Would you continue with an adoption if the child might be biracial?

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Brittany	I have a beautiful biracial son who means the world to me. I also got pregnant at seventeen with him and his father also decided he wasnt ready to be a father. But if you think for one second that I would change having my beautiful brown eyed baby boy you have another thing coming. I cant believe that anyone could think that because the baby may be a baby that is half of another race that the baby will not be a perfect blessing from God. My son saved me from making some of the stupidest mistakes I could have made. I dont believe that God makes mistakes. I believe that this child will be a blessing in disguise for someone. I think that you should really think about this baby who doesnt have a choice in the matter of its own life and then think about your own children if you have any and consider that this child is no different. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

dreamchild	Yes. If you want to adopt a child it shouldn't matter in the all. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

Helena B	of course i would cuz im not a racist and sexist. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

Freckle Face	Offended by this question, how could you even ask? If you have to ask this question then you should NOT raise this child. She/he deserves better. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

Opedial	I am not understanding the issue. This if family, so the question is whether you want to help this young relative out or not. First of all, could you consider trying to help her raise the child? Instead of adopting the child, could you let the mother live with you and assist her? Could you help in other ways? If she does still want to not parent, why does is matter to you if the child is bi-racial? Even having you ask the question makes me uncomfortable about you raising a child of diverse culture. The child is your family, what different does skin colour mattter? And why would you adopt...why not guardianship. I would go back and do some thinking on this, and the LAST question that you should be thinking right now is what colour the child's skin would be. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

♥♥Rita♥♥	"Would you continue with an adoption if the child might be biracial?" Yes, I would. Boy?? Yes I would Girl?? Yes I would Not sure why race or gender would be an issue...... So, you adopt the baby, or the baby is aborted.... I am having a bit of a time balancing those two... Would I adopt the child?? Yes...hands down. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

Jennifer M	I would and I have. If you are concerned that for any reason you might not be the appropriate parent to this child, then you shouldn't adopt him/her. To me, race isn't an issue, but I do think that there is an extra layer of cultural awareness you need to have to parent a biracial child. If you don't have that or aren't prepared to accept both sides of the child's heritage, then I don't think you're the right fit as a parent. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

Crucio	Seeing that I am bi-racial myself I would have no problem adopting a bi-multi-racial child. Why were you ok with adopting the baby before you knew the baby might be bi-racial? I am sorry that is racist. What do you call it when you say you’d adopt the baby if its all white but not take the baby if its ½ white and ½ black ( or 1/2 Asian ,whatever the other half is) Then you take it even further and basically say well if the baby was a bi-racial girl you would consider adopting the baby but not if it is a bi-racial boy. You also make a stereotypical remark about the baby’s possible father implying basically that since the father is a minority that its no surprise he is a no show. There are fathers of all races who are no shows. Since it seems your niece has at least two possible fathers unless she gets a dna test done before the baby is born there is no way to know for sure if the baby is bi-racial or not. To be honest I would not even recommend having you adopt this baby regardless if it’s bi-racial or white. Your attitude is clearly not going to be a good environment for a child of mixed raced heritage. You have clear stereotype view against the possible minority father in this case (the child's other half), you are also board line racist. I am sorry if you think your not but you clearly are. This is just like someone saying “Oh I’m not racist but I would never want my son/daughter to date someone outside our race.” If the baby is white how would he/she feel one day to find out that had she or he been bi-racial you would not have adopted him/her. Had he been bi-racial you wouldn’t have adopted him but had he been a she and bi-raical you would have. Thats almost likes saying well if you had had red hair and not blonde I wouldn’t have wanted you. Had you had blue eyes and not brown eyes I wouldn’t have wanted you. The mother should try and find some other family to adopt surely you must have someone else a distant cousin. If that can’t be found then the baby would probably be better of returning to the Lord, if she is unwilling to look outside the family. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

Jennifer L	It wouldn't be an issue for me. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

Isabel A	Is this for real? Honey, the year is 2009. If you didn't notice, a "biracial" man is about to become the leader of our country. Get over yourself and your prejudices and please don't adopt anybody until you start living in the present and learn that being a racist is not a nice way to live. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

parsely	If the bi-racial bit bothers you, then I would find a couple of good loving sets of parents with bi-racial children who are willing to adopt this baby and hook them up with this relative of yours. I can understand her desire to keep the child in the family but is it realistic? My friends adopted their best friends grand-daughters child. She gets to see him all the time because the families are always hanging around each other. So who knows ask around she may find a exception to the only relatives rule. Don't take on something you do not think you can handle. It won't be good for you or for the child. And please continue to support her decision to adopt. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

Randy B	There are many who would not have an issue with it so I respectfully suggest that if you do then let someone else adopt the child. It's just that simple. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

StupidSquirell	You need to ask yourself if you would be comfortable with it? I personally think that the love for a child is colorless, but considering the fact that you are having to ask means you are having hesitation. What would be your reason for not going through with it just because the baby COULD be biracial? If you are not comfortable with it, then you will just make the childs life rough as the child grows up. Maybe if you can't find it in your heart you should find someone else in the family to adopt the child. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

starbocj	It is not the child's fault so why not adopt. I know in the area I live in if you see a biracial child with a couple most think the woman was stepping out on the hubby but I do live in a small rural area and if I wanted a child then it would not matter what others said or thought. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

samantha w	The child's color isn't important... having a loving parent is what is... If you feel you could not adopt this child because it may be of color, then I think you shouldn't adopt. But tell your relative, abortion isn't the answer.. I am sure that in a 20 mile radius of her there are at least 100 couples who would love the opportunity to adopt any child.. i only wish i had someone offer me this opportunity.. i'd jump at the opportunity to have a chance to adopt a child... God bless Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

Swedish milkmaid	Yes, I'm biracial and I was adopted So yes I would Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

★✌Muse☮★	If you want to be racist and not take care of a baby that would obviously be just as great as a non-biracial baby, then go ahead. But inform your young relative that she should still go through with it, then give the baby to an adoption center. I'm pro-choice, but that's a dumb reason to abort. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

Mom to Foster Children	"Now I am not sure" - why? "But the child could be a boy, maybe if it were a girl" - are you opposed to only girls? "I am not racist and she only wants family to raise her child" - then what's the question? "the father is a no show (to surprise there) no she is thinking about abortion unless family adopts" - he still needs to consent to the adoption! Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

Not So Run Of The Mill	Why would that matter to you? Or to anyone for that matter? If you're not racist, why do you care? The only race that anyone should even acknowledge is the HUMAN race. And to answer you're question, I most certainly would adopt a child if he/she were biracial. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

amanda	Yes, it doesn't matter the race of the child. That child deserves to be loved and taken care of regardless of it's race. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

monkeykitty83	There are a couple of different issues here, not entirely pertaining to the original question. Would I adopt a biracial child? Yes, definitely. But that's different than whether YOU should adopt a biracial child. The fact you're even asking this question suggests to me that you probably aren't prepared to. The fact you're having such a big concern about race makes me think that trans-racial adoption is not for you. Are you prepared to raise a child who is visibly different from you, and still nurture him/her as your own? Are you prepared to help him/her celebrate and appreciate the parts of his/her heritage that are different than your own? Are you prepared that your child would face racism at some point, and you'll be called upon to help him/her deal with the emotional consequences? Are you able to accept the fact that no matter what you do, your child may struggle with being a different race than his/her adoptive parents? If you would honestly answer "No" to any of those questions, you shouldn't adopt trans-racially. Don't do it to prove a point about how "accepting" you are, or how "diverse" your family is. Trans-racial adoption has challenges, and your heart truly has to be in working through those challenges. If you can't love, cherish, and nurture a biracial child to the same extent you would love, cherish, and nurture a child you gave birth to, please don't adopt this child. Your full energy will need to be focused on parenting, not sorting through your own racial baggage. If the fact this child is biracial would prevent you from giving him/her your whole heart, and loving him/her completely, please don't adopt this child. Let the child be parented by someone who CAN love him/her entirely and without reservations. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

shiffette21	Yes. If you want to adopt a child it shouldn't matter in the least. I don't think being a seemingly different race than your parents is really that outside of the norm anymore. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

The Bad	If you are even considering NOT adopting the child for such a STUPID, TRIFLING reason, then you really don't deserve the love that child could give you. I found out that my parents adopted me and one of my sisters, but refused to adopt the other sister because she was bi-racial. I no longer speak to them because I do not want their RACIST influence in my little boys life. I would happily adopt the child and he or she would never know they were not my child. And it isn't as if I NEED a child, I am pregnant with # 2 as I sit here and type. But EVERY child deserves to be loved, not matter what!! What does it matter if the child is a boy or a girl??? And how exactly are you not racist??? You are considering not adopting a child because of it's race. That is the very DEFINITION of racist!!! Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

~Proud Mama of 3~	so you would let her abort the child if its biracial?? I think she should just find a loving family who would adopt her baby, regardless of their ethnicity. As a mother of 1 biracial daughter, and two white children, I would never treat my daughter any different just because she's biracial. If you want to adopt the baby...adopt the baby because you'd love it like it was your own...and because you love children.... And so what if it is biracial?? Whats so wrong with that?? Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

kateiskate	Well I really do not believe that someone who is concerned so much about the baby's physical appearance is ready to adopt any child, biracial or not. If you are for some reason not able to provide for a biracial child the same as you would be a White child, you should tell her to either keep her child, give it to a more tolerant family member, or abort. You might be a little racist if the only reason you don't want the kid is because it might be biracial. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

DevonChaos	If you want to love a child, it shouldn't matter the gender, age, or race. I can't believe that this would stop anyone from adopting. What is the big deal? Perhaps instead of taking her baby, you could help this young lady keep her child. Give her moral support, and be a mentor. ETA: Be honest with yourself though, if your issues with race are going to prevent you from being able to fully care for this child, perhaps you should look toward another more open minded, less racially concerned relative. This baby deserves the best. Not someone who is going to see colors everytime you look at them. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

Alyssa's mommy	I wouldn't care what race/gender/etc the child was. There is nothing wrong with being biracial. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

tish_part deux	please don't. this child doesn't deserve living in a home with adults who have race issues... ETA: "i am not racist..." "rac·ism (rā'sĭz'əm) Pronunciation Key n. Discrimination or prejudice based on race. " --------------------------------------... according to webster's you are...if it walks like a duck... QUACK!!!! ps. her reproductive health decision have nothing to do with you. if she wants to terminate her pregnancy, support her decision...especially since you can't handle the possiblity of a bi-racial baby... Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

Flying Monkey #073177	Lemme make sure I got this right. If the child is white you will take it and be happy regardless of it's gender. If it is biracial you will take it and love it only if it is a female. Buy into racial stereotypes do you? Wow. How vain and shallow of you. Obviously you aren't ready to commit to an adoption. You appear to be wanting a custom tailored child that will fit with YOUR needs. Not cool. This is a person we are talking about, not a puppy or a plaything. Your priorities are appalling. Either direct this young lady to a reputable abortion clinic or assist her in parenting her child. You are not ready to take on this task at the current time. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

Linny G	Looks like the young relative needs to pick another relative. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

Dowler R	why would race be a factor in this if you were going to adopt before you found out about this then it would be a really cruel thing to stop just because the kid might be biracial i mean do you know you yourself probably wouldnt be here if somewhere back in your ancestry somebody decided they didnt want a biracial baby there is no such thing as a pure race Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No