Do i support my friends decision to see a married man?

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?	If you care for this friend of yours and you disagree then you must tell her she is wrong in doing this. It not only hurts someone else but it hurts herself in the process. She should be able to have some self respect and how can you actually have self respect in doing something that morally she couldn't stand if it was done to her? Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

Carrie K	If you are a true friend you will support her- not her decision. I would be guessing here, but it sounds like your friend has low self esteem issues. Her last companion probably treated her badly, so she feels like she does not deserve to be with a good, honest man. Also, maybe the married man feels safe to her, because she knows she will not be able to marry him and be stuck in another bad marriage. By the way, there are plenty of good men out there. It is just hard to sort through the creepy jerks to find them. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

Carp	Depends on that status of the other marriage. Your friend may be setting herself up for even more hurt and is reason enough to discourage her. Married man secret = We will not leave our wife for a mistress. We have the best of two worlds by having both. We don't get dinged divorcing her, child support, etc. And we get good times with our mistress(es). I feel dating married people not in the process of divorce is wrong. But to each his own. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

Just_Married	NO! DEFINATLY NO! Your going to help your friend ruin someone's family, someone's marriage. Dont do it, and tell her not to. That is so wrong and that should not be supported in any means. If you know that will cause so much pain and hurt whey would you support her? NO! Its wrong and she should be ashamed of herself. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

Brandy	Well chances are she's going to do it regardless of what you say. Just be her friend, be there if and when things fall apart. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

firecrackertx	Well I can related to your friend I am in the very begining stages of divorce and I have ahd my fun with one imparticular married man and its fun and he is married and has a kid I do not have any kids maybe they are both lonly and there spouces dont make them feel special anymore and they have eachother for this and this is what is helping your friend get though this rough time in her life I am not saying that is not wrong because it is but it is a hard thing to do so just be there for her and do not judge her until you have walked a mile in her shoes. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

tearsofthemoon00	We all make decisions in our lives and then we have to live with them. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

privateone	support her in what shes going through in her own marriage but let her know that you cant morally support her for entering another, (so to speak!) Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

sweetsmiles69@jennieask-me	no don't support her choice to be with a married man when she knows he is married.That's wrong it doesn;t give her the right just because she was in a bad marriage and is only now getting out of it.She should be looking for a man she can actually have and be with no strings attached that's how problems start in the first place she's stupidly jumping from one bad scene to another??? Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

m k	Just give her your support and help her pick up the pieces when it falls apart. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

B K	You support her getting out of one marriage but not fcking up another one in the process. Doesn't she see how she is completely spitting in the face of the woman in that marriage? How can she be so short-sighted? Is she thinking with her clit? What is the problem? He's a cheater - does she think she's* going to change him with her amazing mad p*ssy skills? Yeah, right. Tell her to get the HELL out of that toxic relationship with that slimy cheating loser NOW. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

teach	If she's already planned to get a divorce and not willing to get professional counseling, there's not much you can do! You don't have to O.K. it...., but still be her friend. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

tatyana17	IF YOU DON'T AGREE WITH HER ACTIONS TO SEE A MARRIED SHE SHOULD KNOW THAT. HOWEVER CHANCES ARE SHE ALREADY KNOWS HOW YOU FEEL. DEEP DOWN SHE ALSO KNOWS IT WRONG. ALL YOU CAN DO NOW IS LET THE PIECES FALL AS THEY MAY. PEOPLE MAKE MISTAKES.....AND THEY NEED TO LEARN THEIR OWN LESSON. BE A GOOD FRIEND AND JUST BE THERE WHEN IT ALL GOES TO HELL. GOOD LUCK TO YOU AND YOUR FRIEND. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

peanutgirl	I would say NO! She is only setting herself and other people up for a lot of hurt. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

tersey562	You don't have to support her, that's up to you. If she asks if you approve, be sure to tell her that you don't, and that what goes around comes around. Also, don't lie to people for her and facilitate her deceitfulness. Ask her if she is thinking of the wife of the man she is fooling around with and put herself in her shoes. She will certainly feel pretty bad when the wife finds out! If she decides to continue tell her you don't want to hear about it, him or anything to do with it. Good luck to you and God Bless. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

The Weasel	that's pretty selfish of her. here she is getting out of a bad marriage yet she's causing/or will cause a bad marriage for some other woman. granted the other couple may have problems already (what married couple doesn't?) but she's contributing more. maybe she shouldn't be so needy. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

bina64davis	I would not support, but I would not stop being her friend. But, if she ever wants to talk about it, just tell her you don't agree with it, you think it's wrong, and you don't want to discuss anything about it with her. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

Starla_C	No, you should discourage her from continuing the relationship. She and the man are both STILL MARRIED! What she is doing is very, very wrong! Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

bobbi	If your friend is doing something that goes against your beliefs, you don't have to support it. It doesn't mean that you can't still be friends though. Just let her know you don't agree with it, therefore would rather not be involved in it in any way. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

Why not me	I wonder the same thing myself, but it good to see that you are being a true friend. Talk to her let her know how you feel, don't encourage it if you don't agree with it. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

bjmarchini	no. You should discourage it. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

just me	No....this is never the right decision. If she wants some one else she needs to divorce and find some one who is unattached. Tell her she is still your friend but you cannot approve of this. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

wwwdardar	You don't support her at all. You tell her you don't want to hear anything about your affair to this marry man. Ask her where did her morals go.Ask her do you feel safe with a married man because you where married for so long. Tell her every married man is not good, just because there married. And let her know that there are lots of single men who don't want a comment, if that's why she with this married man, no comment. Or is she just checking this married man out and wants to know why married men cheat. There's lots of reasons why women like married men. She going to get paid back. But you don't support her on that. She a big girl and she knows what she doing. Tell her you don't want nothing to do with that. A good friend will stand up to whats right. And your friend is wrong. Tell her to call up Dr. Laura C. Schlessinger in tell her this or you call and ask this question. she one 640am 12noon-3pm Mon-Fri southern ca time. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

harleychickfatboy	I would never support a home wrecker! Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

Nothing but the truth...!!	Maybe you should remind her of the hurt, or better yet, let the wife know and let her remind her. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

brandi	omg, that is crazy! Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

Poppet	No you do not support her. Tell her you don't want to hear about her new romance unless to hear that it is over. Don't go to functions with her if she is bringing her BF. Put your foot down, for your own piece of mind and code of conduct. Do NOT let those bad vibes into your life, it is contagious. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

kimmar83	A married man is safer. He probably won't push for any committment which she is afraid of anyway right now. Remind her that your shoulder will be there for her to cry on later...she definitely will be needing it. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

Rawrrrr	I wouldn't support her decision. Not only is it wrong and awful, but she should know the problems it causes and the drama that will ensue. There are so many single guys out there, there isn't any reason she needs to be with another woman's husband. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

aj1964	I would discourage her from becoming a home wrecker. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

Bubba	i would not support this, you should tell her to put herself in the position of the man's wife, how terrible it would be to find this out, your friend is undoubtedly suffering from low self esteem, help her to see that she is better than this and deserves to be more than the "other woman" Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No