Cheated on my wife what can i do?

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nonameblonde	If you were the big man when you nailed her sister, you should be the big man and fess up. That is the lowest. Her sister is a piece of sh*t too. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

Evol	Well you already ruined what you had. If your wifes sister would do something like that to her sister then I would be scared of what she is capable of doing if you try to distance yourself from her or if ou tell her your going to tell your wife. The fact that she slept with her sisters husband is probably just the tip of the iceberg as far as her mental status is concerned. Your no prize either so grab those balls that got you into this mess and tell her. Then run out and hire a lawyer. Your gonna need one. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

kittykatsback	I am sorry that is just gross. Yeah might be the first time but obviously you wanted "the prettier sister" for a while now. You deserve each other. You already "ruined" it when you put your willy in her sister. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

TokyoGirl	If it was some random girl, then there would be a chance that you could keep it quiet, but this is your wife's sister. There's an 90% chance that she'll either mention this at some point or will try to keep the affair going. Don't instantly take her word that she won't say anything, as you don't know what tomorrow will bring or how she may feel about it later. I think that you need to seek couple's therapy right now, even if you don't tell your wife about the sex. Being drunk doesn't mean that you are automatically going to cheat on your wife. In fact, that actually shows me that there are a lot of unresolved problems going on in this marraige that need to be addressed. If you were really happy in the relationship you never would have slept with anyone other than your wife, even if you were stinking drunk. I'm actually pretty doubtful that you'll be able to keep this quiet, not under these circumstances. Even if you do, I think that you'll buckle under the guilt & start sabotauging your own relationship. That's why (again) I really think that you need to start couple's therapy (and drinking less should really help as well). EDIT: Ok, so her sister wasn't drunk & did it for "fun". That's a huge warning sign right there. What's to stop her from thinking it's "fun" later to tell her sister or to keep her from regretting it & telling her sister about it? For that matter, she could also think that it's fun to blackmail you into doing things for (or to) her & threaten to tell her sister. If she's sleazy enough to sleep with her sis's hubby, she's sleazy enough to do just about anything. You need to come clean & tell your wife. I know that you don't want to hurt her, but the second that you slept with her sister you started hurting her & your marraige. The longer you wait, the more it is going to hurt her. Let her know what happened & that you were drunk. Tell her that it is never going to happen again & that you are not going to drink that much EVER again. Seek couple's therapy together. Let the sister know that you are telling your wife what happened & that you will tell her that you claimed to not be drunk. You are going to have to come clean eventually. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

ron s	deal with the guilt yourself you whiney cheater. you went out and did this thing so you suffer through it and never ever tell your wife about it, that just takes the guilt off you and puts it all on her, so be a man and deal with you feelings and get on with life and never do it again, if you love her you will not ruin her life with this Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

Kate	Oh Lord, you have stepped in it now, son. OK, normally I'd say confess and try to recommit to the marriage, but in this case, you are not only destroying her relationship and trust with you, but with her own sister. I don't think I could handle news like this - I could always divorce the husband, but what to do with the sister? My gut is to keep quiet on this one (and for god's sake, that means stop talking to your friends about it! One of them is going to rat you out one day otherwise.) Good luck, Kate Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

snoopy	what a horrible betrayal on both of your parts... and two years is a lifetime to some people. your best thing to do would be to tell her and get your stuff together. maybe you'll learn from this... Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

April	You cant keep it a secret. Yes she will be PISSED at you and probably even more at her sister. God knows i would. Talk to your wife remember you took the vowes and now u need to keep them. Offer to go to councleing or something but u need to tell her she will find out sooner or later. Better to do it now b4 her sister takes her on jerry springer to telll her Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

Heather J	Tell her. I am a wife and I have forgiven my husband, but it's not as easy to forgive when you find out through someone else. Tell her straight out. She will find out eventually, and keeping it from her will only make her feel more hurt because you hid it from her. Don't do this to your wife, don't make a fool out of her. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

michelle	I agree with the first person who answered this!!! I hope she beats your sorry @$%! And her skanky sisters! Thats low dude. I hate cheaters with a passion. Your a messed up individual. I would also like to know why you were drunk at a party with her sister? Where was your wife? Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

iekika	i think it's best if you tell her. she could find out some other way and it would probably far uglier that way. i also think it'll be worse if you wait too long to tell her. you guys did what you did and need to take responsibility for it. it's not fair to your wife if you don't tell her. people always talk about protecting someone by not telling them things, but i think it's a load of crap. i personally wouldn't take being drunk as an excuse for it happening, or any excuse for that matter. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

x2000	Don't all secrets like this eventually come out? Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

RAINBOW	o.m.g. nothing would excuse that!!!!!!!!I would want to know if I was her,you broke your marriage vows !!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

liam_smit2000	sorry pall ur damd if you do and your damd if you dont Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

Lala	if you love her you'll tell her Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

morggie2004	I'd suggest that you be the one to tell her, it sounds like enough people know that in the end she will find out anyway. Additionally, don't you think she deserves to know? Shame on you for putting yourself in the situation to begin with, but all you can do now is come clean and pick up whats left of the pieces and try to put them back together. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

tls	Guess what? She will find out, if may not be today but she will. So if I were you I would tell her. You may lose a wife but you have a better chance of keeping her if you tell her. What if he sister tells her because she can't take it anymore? She is a slut and you are a a**hole and you both deserve what you get but that is besides the fact. I feel bad for he because not only can she not trust her husband she can't trust her own sister. What a loser! Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

byric55	Can you live with the guilt, if so hope noone else tells her. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

wihntr	NICE!!! Buddy you are so toast. You better tell her now and beg for forgiveness. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

jen	tell her. itll come back to haunt you+ Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

jukeb0xqirl	Honesty is the best thing. It'll hurt worse when she finds out on her own. She might be able to live with it or she might not. It's your choice to be honest with her or not. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

:: Coast.al	If your friends know, that means her Sisters friends know, which likely means that it will get back to her. You have to be honest and own up to what you've done. Chances are she will be mad, real mad.. but thats her right. She may even leave you, but again, that's her right. You made vows to your Wife only 2 years ago... and you have broken those vows. She will find out eventually, maybe not for a few months, but she will... and it will be twice as bad if she finds out from someone else. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

miss alyss	And keep it a secret from her the rest of your lives??? i think not. personally. i think you need to come clean. plain and simple. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

mezwood	Damn, you messed up...BAD. Spill it to her NOW and she MIGHT forgive you since you told her. If you keep it a secret it will eat at you for the rest of your life. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

Sweets	You need to stop using your dick and start using your balls. TELL HER Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

ForeverAnAngel	You need to tell her - just imagine how much worse it would be if she found out on her own. Sorry and I agree with the three responders above me - it is really low of you to do. Cheating with a stranger is the ultimate betrayal, doing it with someone's sister is far far worse. You'd better hope that your wife is a forgiver. She'd be much better then me if she is because I'd kick your butt out the door so fast... Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

The One, The Only Krandazzo!	pack your bags your done! not only did you cheat it was with her sister thats like a slap in the face Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

mac	Be a man and tell her and then be prepared to get your a s s whooped. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

Islander	Who is worse you or that skanky sister? I hope it eats you both up inside. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

Amy W	Oh something bad IS going to happen. That is LOW. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

BENZQUEEN19	you should definately tell her.. and then I HOPE SHE LEAVES YOUR SORRY ***! Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No