How do I leave the woman I love?

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matrix15sam	u have to be honest and talk to ur wife and really decide wat u want to do, bcuz if u leave u won't be able to just go bk, its a HUGE decision, make sure u make the right one Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

Blunt	You are an idiot for trying to dump your lovely wife to get with a spineless woman that has no morals and has the nerve to date a married men with kids. She is a selfish self serving homewrecker... of course she wants you to see "how unhappy you are" that serves her well, doesn't it? The new car always runs well my friend, the thrill of the novelty will run out too, now you are flattered by her attention and your are feeling this intoxicating feeling of being alive... it's nothing that the poison of temptation getting into you. It's not worth it, Please, don't break up your marriage for this s lut. A woman that dates married man are a dime a dozen. A lovely lady and a good wife and mother is very hard to come by. Don't be an idiot. Stop seing the other woman and get a motorcycle or a red corvet instead of cheating. This is just a middle life crises. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

Kitty	Grass isn't greener on the other side... In a few years, you will be in the same situation with this woman - and possibly, will meet yet someone else who will sweep you off your feet. That said, if you're not happy in your marriage, you should be up-front with your wife about it, and not lead her on. It's a hell of a predicament to be in. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

CoCo-Puffs	I think this falls under the saying. "The grass is always greener on the other side of the fence". Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

elisebri	all relationships have ups and downs. they all take work. one thing that happens is that one person in the relationship, sometimes both, usually the woman, loses themself. this is way more common than you think. the best thing for you to do, is to try to rediscover yourself. the person that you want to be. and with that, rediscover the woman that you married and the reasons you married her. she's still there, you just have to find her. the feeling you're getting with the other woman is just the excitement. it's a spark you haven't felt in a long time and it's exciting. but who knows if your bond with her will last the tests you will have to go through if you broke up your marriage. if you leave your wife, it will not be a bed of roses. everyone will be hurt, including your kids and the rest of your family. divorces are messy and this isn't just a personal decision. your life and your children;s lives will never be the same. you won't be there for them when they really need it. sure, maybe on weekends and holidays and birthdays. but, you won't be there for the little things in life that they need dad for. honestly, the spark will be lost with this woman eventually too. and you'll be left with a broken marriage to the woman you promised forever to and kids that are hurt. marriage is not easy. it takes work. but, not just to stay together but to make it interesting. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

Asia	You need to be honest with your wife and fess up. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

Alana J	I will give you the perspective of a woman who has just gone through this. My husband (now my ex) and I divorced after ten years of marriage. He was "not happy" - was the reason he gave me. Then I found out that he told his mother that he was in love with one of his co-workers and he was willing to risk everything for a chance at a relationship with her. Sound familiar? He gave me the same line - I love you but I am not in love with you. I will tell you what is going to happen in your life. First of all - your wife knows. I knew - you can't be married to someone and not know their thougths are somewhere else. You are going to break you wife's heart. You are going to break your kids' heart. They will question everything in their lives. You are going to destroy their sense of self and security. Your wife will doubt her self and her ability to love. She will try and understand why you would throw away everything you two have built - but she will not be able to because it does not make sense. Just what is it you plan to do - leave your wife and kids? Is she going to leave hers? Do you plan to move in together and raise your kids together? Are you ready to deal with children who are messed up? Are you ready to deal with two hurt and angry ex spouses? Life is not a movie. Grow up! Dr. Phil has some great advice about affairs and divorce - I suggest you check out his website. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

dimples	Let go of the fantasy!! Stay with your wife!! A year from now you will be asking yourself, what was I thinking,when this women turn out to be nothing like you expected!!!! And another thing, if I hear that saying again I am going to SCREAM!!! I love you, but I'm not in love with you. That is so lame!!! I HATE THAT!!!! Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

raffi	jumping from one relationship to another is a bad idea. people tend to think that the grass is greener on the other side., the reality is not so. i think you should try and resolve any issues that you and your wife have, try therapy, perhaps there are deeper issues. give your marriage a real chance before you decide to throw it away. i am not trying to dismiss your feelings for this other woman, but your wife and family come first and formost....good luck, i hope all goes well Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

honeyinthelexus	Wow - if anything become a writer..... Well as sad as it may seem, if you are not in love with her, you shouldnt stay with her. Unfortunately, its worse that you have found someone else. This "other woman" sounds perfect BUT remember things are never as they seem and if you give up your family for this other lady and she isnt what you thought she'd be, then you have lost the love of your children for leaving them for some lady. I would suggest asking your wife for space - maybe moving out and giving yourself the chance to see what its like without your family. You might realize its not as great as you think. But...........please remember to not go around and act as if you are divorced, if someone sees you with this other woman, regardless if you are seperated or not, it would hurt her deeply. Good luck....... Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

Mit	You are not the person this women is telling you that your are. She is telling you everything possible to get you hook line and sinker. Back to real world. You have two kids and a wife. You don't give a dam about them because you want to be free and have other woman. No kids no wife oh boy your single again. Get a grip on yourself. You have children that your wife is taking care of while you screw around. Maybe you should tell your wife. Maybe she would like the freedom and no cares like you. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

plinky	i think u already decide to leave your wife, be careful with your choices, because that will lead to your life, take a look with all good things between your wife, you have so many promises with her, but now you are wanting to leave her and stop all your plans. you are selfish, what you are thinking is all about your self, it is normal to a marriage life to have more downs than up, that is why you are together to resolve it, but why you r leaving her now, i think there is no problem w/ your wife, because u have not mention anything, the problem is you, all you need is to talk with her how you feel, that you are not happy anymore, and that is the beginning of your new life. because this time both of you will adjust, you will resolve your problems together, try to work it out first. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

livetall1	sounds like mid-life crisis - the grass always looks greener on the other side. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

musiclicker	Dude you have made up your mind! The only thing you haven't done is had the balls to go through with it. Why is that? Because you are not sure this is the right thing to do!! Suppose you go through with this, and six months down the road (after the new has worn off) you decide you have made a mistake? Know the difference between love and lust here man. The old saying "if it seems too good to be true, then it must be" sure seems to ring a bell don't it? Several years into a marriage, this happens to all of us. Surely you don't think your situation is unique do you? How well do you know this other woman? She has kids too? Wonder what her x has to say about her? I think you might be making the biggest mistake of your life here! You don't know what you got till it's gone. Ask yourself this; what does this other woman have that my wife doesn't? You need to talk to someone about this issue, before you go off half ****** and throw a good thing away chasing a dream. Good Luck! Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

marc&jodie a	IT'S TIME TO GROW UP ,YOU HAVE 2 KIDS TO THINK ABOUT WHAT HAPPENS WHEN YOU GET TIRED OF THIS WOMEN WHO KNOCKED YOU ON YOUR BEHIND ,SOMEBODY SHOULD KNOCK YOU BACK INTO REALITY Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

Cris W	I completely know what you are going through. You need to step away from this other woman and work on your relationship with your wife and kids. You are seeing other things in this woman that sweep you off you feet that you don't see in your wife. I know it's tempting but it's not worth it. You don't know what will happen with this othe woman and even more importantly, your kids. Their little hearts would be broken. Honestly, if I didn't have a daughter, I probably would have left my partner a couple times. It is so worth working on. Follow your heart. If you were sure you wanted this other woman, you wouldn't be asking for advice form yahoo answers, you would just do it. Your wife and kids need you. It wouldn't hurt to talk to a professional either. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

jus j	bogus ... that is why you should have never cheated to begin with ... why would you go outside of your marital relationship? If you were not happy ... you should have sought help with your wife ... especially for the sake of your children ... i hope this woman is not just playing a joke on you ... most women that sleep with married men do not actually want the man but the challenge ... i would question both of your morals and values ... yes just leave your wife ... you and your mistress belong together ... and i hope your wife finds a more attractive, wealthier, kinder man that will love her and your kids Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

SweetPea	if you are unhappy then you need to talk to your wife. It's all about communication babe. This other woman maybe not be what you want. Right now she maybe and that's only b/c your forbidden fruit which people always think is sweeter when it's really bitter. Please try to go to a marriage counselor and talk it out. Maybe your wife doesn't know your unhappy. Maybe once she knows then you two can try to work out your marriage. But just don't give it up b/c another woman has better conversation, because trust me, once she has you she's not going to want you anymore. God bless you. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

cyndi71mom	Ahh,... great movie. Age old question - is the grass really greener on the other side? My guess - probably not. You married your wife for a reason. You had children with her for a reason. You cant have changed that much. While I feel sorry for you because I understand your predicament, I also worry that if you leave your family to have a relationship with this other woman you may find yourself in the same situation five years from now. Are you the type of person who likes a challenge? A new change of scenery? Maybe you need to get some counseling before embarking on such a dangerous road... Good luck to you. Only you know what is best for you. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

angel2005_2001	You need to think seriously about this. Is it worth it. Think about your kids... Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

latitude	You don't love your wife. Love is not just a feeling, its a commitment. If you go after this new "dream" woman, you will eventually "fall out of love" with her, just like with your wife. Love is going through thick and thin, and making an effort to "fall in love" again when you don't feel it. You don't know what love is. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

cheetah7	The only question I have is, how do you know the grass will stay greener on the other side once you're there? It's all fine and dandy now with this woman but what happens when you're both settled in and reality sets in? Are you going to be back to square one? I really don't understand how you can say you're happily married yet appear to be unhappy at the same time. And how can you say you still love your wife and not be in love with her? I think you're talking about passion being gone, not love. What will happen in this new relationship once the passion goes away? Are you going to be saying, I love this woman but I'm not in love with her? Think about it and make sure this is really what you want. Think about the marriage you're going to be throwing away for this woman. You also have two kids. Did you even stop for a moment to think about what will happen with their lives if you choose to break up the marriage for someone you hardly know? It's really not worth it. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

baby_flyy	YOU TOOK A VOW!!!! bottomline there is no out!! you need to stop talking to this other woman. Your problem is that you are out chasing a dream. You need to put that much effort into your marriage. I don't care what this other woman makes you feel, you need to figure out what is wrong with your marriage to make you feel you need this other woman. No one every said that when you marry you will always feel "in love". You are living in a fantasy world. Wake up and care for your wife and children. You have to work at being "in love", not work toward finding a way out. You say you are a "good man", guess what? a guy man doesn't do what you are doing. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

All4Christ	she is a dream. wake up! go back to your wife and make your relationship WORK. stop dreaming from one girl to the other. your married. so work on your marriage and make it wonderful. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

George A	Okay, if you take the "other woman" and she dumps you like a hot rock two months later, then what? Odds are you are just the "flavor of the moment" to her. Look your kids in the eyes and ask yourself if this piece of *ss is worth screwing up thier entire lives? Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

KB	Do you wife a favor and get a divorce. She deserves better than you, and I hope her divorce lawyer takes you to the cleaners. Did your wedding vows mean nothing to you? That's what you get for thinking with your dick, instead of your heart and your brain and being true to your WIFE. You are assuming this new woman will bring you dreams and glory and fantasy. but in reality, she has flaws just like your wife, and YOU jhave flaws too. There will still be arguments over household chores, kids, money, etc. if you think the grass is greener on the other side, go for it, you'll be disappointed, but at least your WIFE will be free from a man who disrespects her and she can move on and find someone who will love her for who she is, no matter what. Life is NOT the movies, the endings are never clean. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

kitcat	You said it.....it's a dream so why risk it all and hurt your kids for a dream that may not last. Just because something feels great doesn't mean it will be great. One of the reason it feels so great because its forbidden desire. You said you was happily married til you met this woman. What kind of person is she really if she allow this to happen knowing that you were happily married. You better look in that mirror before you jump off that bridge. Not judging but giving you something to think about. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

rich2481	Grow up, I have been divorced twice, the grass is not greener on the other side, your kids need you, having kids changes marriage, stop thinking with herbie, of course some other woman who doesnt share the kids problems at home and life problems is going to look good to you. you will face the same thing when and if you live with her,, woman are all the same, all want stability and to suck the life right out of you,, it isnt all fun and games, go to counceling, make up with your wife, you fell in love with her for some reason, Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

kari	so be too smart to risk it for a dream. Starting off a relationship after ending a marriage...bad idea. You will change and adapt in any relationship you are in, so why hurt the woman you promised to love and cherish for the rest of your life? The problem isnt her...the problem is you. You are getting bored and stifled in your relationship, and that is something you have the power to change while staying married. I say get some counseling with your wife, and try to work that relationship out. If nothing else, stick around for your children. They need a father around! Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

Nobody's home	You belong to those two kids, as well, jackass. You going to destroy the only life they know? A real prince you are. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

Waxxxx	stop calling her dats all Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No