How can i get her to obey what I say?

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momof3	Are you married to a human or a canine? That just might be your problem right there..My god have you some issues.... Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

barthebear	Flowers, loving words, instead of saying you want your meal, say' Im so starving when I get in, can we eat earlier, please' followed by I love you so much, you are so wonderful thank you, thank you! If that doesnt work , sit down for formal discussion of what you could do to make the marriage better etc. ( Not that you should. and not that things are your fault but just to get talking about what the underlying reasons are that she is this way and what is wrong. good luck. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

Grapes	I used to be married to a guy like you. Key word - USED to! Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

Radar	First off you are a dumb-* for thinking your wife is your slave! Second you are not very bright if you think that you can train a wife! She is not a dog!!! You must think that it is very demeaning having to do your own laundry! I do not blame her for saying "she is my wife not my maid and if I want that I should hire a maid" I'll bet your mother did all your house work for you as a kid and your father brainwashed you in this * backwards in thinking of the man does nothing attitude! I work 40 plus hours a week and I help my wife. I am in my second home before I met my wife. If I am too lazy to clean up after myself then I have no business in a relationship. Have you forgotten the true meaning of your vows man? Get your head out of your butt and get over it! Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

lovie12346	Hey, its alright dont be too hard on this guy. The cord must of been wrap around his neck at birth and it cut off his air supply. So take it easy on him he cant help it! Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

come2kitty77	geez...y are you so defensive?...could it be that you know what you are doin is wrong?...she is right, she isnt your maid, she is your wife...what century are you living in anyway?...i am tryn to look at this from both sides but i know how she might feel here too...i WAS in a marriage of the same situation...except i worked 50 hrs a week...i hated coming home and cooking, cleaning, etc...he made me feel like it was my job to do those things...mayb she feels the same way...have you even tryd talking to her about it?...try taking a different approach to things...or your going to end up like me...WAS married! Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

lex	" oh stop,,my sides,,they,re splitting", maybe if you adjusted your attitude she would want to do these things,,tell someone they should and if able,,they will think,,'sod you mate,do it yourself. she IS your wife and you are her husband,,appreciation is free,,maids unfortunately for you are not! Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

Moo Moo Mair	Gee I thought we were living in the year 2007 AD, not the middle ages! Your wife isn't a child that must obey you. She is your partner...your peer. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

Bride2b	Train your wife? That is rediculous. The way things are nowdays, traditional family roles are out the window. You can't control her, or train her. You will drive her away. Being more open-minded will help, maybe you two should talk about the housework and whatnot. Find out how she is feeling, maybe she has more things to do than you are aware of. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

elmjunburke	Sorry, my wife is a human being, she doesn't have to be trained. In our younger days, we both worked, I as a stone and concrete mason. It doesn't get any harder than that. When I got home dead-tired, I helped with he house work as much as possible. We never had a boss- servant relationship. We were and are a team working for the good of our marriage. After fifty-three years that bind is stronger than ever. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

CHEEKS69	First of all you do not train someone to do something like they are a dog. Maybe you should learn to speak to her in better terms and help around the house as well. She isn't a maid and I am pretty sure that both of you work just as hard at your job. I do not know if you have children or not, but if you do, then that is a whole lot of work that you do not have to focus on. It takes both partners to work within the house. The only thing I agree with you here is that maybe she should have at least a meal by the time you get home. Or maybe be a little more considerate and see how she is feeling and maybe pick up some dinner on the way home, make things a little easier for both of you. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

Miranda	Household chores do not seem like work, but they take up a lot of time. You two need to make a list of things that need to be done around the house. Each person check out things from the list. You may also take turns cooking and cleaning. It is a good idea to hire a maid to do the cleaning work. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

Jacquie W	Wow, you know the harder you push her in one direction, the more she'll probably go in the other. You're a grown man, you can share some of the responsabilities around the house, you both live there, both make messes, marriage is a team effort in all aspects. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

meltedwatches	The way you talk about her worries me. She isn't a pet to train, she's supposed to be your partner. However, if you don't think she's holding up her end of the deal, ask her to go to counseling with you. The counselor might be able to help her see how she's letting you down, or might give you some anger management techniques for when things don't go your way. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

steinerrw	So you @#$%ing lowlife. You want to teach your wife like a dog. You can get off your a$$ and help a little or are you still living as a caveman. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

PeachPie	someone needs to slap you. Get off your lazy *** and do it yourself. Did you want a wife or a servant. If you want a servant, you need to start considering a mail order bride Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

Jaxs	first off you don't train your wife to get them to do something its a mutual respect for each other it sounds to me she does not respect you in the first place but then again i am hearing only one side of the story and it does not sound like you respect her also try talking it out and see if you can come to mutual understanding Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

Confused	Don't treat your wife like a dog.. And dont use such words "obey" "train". She's not ur maid. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

Adrienne-Jae	part time job or not working is working! and you can't train women to do nothing they don't want to do! Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

jaiden skylar due anyday ..	if i was her i would kick ur * then tell u to do things all for ur self if u be like that .. my husband knows i have along day i am a house wife with a 5 year old daughter and a 1 year old son .. i cook clean take care of kids and do the laundry all he has to do is trash and clean the bathroom .. back off before u get a * kicken u dont need .. dumbass Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

miss.sunshine	hey azzhole she right she is not the maid or your damn doormat show some respect and do it yourself Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

sweet_trixie_1977	If you want to be "obeyed"...get a dog you low life! The best thing she can do is get away from you. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

Nikki	If you want a maid, get one. If you want a wife, be a little more compassionate. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

☆BTriX☆	I am so glad I got a divorce to get away from a jerk like you... I don't believe a word of what you're saying, but still. It makes me happy to know I'm free! Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

msknowitall	You're looking for a fight aren't you? What would u do if u were single?? Call yer mommy? Take care of your own crap, a marriage is an equal partnership. Grow up or get back in your friggin time machine. Jack@$$ Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

al e. c	what's you address? so i can come over there and beat the crap out of your abusive a$$... Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

bnrl_shell88	OMG! you dont "train" woman to do things, we're not dogs..... If there is a trick your wife should know, it should be how to walk out the door and never look back! Keep it up and she'll learn that trick fast! Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

prairiegurrl	Give your head a good hard shake! Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

Michael K	train her the same time you train yourself...be a "MAN"...clean up your own mess.....then you have something to yell about...if she does not clean up hers...you cannot cook...you are not a "MAN"!!!!!!!...grow up...it's a 2 way street....not 1 way...your way.....thanks for asking ...good luck with the dishes Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

CeciliaM	Ok...she's not a dog to be trained. If she was like this before you guys got married, what made you think that all of a sudden she'd become your ideal of a "perfect" housewife after you got married? Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

lookingforanswers	Well, personally I think that she should contribute more to the household especially if she's only working part time and you're working full time and paying the bills. This is a tough situation because many women today have been told not to serve their husbands like they used to (which explains her "I'm not your maid!" speech). This has caused a lot of problems when the husband wants the wife to take on a more traditional role. It would be a lot easier if she just listened. Otherwise, if she wants to be equal, then she needs to take on a full time job. Unfortunately you can't really put your foot down these days or make threats if she doesn't do these things for you. If you do she'll find somebody else to confide in. She might do the same thing if you try to ignore her. So you're kind of in a jam here.... Maybe you should consider making her pay for some of the bills. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No