Writing a letter to a rapist's sister?

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CJ	When I was in school I had a friend named Chuck. Chuck had a friend named Mike, and they both went out with 2 girls one night named Sam and Danielle. Chuck and Mike were rude to Sam and Danielle that night, so Sam and Danielle went to school the next day and said that they were raped by Chuck and Mike. Chuck and Mike were then beat up by a group of about 10 guys at my school, and hospitalized. 2 weeks later, I was walking down the street towards a party, and ran into Chuck outside...holding hands with Sam. Just 2 weeks later, while his black eyes were still fresh and obvious. Sam admit that they were never raped, and now Sam was hopelessly in love with Chuck so they dated for about a year and eventually broke up. Danielle admit about a month later that they did in fact make the story up because they were mad about something Mike said and Chuck laughed at. Basically the girls were looking for attention and the only thing more popular to lie about in high school, aside from being pregnant, is getting raped. For some reason, girls like attention from people, and those 2 things usually do the trick. Your friend may have been raped, but its more likely that she was not. The odds say that majority of the time, when a teenager says they were raped, they were not. Rape cases should be taken seriously because you never know when someone could actually be telling the truth...but since you don't have any proof that it actually occured, and since she refuses to press charges or take action...chances are its not true. Im not saying shes a liar, she could be telling the truth, but based on the way you explained it, there is a higher percentage of likelihood that she was never raped in the first place. If you had a headache were worried it was a brain tumor, I would say "the likelihood of it being a brain tumor is slim to none". But you wouldn't give me thumbs down for that, but yet I have 2 thumbs down, so "rapist" is obviously a touchy subject and statistics obviously dont mean a thing to most people. If a girl says she was raped, thats the truth every time. Nevermind all the statistics. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

Specialist Done Wrong	Go ahead and write it. Also consider, that if she should press charges she should do it as soon as possible to the occurrence of the event. Laws are different state by state. Look up the laws in your area. Certain places, most of them I believe, make it so that the both the victim and the assailant cannot speak about the case while it is being processed and charges are being filed. Here's a few sites: Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

MKultra	You might better persuade your friend to write the letter, or better still make an official complaint to the police. It's not impossible after a year that the crime could be effectively charged, but EVERYONE who knows him and your friend would know what he is and what your friend suffered. That's probably what your friend is afraid of and why you are fighting for her. I think you know you need to do something, at the very least write a letter to his sister or persuade your friend to say what happened to her family and the authorities... Possibly the only thing worse than knowing she was raped is her being the only person knowing she was raped and it eating her up for the rest of her life. That's not a secret to keep... Good for you for sticking up for your friend btw. I think you should check with your firiend before you write a letter to the rapists sister as it may start all the above. I hope she lets you write it. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

Shayla	ITS NOT A BAD IDEA~DO IT! Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

Allison B	I think you should right the damn letter his sister has every right to know about this and who the **** cares if it pisses her off? she should still kno and as for your friend you need to really support her and even talk to her about counseling and you should really try to convince her to press charges Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

hailey998	From experience, I would advise her to be quiet about it. I told one person and the worst happened, everyone knew by the next day! I know it sounds ridiculous, but think about it, everyone will have an opinion about it, whether it's the truth, whether it's a lie, they will judge for themselves, human nature, and even though she's likely to be telling the truth, it is traumatizing in high-school, and the girls sat outside at lunch, and whenever I walked by they would sing "Liar, liar, pants on fire..." and it was brutal. Nothing even will come of it, he'll be expelled, but no jail time...not in Canada anyway. Revenge would be feel better, to sodomize him with a broom would ensure he never did it again, and no peer attention would be brought up to upset the victim even further, imagine, no added drama and justice combined...but we rather bury our heads in the dirt, right? Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

KnottyGirl	You should go to the cops, not the rapists sister. Kids at school shouldn't find out, considering she is a minor. I don't know if they cops can even do anything at this point since its been so long. Also talk with your school counselor, they may be able to help your friend out. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

Coors	Let me see if I understand you are writing to a rapist who raped someone not you on her behalf. You are doing this because you feel the victim of this rape shouldn’t let it go. Who the hell are you to interject yourself into this ? If you didn’t rape her and you aren’t the rapist the outcome is really none of your business. If the victim chooses to torture herself with the memory until she dies that’s her business not yours. And why in gods name would you even suggest involving the rapist’s sister. I find it difficult to believe you care about the victim of this rape more then you care about creating moralistic drama on your behalf and what you believe. Why don’t you go out and rent the movie gossip, consider the outcome and leave the victim alone. What you are suggesting is wrong, while you may care you aren’t the victim or the rapist and you’ve not right to force either into a dialog. I think it’s a tragedy when a rape victim doesn’t report it but I find the consequences worse when someone else takes it upon them selves to bring about an idea of vigilante justice. All you’ll do is hurt the victim, the sister of this person and you’ll do nothing to the rapist To suggest you write this damming and humiliating letter with out your name attached only confirms how wrong this would be. It's a digusting idea and you need to not to do it. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

MelS	Why write a letter to his sister? Why torment her with, most likely, guilt and horror at what her brother did? Did she help or hide him in some way that she deserves such treatment? And what exactly would that do other than upset her? Go to the police station or a school counselor or something and tell them what happened. There is protecting your friend's confidence and then there is preventing this sicko from raping more girls. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

*~~Diana~~*	go to the cops or something not to the boys sister, his sister cant really do anything about it Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

Cara G	BAD IDEA!!!! its not her fault what her brother doe. Go to a school authority or something dont drag her into this. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

sensible_man	Forget it. You may be the one facing charges in court. She could file harassment charges against you. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

xo_sandy	Don't do it...it will definitely blow up in your face...no doubt! It's up to your friend if she presses charges...not you. This is called "transference." In other words, don't project your feelings on your friend. Your friend is doing exactly what she is capable of doing at this time. Don't bring attention to it. If so, it could be devastating. Instead focus on being a good friend and just being there for her. When she's ready, you can offer to take her to counseling. If you continue to push her...she'll break away from you then she'll be isolated. It might be years before she is ready to truly face what happened. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

nobody special	There is no point in writing to his sister. Go talk to your school counselor and let her know what is going on and she can steer you on the best course of action. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No