Serious question: My crazy stalker ex has been charged with harrassment of me.....?

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nosdda	You could phone him and tell him that if he ever sends any further letters to you then you will report him to the Police for breaking his Bail conditions. DO NOT WRITE BACK. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

obanpussyginger2	if you feel threatened or intimidated tell the police another approach would be to inform your solicitor, ask him to approach your ex's council to dissuade him from making further contact Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

Cindy W	If the specific court order says not to contact you whatsoever, then maybe. However, the clearest and most beneficial thing that you can do, regardless of a bail order or what-have-you is to file a restraining order and maintain that restraining order until he is in custody (incarceration). Some of these nuts are absolutely way out there and they may seem so very nice until they lose control and will do 'whatever it takes' to regain control. Bear in mind that I have read a number of letters that had "if I can't have you, then no one will," contained within those notes. So, good luck and follow through. The worst thing you can do for yourself is let your guard down, then the courts will not take you seriously when the abuse continues and gets worse. Take a look at the OJ Simpson case for example. I know for a fact in one of those cases, she (Nicole Brown Simpson) backed off of one of her allegations and from that point on, it is like you are crying wolf and wasting the police's time. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

Yahoo	Yes, of course you go yet again to the police. If you don't he will probably see this a sign that you want to get back with him and you will be giving him the wrong signals. I know the stalker type and believe me, if you want him out of your life, you can't be subtle or inconsistent. If he has broken his bail conditions by contacting you by letter (even though it was not threatening) then he has broken his bail conditions and has to face the consequences. Make sure you get a restraining order too (though if he breaks his bail conditions he will probably break that too). If he breaks the restraining order, then that is taken very seriously by the courts and there is a maximum jail sentence of 5 years (in UK). Whatever you do, do not make contact with him AT ALL EVER. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

Brian	You're not a nasty person Steph, it's hard for you to report this to the police but if you don't he will take advantage of your kindness. He will think there is still a chance - I think you should pass the letter to the police. Only then will he know it is completely over Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

leopardshaz	Yes as it is still harassment. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

joan k	Yes take it to the Police as soon as possible. You can never know with these people what will come next Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

CheesyWotsit	Contact the police and use his letter as evidence! Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

Kevin	Yes, you need to. Take the letter with you and file a report. This guy went to jail for this stuff and still hasn't got the message. Sounds dangerous and if you do nothing the next contact may be him at the door. He needs help. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

Ian UK	Yes, go to the Police and take the letter with you as evidence of contact. Keep the letter safe and preferably in a bag so no one else will be able to touch it. This will preserve the fingerprints of your ex so that they can be found if he denies sending the letter. The only way your are going to get rid of your ex and stop him harassing you is to keep highlighting to the Police when he's contacted you so that necessary action can be taken. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

Chipmunk	Yes I think you should. If you don't he might think you are relenting, but if you continuously report any contact he makes he will eventually get the message you're not going to give in to him. It is better to report any correspondence now in case the situation gets worse. Good luck xx. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

old fuzz	Yes, do so at once. If you do not, then the stalker sees this as positive sign and it encourages him to continue to go after you. Sometimes stalkers have to be beaten with a shovel to get the idea. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

girthlovesbeer	i would go to the police! dont know how far his stalking has gone but you dont know what will happen next if you do meet him Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

carswoody	YES YES YES.....Tell the police. He will never stop otherwise. The police have helped you by taking him to court, dont undo all the hard work they have done and the suffering you have had by meeting this idiot. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

Chadders	The only way is to keep reporting any attempted contact with you. He is breaching his conditions of bail. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

Skidoo	The mere fact that he is writing to you shows that he is not respecting you or the terms of his bail. Do not contact him and do take the letter to the police again - it is a serious offense. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

divnlurch	Yes by all means go to the police with the letter, they'll revoke his bail, and back to jail he goes!! Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

♥Stormy Sanchez♥	Yes you should really, as every breech will tot up eventually, if you don't you might regret it in the future if a more sinister form of contact happens, like phone calls etc. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

Baby Berry mad for mummy juice	yes, and show them the letter as evidence otherwise he will think he can still get away with this kind of thing - think of him as a child - he needs to get a consistent message from you that it is OVER and ANY attempts to contact you, nice or otherwise will be dealt with through the correct legal procedures, good luck xx Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No