How do I tell my husband that I don't want to be with him and he can have the kids?

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DG	It's one thing to not want to be with your husband, but it's another thing to completely turn your back on your kids. For their sake and your's....please don't do it. Divorce him if you must, but not the kids. Think how abandoned your kids will feel as they grow into teenagers, and eventually into young men and women. They will feel both stigmatized and traumatized, thinking that you didn't love them or care enough about them to stay. They will grow up deeply hurt and with trust issues. You will miss Christmases and Thanksgivings with them, their birthdays, their first days of school, family picnics, reading to them, tucking them in to bed, their proms, their graduations...their weddings, and the joy of holding your first grandchild. Although you may be very angry and upset by what is going on in your life right now, please think carefully. This is a life changing decision that has powerful, far reaching consequences for both you and your childen. This not something you can take back once done, but it is something you will have to live with every day for the rest of your life. Years ago, I knew a man whose wife was fed up. She was fed up with the boredom of the marriage, and the daily drudgery of taking care of the house and 5 kids ...all under the age of 10. So she decided to leave both her husband and her kids. The year after she was gone, the youngest one who was under the age of 2, drowned in the bathtub. Six years after she was gone, one of the children was electrocuted, after touching something that didn't have a ground. The only daughter wound up pregnant & married at 16. One kid wound up being murdered in a drug deal gone wrong. The one remaining son is an alcoholic. I hope you choose wisely, for your sake and that of your children. God Bless~* Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

mickey g	just like that. and file for divorce while you're at it (get that jump start) Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

Mike Hunt	Say I don't want to be with you and you can have the kids? Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

margaret w	u selfish stupid woman . by sounds of it ur kids be happier with the father. ffs some ppl . to dump ur own kids. what are u thinking Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

KghC_thegreatest	oh, you are tire of him or you just have some else better than him, if so then go a head tell him strait and leave. Other wise I suggest you reconsidered twice before you do it. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

msthinkpositive	OK, giving up on the husband is one thing, but giving your kids away is another. This will have a dramatic effect on them in their growing up. What would make you care so little about their lives without you being in it? There may need to be some counseling for the family or your having a sole to sole talk to your spouse to make things work out. If he's messed up, don't make the kids suffer, they don't deserve this, because they don't ask to be born. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

SeaSea	Just like that ^ Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

kimi_tohomiko	just like it says in your question stupid! tell him to bug off, then give him the kids and say: "these are your sperms. deal with them". then walk out the door with cash. $$$ Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

marieandlucaspape	Wow! It scares me to think there are mothers like you out there! Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

Someday	Just tell him straight...or give him enough trouble that he will himself want to break up with you. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

coyotecoup	You must be in a desperately bad way if you want to leave your kids. Please get help, your kids NEED you! Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

TRAVIS B	i don't believe that would be a good idea but if that's how you feel you should explain it to him and and move on. there is no need to be stuck in a relationship that apparently your heart isn't in but by no means should you just let him have your children. if he's more financially stable give him custody but don't turn your back on the kids they are the future. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

Signilda	Tell him it's his lucky day. To be rid of bad wife and mother and free to find someone who really cares. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

Sandy F	Wow , woman you are a real piece of work.... How to tell you hubby you don't want him and don't want the kids either.. walk up tell him you getting a divorce sign this paper i am gone and get out.. It will be better for him and the kids if you weren't in there lives. You go pay for the divorce you are the one who want out of there lives. just make sure your lawyer says you want your parental rights relinquished too.. No one needs someone like you trying to come back into there lives .. leave them alone and get out of there. You aren't worth the hassel.. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

kenzie	tell him you don't want him or the kids and leave! Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

track1	explain to your kids that you are unhappy and that you are leaving thier father. then explain to the kids that you're not taking them. after you're done with that than just dump his a** and go! leaving your kids behind is the hardest thing to do. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

symarcia	it sound like he should be the 1 leaving u, u've no family values as u never even consider ur own kids... What goes around come around, sometime double 2...Tell him as it is maybe he is praying for the day u said it. "I got to go, I need more space in my life." Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

animalmother	I'm a stuiped, selffish female dog! Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

leakser68	I really don't know! I just can't understand how u can leave ur kids though! That's really awful! You should be ashamed! They r going to hate u for it and u will deserve it! Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

♥ Sunshine ♥	Your just going to walk out abnd leave your kids every kid deserves a mother and a father and your walking out on them and leaving them with a father only what a great mom u are! Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

ihavetobeme	The best thing you can do if you feel like this is get out of his and the childrens life. He'll get over it and hopefully find someone better than you. Children need ROLE MODELS and you are obviously NOT one so for their sake stay OUT of their lives. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

sarah y	Obviously there s more to this story then meets the eye...you had better tell him without your kids present.Why don't you want your kids with you,`cause i gotta tell you,you`ll regret it in the future and this could cause serious problems and your children don't deserve this....you need to seriously think about this....Good luck. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

4kids4dogs	you are worse than edna :-( you need some alone time Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

stefan s	directly, and honestly. think about the future, not the past! let not the past poison your future!!! Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

Scoot	I'm not going to say that's horrible. I'm not going to say your a bad mom. I'm not going to judge you, I can't for I don't know you. Though I don't know you, I don't think you should be on here asking that question...you should be asking yourself that question. How can I tell my husband I don't want to be with him and he can have the kids...ask yourself that. Talk to your friends and family if you need help...not strangers. Strangers don't know you and cant' help you as well....they will easily tell you you're a bad person, where as friends love you and will advise you and actually try to help. Good luck and god bless. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

grrrrme	First off let me say .... what kind of a mother are you to just give your kids away to him. You should be fighting to keep your kids. but in regards to your question.... Be honest with him and tell him that you are not women enoought to fight for the kids and he can take them, some women, I tell you... Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

Si	Honey, I'm leaving and you can have sole custody of the kids. Don't say the last part or you'll regret it. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

Thumbs Up Fairy	hahahaa, give him the kids before you drown them Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

Poopsie the Embarassed Kitten	Leave him a note like this: Darrell, This may come as a shock to you, but I am leaving you and the kids. I realize it is sudden, but I can no longer bear to be a mom or a wife to my family. One day the answer to 'why' may be clearer to you. But for now, this is all that I can say. Don't forget to give Darrell Jr. his medicine or else he'll start making that terrible noise again. Your erstwhile wife, Yolanda-June Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

Jai	First, I would like to say "this sucks"! If I ever felt this way about my kids and husband and couldn't shake the feeling, then I would seek help! Separate counseling with a minister, and/or therapist could prove beneficial to you, your spouse, and kids. After a time of individual counseling, couples' counseling could help to jointly bring the marriage back together. Maybe, your kids could benefit from counseling - whether you decide to stay or leave! Remember the family you leave behind are left to deal with EVERYTHING! Try to think of your kids welfare first! In the end, if you choose to leave your kids and husband, be honest with him. Be appropriately honest with your kids, and good writtance! Remember, once carried out - it won't be so easily undone, forgiven, or forgotten. I realize that men leave their families all the time, because you're a woman it shouldn't be looked at any worse! I agree - but I'm looking at it the same. It sucks when men walk away from their families, and it will EQUALLY suck if you do! Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

migurl48706	Just tell him bluntly...you are not a bad person because you do not want the children, im sure you would take them if you thought it would be best for them....congrats to you for knowing your limits...if a guy posted this there would not be all these angry evil answers Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No