What would you do if YOU HAD NO OTHER CHOICE abortion or adoption?

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kribbie	People just don't understand how traumatic abortion really is. It's terrible to live with wondering how they would have turned out. I regret it to this day, knowing I could have blessed another family with such a great gift instead of being afraid and making the choice I thought would be best at the time. I am pro choice, but it comes at a price, remember that. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

Hermione	What an awful awful choice - I think both of them would kill me. I suppose sitting here I'd say abortion but both options would haunt me for the rest of my life and I'd probably never get over either of them - its the stuff of nightmares. Very similar to Sophie's Choice. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

Jennifer L	I can't imagine any situation where I would not find a way, moving heaven or earth, to parent my child. I was in a teenage crisis pregnancy before. Where there's a will, there's a way. But since this is a hypothetical question, I'll just roll with it. Other than the most extreme, dire and life threatening circumstances, I would never, never have an abortion. I'm only speaking about how -I- would feel if I had an abortion. I would think that I murdered my child. I could not live with that. Some people here say that they had an abortion and moved on with it, that's fine. I know there's no way I could do that. ETA: Hmmm.... So, if a "pro-choice" person shows dislike (in this case, a TD) because someone in a crisis pregnancy would make a choice NOT to have an abortion because of their personal feelings on the subject, can they still call themselves "pro choice"? After all, aren't you supposed to be supporting a woman's rights to look at the facts and examine her own heart and make up her own mind? Or are you only pro choice when it's a choice YOU would have made? Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

Lindsay	I can't wait for the day that abortion is no longer as controversial of an issue as it is now. It makes me angry that people choose to be so ignorant. At this point, I would have an abortion, which absolutely is a way of taking responsibility for one's actions. 'Slutty' women that don't use any type of protection are not the only one's that seek out abortions, even so, sex isn't a crime. I do not think it would be a selfish choice for me because I would be considering the life that I would be giving to that possible child, as well as how it would affect everyone else in my life. I could provide much better for one in the future where I actually could take care of it properly. And adoption is not an alternative to an unwanted pregnancy. I couldn't live with the guilt of giving my kid away and wondering about him/her forever. There really is no harm done with an early abortion, no pain considering it would be before the brain is developed enough to receive and send pain signals. I wouldn't be sorry either. http://www.imnotsorry.net/ It is a woman's right to choose (abortion, adoption, parenting), keep your judgments to yourself! BTW Great answer Laurel J Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

LaraSue	Adoption. I don't believe in abortion for myself. But I don't believe in telling someone else they can't have one. But for me.....my choice would be adoption. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

Sarah	abortion, I couldn't have a child and then hand it over to someone else, it would be too hard Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

Laurel J	I'd abort. Speaking only for myself, I couldn't live with myself if I gave up my own child because I know how it feels to be given away. Babies and children are not aborted, embryos are. Something too undeveloped to feel pain is not murdered when it is destroyed and it has no "right" to live that overrides a woman's choice whether or not to start a family. Eggs are not chickens, acorns are not oak trees, and I don't owe anyone a baby just because they want one badly. And yes, many women get over abortions and get right on with their lives; I did. "Post-abortion syndrome" is a lie. The "breast cancer link" is a lie. The "you'll never get pregnant again" lie is guess what, a lie. Different women react to different situations in different ways, so anyone who tells you abortion always makes a woman feel X is full of feces. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

Not Adopted	I'd start looking at bridges..... Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

lemon x3	Abortion. :S Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

Heather B	If those were the only two choices, I'd abort myself Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

C Wood	NO answer given you by any woman here will be valid. Why? Because, until it comes down to the wire, any woman would swing back and forth and noone knows ahead of time what her final decision would actually be. While the women may give you an answer, your question is not their current reality, and in the real situation, they might well do the opposite of what they think right now that they would do. That's because this is such a hard decision, and depends on what the emotional upheavals are during such a decision, and what kind of support system the woman has. cw Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

lulu	Abortion. I'd rather not pop out a watermelon at this age thanks :)♥ Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

magic pointe shoes	Suicide. If the child can survive nine months in utero with me, than it's enough time to come up with a plan and get my stuff together to parent. If it is indeed as dire as you say where my child couldn't survive with me, than my life is not worth living. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

Possum	Abortion. I would never put a child through being separated from me. I went through it. It's a cruel life to have to live. Babies want their mummies. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

Yarr	I'd choose abortion. But I'd never want to be pregnant so I'd always choose abortion (if my BC failed). I doubt I'd be sorry about it because I don't consider a blob of cells a baby and I already thought it out and decided ahead of time that is what I'd do. I read stories from people who got abortions and weren't sorry about it on the site below, I'm 99.9% sure I'd just feel relieved and then go about my life like they did. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

Flying Monkey #073177	SUCK THE LITTLE EFFER DOWN THE MEDICAL WASTE TUBE! Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

Nurse Autumn Intactivist NFP	Abortion, there is no way in hell that I would give one of my children away to be raised by strangers and for them to live the hell that so many adoptee's have experienced Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

PhilM	Why would I only have one of these two options? Which would you rather do if you had no other choice: commit suicide or commit homicide? Your question boils down to the same. I wouldn't do either. If you're saying I have to pick one of those, and only those, I would have an abortion rather than put my child through adoption. Why? Because I've been through adoption as a child, and I wouldn't wish it on anyone else. But frankly, I would move hell and high water to keep my child. Anyone who wanted my child would have to pry him or her from my cold, dead hands. Which is why I cannot imagine ever being in a situation like the one you imagine. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

Philippa	Abortion hands down even though I am pro life. I live every day with being coerced into surrendering and I love my son dearly. I am thankful I have my son in my life but I wouldn't wish it on my worst enemy to go through what I have and will continually live through till the day I die. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

Independ"ant"	"knew this child cannot survive living with you" Knowing or not knowing aside.......if I didn't want to be pregnant.....Abortion. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

Lucinda L	Abortion (as early as possible). I couldn't see my baby then get it taken away from me, it's easier to pretend it never happened with an abortion. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

23 year old texas female married	Abortion because adoption would literally kill me. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

DevonChaos	Abort. I am not going to put any more adoptee's out there. There are too many as it is. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

cantstopLinnyG	Been there, done that, and I had an abortion. For several reasons_ 1. Because I was adopted. I knew the pain of missing my first Mom and how her decision to relinquish me had affected my entire life. I would NEVER do that to another child. 2. Because it is my right, given to me by the Supreme Court of the United States. 3. Because it is not my responsibility as a fertile woman to be a baby factory to an infertile woman. 4. Because abortion has nothing to do with adoption. Abortion is the choice of ending a pregnancy. You cannot adopt a mass of tissue. Adoption is the choice not to parent. Women who chose to have abortions would never consider adoption, so the point is usually mute. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

chielu c	The question should be would a woman choose pregnancy or abortion. No woman can know if she will keep her child or surrender it to strangers until after the child is born, and even then it can take months for her to truly know if she and/or the father have the means to parent their child. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

Carol c	I would never, ever place a child for adoption after having lost my only child that way. You live a life constantly wondering if your child is alive and well and knowing that he will always probably wonder why his first mother gave him up. What was wrong with him? At least with abortion there is closure and you can eventually get on with your life. Until you know where and how your child is -life is a living hell. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

Anha S	abortion, hands down. Having lived adoption, have no desire to force my offspring into it. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

kateiskate	If I had an abortion, I'd have closure and my embryo would never have to develop into a human being to have to experience the pain of being unwanted by me. Seems better for both of us that way to me. eta: I just wanted to add that I personally find it selfish to bring a child to term because of your personal religious beliefs in the instance you will turn around and abandon it and leave it with a lifetime of pain and emotional turmoil. Way to force your religious views on others. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

xAimee's Mummyx	Abortion. I just wouldn't be able to hold me child and then let her go. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

Lori A	Abortion does not carry as much pain for me as adoption did. Try wondering where your child is, whether they are being fed or treated nice, if they're still alive. I would choose abortion. ETA: No Kristy I'm not joking. You have a bag full of opinions, i have had to make those very real decisions. After you have done what I have, I will give you the benefit of having a voice on the subject. Until then your just another one of those "OH I WOULD NEVER" people. One day that will bite you right in the a**. Maybe not through your own actions, but through someone you love. At that point in time try really hard not to think of me. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No

♥ kay.	I would give the baby to my mother so I could be a part of the child's life. My mother would let me live with her as long as I take care of my own child. In this case, a life wouldn't be terminated or be with strangers. Was this answer helpful to you? Yes / No