sports teams. Kids have parents. Some of them, single parents ;-)) Take dancing lessons. Join a social or political club. The idea is to meet like-minded individuals, with whom you have something in common, and something to talk about, without seeming anxious to "date." If nothing else, you will make friends, and they may introduce you to someone! Best of luck! Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

mommy	indirectly send some flowers without writing or attaching any card, give blank call and start showing yr interest in listening the other person voice, show your concern if she/he passes by, wait for him/her wherever u see him/her, start remembering his/her wordings, likings, habits, dislikes,,,,,,,,,,, got it or still waiting but never think of breaking your relationship for small reason or even somethimes big reasons as relationships are made in heaven only, Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

Slick	Set up a profile on a dating site like lava life or call a dating line. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

Mom	Are you sure you want to start dating? Take your time and let it happen natually.There is no hurry. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

Sir William	First, if you are a woman, and you are over the fact that all the men you have known and had serious relationships with before, not including your father, or especially including your father, depending, have gone out of their way to use you and abuse you, then maybe you can find a man that has had the same experience with the women in his life, including or not including his mother, depending. If you sense a mutual attraction and can restrain yourself from promising the world to him to get what you desire or want, and settle for what you need and are willing to give him what he needs,and not immediatly what he desires or wants, an equal trade, no credit,then maybe you have found a person who you need to spend more time with to find out more information about.Spend the time, ask the questions, not in a third degree sort of way but in an inquisitive truly interested sort of way. As if to show him that he is someone who could become very important in your life as long as he demonstrates over time that you can become very important in his life. Be very frugal with your money and your property, but spend a lot of smiles and laughter with him. If he returns the same, you may be working towards a solid relationship. Don't rush things, but do not hinder progress, if you use your head first and then your heart, and keep focused, you should do alright. I am not a psychologist, but I did stay in a Holiday Inn last night. I was alone and I needed a woman who understood some of the things I just said. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

ibarummah	You go up to a hot guy/girl and ask them to coffie or dinner. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

highroad2mizery	Don't worry about dating. Just do things you like, be social, and make new friends. If this leads to anything, then good for you. But don't expect to meet someone right off the bat. It'll put way to much stress on you, and members of the opposite sex can always tell when you're stressed. Relax and enjoy yourself. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

Sully	To meet good people try doing volunteer work in something you believe in. You will make new friends and if one of them is not right for you probably someone they know will be. Good luck. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

akfriendanch	Hi Sunshine! I was married for twenty two years and then divorced, so I can absolutely relate to your situation. I will share my experience and maybe it will help you - I sure hope so. (I married my high school sweetheart so he was the only person i had ever dated- talk about culture shock to start dating again). After my divorce, I felt the need to take a little time to adjust and get to know myself. Felt kind of like I had lost myself in the marriage so to speak. I spent the first 6 months after my divorce alone - it was a conscious choice i made. After that time frame, I started going out with my friends/socializing. Everything from going out dancing, traveling together, attending sports events, outdoor activities, etc...In doing these things i made more friends and when someone asked me out - I went. Dating alot during that time frame helped me to see what i really wanted in another person and it got me used to the dating scene again. I let the person know i hadn't dated in a long time and tried to have a sense of humor about the situation, but I would definitely not go on and on about your ex, your marriage, etc...no bigger turn off! I think sometimes it is hard in the beginning to think about dating because you are afraid things have changed drastically in the dating world after 25 years, but actually it is pretty much the same. Women just have more choices now, then they used to. We can ask guys out, make the decisions, etc...One difference i did find is alot of younger men asked me out. At first, I wasn't comfortable with this, but my friends said, that i needed to realize that age doesn't matter as much anymore. People look younger than they are and younger men seem to like older women because we are more secure and know what we want out of life. It seemed men my own age were interested in younger women after their divorces and older men are too set in their ways or couch potatoes, so the younger guy thing is an alternative - not that you can't find someone great who is a peer or older... I set some rules for myself as well: No guys too young - just wouldn't be right for me personally, and I have sons that are grown so i did not want to make anyone uncomfortable. I was 42 at time of my divorce and dated men mostly in 34 to 42 age group. I also decided to set limits for sexual activity as well. Don't be afraid to try internet dating svcs. It is the new way to meet people - you do have to be careful. Don't give out personal info at first, write to them, talk on phone and then finally meet them in a public place. I dated for eight years after my divorce had a great time, met wonderful people and not so wonderful people and just six months ago met a guy online first time i gave yahoo personals a try and we are getting married this year! Have fun, be adventurous and don't take life too seriously. Maybe the first few dates will be hard - getting used to the dating thing again, but it will get easier and easier. Oh, and if you have kids that are concerned about the dating thing - communicate with them Good Luck! alaska friend Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No